I was between 4 and 6 or 7 when this occured and my parents knew about it atleast 2 or 3 times. What I always wonder is why they never explained it to me when i got older. My dad said something to me when i was 5 about never doing it again but do they honestly think they can just pretend it never happened? I have never talked to anyone about this in person. I have told people i know in online forums and such but no one that I know in real life. I feel like it would be easier for me to talk about it if my mom or dad would tell me. However at the same time that talk would be very akward. it just bothers me knowing that they never said anything to me about it.
What do you think/ Feel?
2007-02-03 08:02:55 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You need to get therapy to find closure to this terrible situation. Otherwise it will cause problems for you for the rest of your life. You should confront your parents about it. It is not too late to bring charges against your brother. He may have raped other children, too.
2007-02-03 08:08:20 · answer #1 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's terrible! I was never sexually assaulted by my brothers, but I have been assaulted by older boys (11, 12, 13) when I was younger (about 7 or 8). My parents never really spoke about it with me, perhaps it was because they were too embarassed about it. I didn't really understand what was happening when I was little, but as I got older I started to understand more and I felt disgusted. I eventually went to seek professional help and they really helped me out a lot. If you feel that you need to talk about it with your parents, then do so. If they act like they never knew that happened or they don't want to talk about it, then try to seek professional help. Good luck!
2007-02-03 08:12:46 · answer #2 · answered by *~*RaChAel*~* 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my first ? would be...how did you find out that your bro did that? and at this point...why haven't you questioned him about it?
I have never talked to 'someone' about my molestation when I was 5. I'm very certain my parents didn't know or know even now that it happened. I have not forgotten the person or his name (a teen friend of my older brother) I am 53 now and still remember him and what happened that day as if it happened yesterday.. I had to go 'within myself' and forgive him (I did not have to say it to him, I had to feel it in my heart for me). that's the only way I could go on with a healthy mental life. I've learned to 'let go and let God'...the Amish are a good example of letting go (the killings this last summer) your heart can find no peace if you don't forgive- weather he deserves forgiveness or not....your bro doesn't have to be part of your life if thats 'your choice'.... forgiveness is for 'your' heart-not his....
much love and God bless....
2007-02-03 08:44:37 · answer #3 · answered by willie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your parents think that you were somehow to blame since they told you not to do it anymore. You need badly to get this out in the open with your parents. They need to realize that YOU were a victim. They may hope that you just forgot about the whole thing and that if they brought it up, you'd be traumatized. YOU need to bring it up...and soon.
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2016-10-01 09:15:53 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your pain. I was sexually abused numerous times by family members and friends. My parents still deny it. It is just something you need to find the strength inside yourself to be able to conquer and overcome, if you don't it will affect your relationships for the rest of your life. Therapy is a great option, once you can find therapist you can talk to.
2007-02-03 08:16:54 · answer #6 · answered by crystalslippers2000 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This was your parents fault. Parents are supposed to protect their children no matter what. It sounds like they just turned a blind eye to it. It's also possible that your brother was sexually abused and took it out on you. This is no excuse for his actions, just an example of how your parents probably didn't protect him either.
You need to get therapy to find out how to come to terms with this, and how to express your anger to your parents who let this happen.
I wish you the best of luck. No one should ever need to go through what you've gone through. REMEMBER IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!!!
2007-02-03 09:43:38 · answer #7 · answered by Monica 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
your only like 16 you should go to a therapist before it completely scars you for life and maybe talk to a bff sometime cry on her shoulder yell scream get it all out. And what if that talk is awkward they need to say it you and your family need to talk.
2007-02-03 08:37:00 · answer #8 · answered by iris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you really need to discuss this with your parents. It is definatly serious. You were raped by your brother, and your parents want nothing to do with it? That seems a little raw, and hurtful.
2007-02-03 08:08:08 · answer #9 · answered by Hater 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you really don't remember?
if not you should thank God 'cause i was raped by 2 of my uncles when i was 6 'til i was 12 i told my parents but they never did anything. do not judge your brother try to be nice to him. you have to forget don't wasrte time doing it, don't forget there is a God and he is the only one that can judge people.
2007-02-03 08:14:16 · answer #10 · answered by sara 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋