Recently I had changed my job hours to part time, because I couldn't handle my son (5) being at daycare for such long hours. Everything was going great, until his daycare provider told me she has health problems and can no longer watch any children. Now I have a daycare dilemma. This lady was great and very decently priced. I have interviewed other daycares in the past and I know there are 'crazy' people out there offering daycare. As most parents know it is terrifying leaving your child with some one new. Community daycare is another option, but is extremely expensive compared to private care. If I were to use community daycare I would have to go back to full time. My Husband has told me to stay home with our Son. I would love to do this and I know financially we would be fine. The problem is, I just can't seem to go ahead with it. I just can get over the feeling I will be doing something wrong by not working. Has anyone ever felt this way? What would others do in this situation?
2007-02-03 07:55:19 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Also it will only be until September when he is in school fulltime
2007-02-03 07:56:49 · update #1
If you can just sit tight with your son until september-you get ONE chance to do it-It will be the toughest job you EVER have but the payback is enormous! I nannied for 12 years before having my own, I'm closer to the kids I nannied than their parents and my sons and I are very close due in part to the amount of time I spend with them.
2007-02-03 09:25:11 · answer #1 · answered by bikinibabewannabe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I also was faced with the same dilemma you are now facing. I had a very good job with a major airline when I decided the time I was spending away from my children was time I could not recapture once they got older. I made the decision to be a stay-at-home mom, and did so for many years even after they became school age. There were always those times when they were too sick to go to school, on school holidays, summertime, etc. that made me very glad I took the option to stay home. In my case, I still had to supplement the family income by taking in a couple of other children in my home for daycare. This worked very well for me and I would not trade the extra time it afforded me with my children for anything in the world.
2007-02-03 08:11:10 · answer #2 · answered by deb77jo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it is only until September, why not. It will give you more time with your son before he is gone into the independant world of SCHOOL. If your husband is fine with it then there will be no hard feelings. You can always go back as soon as he enters school. I think it is a great idea to stay home. Your job may even give you a leave of absense and allow you to come back to the same place and position.
2007-02-03 08:01:18 · answer #3 · answered by harvem2000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've heard parents say they regret working so much while their children were young, but I've never heard a mother say she wished she'd work more and spent less time with her children. I think most working moms work because they need the income. I'm staying at home until all my kids are in school. I know I'll go back to work part-time, but for now I get to be with my sons. Just keep yourself busy going to parks, zoos, museums, libraries, etc. And, develop something that stimulates your mind so you don't miss work so much. I started a book club that meets once a month in the evening. Choose something that you'll find rewarding and you won't miss work and you'll enjoy every moment with your son. Best of luck!
2007-02-03 08:15:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely take the offer to work from home. Since your son goes to school soon anyway, you can always go back part-time if you want to. I wish my mom was there when I was young, she was a single mom and had to work but if offered the chance I think she would have stayed home with us. Not a lot of people can afford it these days, of you can. I would. Also since it is a short time, see if you like it. Think of it as some time to spend with your son and time to see if you want to go back to a full time job away from home. I know how hard it is to find quality care, there are a lot of wackos out there. Good luck! I would think of this as a trial run...
2007-02-03 08:02:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will be in a different position in September when he starts school. Why not use community daycare until then? It might be hard to find another job easily in September, if you were to quit your job now.
2007-02-03 08:01:13 · answer #6 · answered by Allan 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your child and your relationship with your child is the most important element here. If I were you I would stay home with him untill he starts school. Then i'd would take a part time job so that I could be home with him all afternoon. It will help a lot with your relationship.
2007-02-03 08:11:15 · answer #7 · answered by Alila 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't have any kids but when I get older I want to. So if I was in your shoes I would stay home with my child at least until he goes to Elementary School. It would probably really fun watching your son grow. You wouldn't miss any important things in his life! Hope you do what is right for you!
2007-02-03 08:00:35 · answer #8 · answered by ~ ♥ ~ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why not just stay home until he starts school? This way, you'll be able to stay with him for the final few months of him being at home. You can use these months to prepare him for school, and also I would imagine it'd be a nice break from work for a few months :-)
2007-02-03 08:01:53 · answer #9 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can afford it, stay home for the next several months and then go back part time once he starts school.
2007-02-03 23:19:06 · answer #10 · answered by KathyS 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋