I'm so Scared of Labour the 2nd Time Round!!?

Question

I had a horrible first time birth with my little boy...I had to be taken to theatre and have forceps as he needed to be rotated. I'd wanted a normal birth more than anything and it all went horribly wrong very quickly. Im pregnant again and as my baby is only 1 the memory of the first time is still fresh in my mind and I'm dreading it. I was never scared of labour with my little boy but now I'm imagining the worst as I feel like it wont or cant go normally because it didn't the first time. Some people have said its the shape of mypelvis that must have caused the difficulty which has convinced me im heading for theatre again. Please tell me some of you ladies had to have forceps and then went on to have normal deliveries!!??

Answer 1

My first labor was 22 hours, I pushed for 2 1/2 hours and they had to deliver him by forceps. My second labor was 5 hours and I pushed 4 times (no forceps) My second child was more the a pound bigger then my first.

Answer 2

Hi there, just thought I'd let you know that you are not alone!!! I had quite a bad time with my son. It was a long painful labour so i reluctantly had an epidural, my son was distressed towards the end, there was also meconium in my waters when they broke them. i was only allowed 30 mins of pushing and i was threatened with forceps if he wasn't out by then because of the risk of lung infection. I had to have an episiotomy because of the possible risk of forceps and i was exhausted - i am terrified of my next labour!! Especially if its too quick and i don't have time for an epidural if i need it!!

However - my friend was very similar to you - her son was face up rather than face down and was in labour over 24 hours. She gave birth in theatre as they nearly did an emergency c-section (she had a full epidural) but were able to use ventouse instead and turned the baby. Her second labour was completely the opposite! She was in labour for 4 hours and felt a lot less pain. She used just a tens machine, didn't tear and was bouncing around afterwards. Her baby was 1lb heavier than the first!! She was home within 6 hours of giving birth! My sister also had quicker and easier subsequent labours. My midwife told me that you are more likely to have a better labour with your second baby as your body is already "primed" for the birth. The shape of your pelvis shouldn't really have much to do with the positioning of the baby. My son spent the last 2 months the lying wrong way round inside me, but as soon as he turned round i went into labour. I am sure all will be fine for you next time round. You are lucky that you know what to expect - i was bullied by my midwife first time round so i know i can make more of my own decisions this time. Try watching telly at home on all fours over a beanbag or birthing ball to make sure the baby spends a lot of time in the right position. Try and stay on all fours in labour as long as possible too, this will help tremendously.

Good luck and i hope you have the birth that you plan for!

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Answer 3

you're not to any extent further being stupid in any respect! i change into so a lot more effective scared the second one time than the first. My first change into triggered and basically negative from starting up to end. yet even as the time got here for the second one it change right into a lot more straightforward and that i change right into a lot more effective calm and comfortable. It went a tremendous purchase more effective powerful besides because I saved truly energetic in the course of the labour by potential of strolling my hallways at homestead previously I went to well being facility and then strolling around the room on the well being facility after I were given there. Gravity can do astounding issues! i got here across interpreting up on labour and delivery again and going over my options for discomfort relief (of which i basically had warm showers and a dose of pethedine), truly helped to positioned my ideas comfy and make me experience more effective on suitable of problems with what change into going to take position. also talk your emotions such as your midwife so that they understand the position you're at. sturdy success and relax, its going to be basically wonderful this time! hi i'm evidence it may't be that undesirable, i'm having my third!! best of success

Answer 4

I had a really long labour with my first so had similar apprehensions next time around. However, 2nd time I felt much more in control and relaxed. I too seem to have a funny shaped pelvis, but because I kept my notes from the first time and showed them to the midwife, she only had to pop my forewaters (didn't even know there were 2 sets!) and away we went. Baby number 2 delivered at home, in the bath by my husband. Keep telling yourself it is YOU who is in control and try to (sounds cheesy but works) imagine your body opening up a bit like a flower. Good luck and best wishes for a smoooth birth..

Answer 5

i had forceps with my first child that was a nightmare labour lasted far to long, the cord was tightly round his neck but my second labour was brilliant i actually enjoyed it i had an epidural and everything was just fine i am 7 weeks pregnant and i am not worried about labour this time at all

Answer 6

hi, fortunately for me the birth of my daughter was fairly smooth. In fact, most people would say i was lucky. It was 10hrs and 27Min's and I don't remember much. Believe me though, I am now 37weeks with my second and know its getting close and even though my first was fairly easy I am still terrified this one won't be. Of course after having it hard the first time your going to be anxious, but I think nearly everyone is the second time around. Just remember its all worth it in the end and you'll be fine!
Good luck and try not to worry

Answer 7

when my wife had our first son she had to be induce as she was two weeks overdue and she was in labour for nearly 15 hours and during birth it was really hard for her , they had to turn the baby round. After 16 months she had to give birth again thanks God my second son was born with no problem and only 5 hours labour. So from my own experience I beleive that everything will be alright. Just trust the lord.

Answer 8

I had two children 15mos apart. The first labor and delivary was very long and hard. 28hrs. They used the vacuum. The second was much easier. He was born in 6hrs and I only pushed 3 times. I will tell you that the after birth cramping is worse with the second. But that's nothing compared to a long, hard, stressful labor.

Answer 9

I fell pregnant with my second child when my daughter was just 18 months old.
The day i found out i just cried, i was so scared.know what to expect!!!1
My labour first time round was scary but because i didnt know what to expect i couldnt wait!!!!!! silly me!

The first time i was induced and was in labour for about 13 hours, i also had to have a episiotomy (where they cut you)
all i could think about was what if they had to do that again!!?

Anyway throughout my pregnancy thats all i thought about and if i could love this new baby as much as i love my daughter!

Two weeks before the birth my waters trickled and the docs wanted to induce,told them i'll try naturally, had a hot curry,fresh pineapple, bed and it all started at 1.30am ish (not bad, could cope) i had my son at 09.50am that morning.
The labour was only about 8 hours in total but 3-4 hours of that was me breathing and coping with it. ( they did break my waters which i was panicing about but i didnt feel a thing when i finally let them do it lol)

8 months on i look back on how i was and not really enjoying my pregnancy and i kick myself now.

Dont worry about it, try and enjoy it because when it comes to it, it might not be as bad as you think.
Every labour is different!

Talk to your midwife about your worries and ask her to be honest

Good luck

Answer 10

I didn't have your problem, but I did have to be induced with both my kids. I had absolutely no drugs for the pain at all. YES IT'S HORRIBLE. I even started crying as soon as they started the drip to be induced, just remembering the first baby.
If it is any consolation at all, the second birth seems to be HALF the time of the first birth.
I think your going to be fine. Your uterus and vagina have done this before. HALF the time is much better?? isn't it.
I hope so hehe.
Your going to be fine....
good luck
best wishes

AND YOUR GOING TO BE FINE
XO