i broke upp with my boyfriend like a year ago. i still had feelings for him but it was one of those things that just felt right...I told one of my guyfriends that i still liked him and i kinda wanted the news to get back to my ex. So it did and my ex was like "call me" and he gave me his number...so later on in the week i called and we started talking again and i kinda felt the same way i did when we were dating..Then as we are talking he says " i love you.." and i got confused..and that was like a month ago and ever since then i haven't really talked to him..what should i do?
2007-02-03 07:39:38 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go out with him?
2007-02-03 07:41:53 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is perfectly natural for residual emotional feelings to remain after a breakup, espcially if you have been intimate in any type of way. However, there are two things you should examine.
1. You said it just "felt right" that you broke up with him. Try and pin down the reasons you might have "felt" that way. For example, was he really not a good guy? Did you not have feelings for him in the first place? Are parents and loved ones not supporting the relationship? Were you just having a mood swing?
2. If you think you're serious about the relationship, ask someone older than you for advice. It may be hard, but it's worth it. They've been there, done that. They'll most likely be able to help you see things from an outside perspective.
Give it some time. You need to know who you are, first and foremost, without him. Decide if you like yourself first and then if you like yourself better with him. Only two independent people can make a relationship work.
That, and watch how he treats his mother. One day, that's how he's going to treat you.
Hope this helps. :)
2007-02-03 07:51:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a powerful word that can be shot off without thinking. Before you jump back into a roller coaster of emotions, stop and ask yourself why you broke up to begin with.
Rationalize, and ask yourself why you are wanting him back. If you enjoyed yourself that year you were not dating him, why start over? Life is great, being lonely is not, but sacrificing loneliness for an unhappy life you want to stay away from!
I can only imagine what is running through that guys head right now, but be weary. You made yourself vulnerable by broadcasting to his friends that you wanted him back.
2007-02-03 07:51:59 · answer #3 · answered by zaq23edc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about why you two broke up in the first place before jumping back in the relationship with him. Do you have a boyfriend now? If not, could that be why you have feelings for him because you are lonely?
2007-02-03 07:43:39 · answer #4 · answered by Deborah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just one piece of advice, we always seem to remember the good and forget why we broke up in the first place. Think about why you broke up and make sure you are not making a mistake. Good luck!
2007-02-03 07:45:32 · answer #5 · answered by crct2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it, be sorry later, after all you only live once . see people usually make the same mistakes over and over,
as well as the good decisions. yes, be an animal., follow your instincts, because that's what humans are.
Now, higher gods don't make such acts. So what are you!
2007-02-03 07:50:36 · answer #6 · answered by cineone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are playing a game with him. Sounds like he mighta hooked up with someone else and you wanted to mess that up. Just remember why you broke up with him in the first place...keep a list and look at it when you get weak.
2007-02-03 07:43:50 · answer #7 · answered by dreamgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta make up your techniques....quickly.. nicely in the beginning...You boyfriend. stay with him...right this is a sprint asserting "do not go away your loved one for the only you like, simply by fact the only you like will go away you for the only they love" in case you enjoyed your ex interior the 1st place... you will possibly desire to of in no way broke it off with him. even nevertheless it sort of feels to me that your boyfriend is powerful. And the ex. to not lots. he's only tryign to be advantageous and consistent with probability making up for some thing that he's familiar with that he did incorrect. do not go away the boyfriend. And overlook related to the ex. it is going to do you solid. have confidence me
2016-09-28 09:16:27 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh the drama... whats a girl to do...?
Look you know as well as I do that you just want to have sex with him this whole "My feelings flarred up" stuff is just an illusion you are creating for yourself so you don't feel like a tart for seeing him just for sex.
Just do it you have nothing to feel guilty about its what we are designed to do.
2007-02-03 07:47:59 · answer #9 · answered by Bohdisatva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you stopped talking to him that was a bad move but if yoiur able to start talking to him again and if you still have the same feelings for him see if he feels the same way.
2007-02-03 07:44:07 · answer #10 · answered by ~*mwah*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should totally go for it if you have a chance not everybody gets second chances....you r very lucky to have gotten a second chance so jump on the offer while you can.....trust me i learned that lesson.....and now i will never have that chance again....so try it out again......the worst that will happen is that it wont work out....good-luck!
2007-02-03 07:45:11 · answer #11 · answered by that one girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋