single dad?

Question

Hi..my name is Paul,live in Eire and work as dentist(age almost 35).AM separated 6years from my wife of 3 years,all very friendly and amicable,no hard-feelings,got married impulsively,she now lives in Australia and we dont have any contact really.My son lives with me,his mum was declared unfit and she was disinterested.

Im only gettin back on dating scene now,as I was raising my boy and working by day,college by night to move up to orthodontistry..so what advice from females there?any similar people on here?

(apparently Im still "hot" haha,whatever that should mean,according to female pals,friends wives etc etc,though I dont judge peole by looks)

JUST to add to the answerer who said get my divorce finalised..IT IS finalised..long since. I wouldn't wish to meet anyone if I hadn't that end of things tied up, I would Not lead anyone on, but thanku for taking the time to answer

Sorry another addition.. Im not finished Orthodontistry and working full-time in Orthodontics, however I have retained a small number of clients as a dentist so I'm still drilling, root-canalling and all the rest 2 days a week, as I have my own practice

ps my son is 13, he's a great kid,real teenager,Im so proud of him,he's happy and confident,full of charm for girlies at school! Ya I get attention from ladies that come to my surgery and when I go out,though with son I dont get to go out as much *** I'd like..he seems to ave a better social life!haha. but most def I AM divorced..believ me it cost me enough to pay to make sure I had custody of him.
His mum wasnt a bad person,just into drugs and stuff and I HAD to make sure he grew up with me so I could look after him, give him a good stable environment,after all I'm hi dad!

Answer 1

you've got a good job, young, caring, obviously put your family/son 1st, you go for achievement and you're HOT!
what more could a woman ask for, they'll come running to you!

maybe i should move to Eire ................................

Answer 2

1. A cell phone if she doesn't have one. If that's not an option, not knowing what she likes, I would suggest a pretty necklace or something like that. You could even take her with you to pick one out that she'll be able to wear a lot and say "Thanks, my dad gave it to me." when people compliment it. But then, I love jewelry and she might not. You could just offer to take her shopping one weekend and buy her some clothes or books or whatever it is she likes. That way you get to spend time together too. 2. I honestly just had a long conversation with my supervisor and some other coworkers about this :P Most of the guys with daughters said 16. I say 15 or even 14 (your call, you're her father... when you think she's mature enough). But if you leave it too long she'll do it anyway and then she won't feel like she can talk to you if she needs to and you definitely don't want that. 3. What time does she get up in the morning? Curfew should be at least 9 hours before that so she can get home, get to bed and get a good sleep during the school week. At 13 I would say 9 during the week, 10 on weekends is pretty reasonable. General advice: Don't ever freak out about boy stuff. You definitely, definitely want her to be able to come talk to you and she won't if she's worried you'll get really upset. Be open with her and she'll be open with you.

Answer 3

You sound like a great guy Paul! You have a good,steady job,currently enrolled in school, and have a kid. I don't see why women are not all over you! I suggest you get back to the dating scene. It might take awhile,but I'm sure you will meet a fantastic woman who will not only love you but your son as well.

I wish you luck in your love life!

Answer 4

I think many women will admire you for what you do. You;ve obviously done a great job with your son, you work hard and you're intelligent. You should try to meet like minded women. I think somewhere like a pub or club can be a bad idea. Most people meet their partners though work, people they know or through pastimes. Good luck

Answer 5

well sorry i dont live in your town,but i also have been divorced for 9 years.my daughter is now 19,working full time&going to college full time,she is taking double classes,teaching &forenic seicine,my advice is to put your life on hold as far as dating and devote your time to your child,i gave up alot working 2 and sometimes 3 jobs to support us because her dad was no help at all,but it paid off i think for she has so much ambishion,and she says she got that from watching me give my all for her,she still lives at home and without me asking she pays half of the bills,she says its my time to live now if you sew good seeds your harvest will be great

Answer 6

You seem like a lovely guy, i wish you well with your future plans and your studies.
It's great to know that your taking care of you kid, i admire you for that.
They are alot of women out there who will be after you because of your career and they will be after your money, just be careful and make the best choice.
But remember you have your son too, so consider his advise on the right woman for you, cause his life would be affected too.

If you need to chat just e-mail me and take care.

Answer 7

Heya Sweetie, Sounds like you been busy lately congrats on becoming a dentist and raising a child, its not easy no matter who you are.

As for advice just be yourself and remember to treat a woman like a lady
good luck xx

Answer 8

Get out and about now that you feel ready,but what about that Divorce,time is ticking on,and you don't need to say Oh I'm separated when you meet that special person
Good luck and have fun
BYE THE WAY I'M FREE.LOL

Answer 9

I say but your self out there for female consumption. it is just like riding a bike you do not forget maybe wobble at first but you pick up momentum. good luck. Be very picky about who you choose to date for the sake of your son.

Answer 10

Get the divorce finalized, then start dating. Otherwise you are leading women on because there is no future with a man who is already married.