Ok I know this wasn't wise, but I met a man in a bar and we slept together. This is not the first time I've done this, but now there's a problem of sorts... I found that I genuinely like him and we seemed to hit it off. I think the feeling was at least partly mutual, because in my experience guys in this situation only compliment my appearance, whereas this one kept saying, "You're very original", fascinating. etc. He was so kind the whole time. If I'd known I'd like him so much I'd have taken it much more slowly. Can anything result from this, or should I just assume that guys never call after this sort of thing no matter how good the rapport was?
2007-02-03 06:58:09 · 36 answers · asked by beatrice 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes; my boyfriend and I often joke that ours should have been a one-night-stand... we've been together six years. We met when he 'stole' me away from a friend of his I was dating at the time. I think everyone - including us - expected our fling to be a rebound relationship that would never last... but we're doing great. We've grown up together and have simply fallen and stayed in love.
I wouldn't go out looking for love and use one night stands to get to know someone, but once in a while these things can happen...
Good luck - just give him a call and see if you can get together again! It won't do any harm...
2007-02-03 07:01:52 · answer #1 · answered by Extra_Sweetcorn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never, say never.....I met my EX-Husband, on a "one night, then two, then we were an item" then years later, we married and had our son.......I've known him 1/2 my life, now, and we are devorce now, but he still wants to be with me, I just cannot go back to him anymore, and it breaks my heart, because: "once upon a time, I thought we were Life-Partner's" you know.... He got all messed-up on drugs, and cant seem to ever quit!! And that's always been our problem, whenever we split-up, in the pasts, DRUGS, ruined our marriage!!! So, anyway, it can happen things can grow to become something more intimate, and yes he can very easily call you again!! Just be patient!! And stick around by the phone!! Dont forget he may just call you, so you might want to put your errends and things on "HOLD" for a day or so.....Good Luck to you!! And should he call you again, Have Fun!!! Smile!!!
2007-02-03 07:17:54 · answer #2 · answered by Hmg♥Brd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have just asked basically the same question about a guy at work that i slept with, so if you want have a look at the response i got from people for 'have i blown my chance with this guy?'.
Am really wondering if i can approach this guy for a relationship as well, but there might be some extra views on my answers as well if it helps (just ignore the cow calling me a sl*t!!)
At least you know you're not alone!!
Good luck x
2007-02-03 07:05:17 · answer #3 · answered by caz_rabbit_85 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably not! True love is based on mutual care and common interest not sexual performance or looks. Do you have anything in common? Lasting partnerships is because you are wonderful friends and share common goals. You could not know that during a one nite stand. The Sex may be great, but that fades with time, friendship last forever. True love is caring more for the other person than you do for yourself! Good luck!
2007-02-03 07:09:02 · answer #4 · answered by Earl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may call, it just depends on the guy. However I would probably expect nothing out of it. If there is a chance you communicate with him again, tell him how you feel. Don't be clingy/pushy/needy about it, but let him know you feel like you hit it off and you would be happy to have dinner/lunch/whatever some time.
2007-02-03 07:02:10 · answer #5 · answered by gman1602 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's rough because it can ruin a potential relationship. I believe that you should give it a shot if you really like the guy. You do not have much to lose. The best thing is that he goes out with you and you have a relationship that lasts.
2007-02-03 07:01:19 · answer #6 · answered by s_p_u_d_n_i_k 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I generally see having a one night stand as just that. Thanks. BUT why not??? I mean, it's 2007 and why not? People are more free sexually these days, so if you like each other go for it! Too many opportunities in life are blown b/c of doubt. And if you get rejected, at least you tried. Nothing ventured nothing gained.
2007-02-03 07:02:46 · answer #7 · answered by HuskersRock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure, it is a way of getting to know someone, and could easily turn into something real. You arent in the fifth grade anymore, sex is not forbidden, make it a two night stand and go from there.
2007-02-03 07:01:44 · answer #8 · answered by rand a 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ya but one night stands usually mean sleeping with a stranger and that takes a lot of drama and insecurities to be worked out before it really takes off to a normal start.
2007-02-03 07:02:01 · answer #9 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him back and drop that on him.
"You know, I enjoyed last night (or whenever) and I felt like we really clicked. I think maybe we did it in the wrong order, though, and I'd like to get to really know you better and see what's there."
What's the worst that could happen?
2007-02-03 07:01:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋