i am a single mother of four. seems like i'm always typing that to as if when people read that they will all of a sudden knows what it feels like. today i've been off n on the pc, waiting for files to be emailed for "work". basically i input data for my dad who lives out of town. anywho, my life is filled with demands, and self inflicted guilt about not providing enough time, money, energy, play, milk, lessons, dicipline, you name it i always think i'm not giving enough. and maybe i am or maybe i'm not. then there's my personal dream. im an artist, and havent painted in months. i love to write and dont have the "energy" to get it going. so i'm this being that lives to just get thru the day. my kids are their fathers for the weekend. (he gets em every other wk. end) and all i want to do is sleep or atleast lay down and vegetate. if this is "unhealthy" tell me how to get motivated!
2007-02-03 06:56:55 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
oh dear. perhaps my meds arent working lol i am on zoloft. 100mg. i suppose i might need to go and see my doc. perhaps i have a health issue. it never occured to me. like diabeties or as one stated, low hormones. havent been to a gyno in 3yrs and that was cause i was preggo with my youngest. so far if all of you say i "sound" depressed, it makes me wonder if my dosage is "off". thanks all! keep posting!
2007-02-03 07:12:49 · update #1
wanting to sleep all day isn't bad per se, but maybe you have a health issue that's draining your energy. Have you ever had a blood scan to check your hormones? When women lack testosterone, they have no motivation or energy and just want to hibernate. If you've had 4 kids, it's possible your hormones are very low. It's also wise to take a look at your diet.
2007-02-03 07:00:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with staying in bed all day, it will probably feel great to relax and not have to answer to anyone. Spend this time and enjoy it.
However it seems like your life is spiraling out of control and your letting it happen. Stop and reflect on what is the most important thing to you ( your sanity, your kids, your job, money). Decide what you absolutely need and prioritize. Stop over extending yourself when it's not necessary (long work hours), adding extra jobs, doing too much for everyone else and neglecting you or your family. Money will come and go but the moments with your family now should be more important than how much you make.
Seek counseling if you feel this depressed for more than two weeks. For now take a break and enjoy the day of doing nothing.
2007-02-03 07:18:22 · answer #2 · answered by trojan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A nap once in a while is ok but what you are telling me is that you may be depressed. Any parent that cares about their kid will always question if they are doing everything the best that they can. I am sure that you are a caring and loving mom but it sounds like depression is getting in the way of your life.
Here is what I suggest. Today you are to do art. Get going and if you can not think of something then here is your assignment. Paint a scenery or a picture of your kids.
If you are still feeling low most of the time then keep in mind that depression is a medical condition and you may want to see the doctor to see what he may suggest. It may be that you need some medication for depression or someone to talk to.
Other then that keep your chin up and do not let the doldrums drag you down.
PS: Ignore the Invisible man up there. I reported him.
2007-02-03 07:04:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I think your body is just tired and over worked. There are many things you can try to get your body to recover and relax.
Exercise helps energize the body and it can make you feel better. Yoga or pilatis would be my perferred choice because it is relxing and refreshing.
You can also try a vitamin supplement I think it is B-12. It is said to help with that sort of thing.
A third idea is to go on a vacation. Just you or maybe you and your husband. Get away from the parenting and job atmosphere for a little while and relax, maybe in the mountain area or the beach.
Your doctor may have more ideas or suggestions to lift your tired spell.
2007-02-03 07:13:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you are in a state of depression. See your doctor and see if you need an anti depressive, there are some very good ones out there, also, try to force yourself to take a walk, or light excercise once a day to begin with. It also will increase your endorphines. The guilt should not be there, as you are really ill, most people do not recognize depression as an illness, but it may be caused by a chemical imbalance in your body and very treatable.
2007-02-03 07:09:52 · answer #5 · answered by Loraine H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 09:11:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 2 kids, and their like little hurricanes. Its ok to admit your wiped out.If you are that concerned about the kids, then im sure you are doing all you can to make them happy.I dont blame you for sleeping in.Maybe you could use one day to catch up on that precious beauty sleep us moms never get enough of,then take a day to do something just for you even if its nothing more than a 2 hour bubble bath.then when the kids come back and the tornado starts again, you will feel more energized.
2007-02-03 07:04:08 · answer #7 · answered by dynamite136 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you are showing signs of clinical depression -- and no wonder girl, you are all outflow and no inflow.
depression is not about sadness, it is about a lack of energy for the things that you once found enjoyable.
get help. start by seeing a physician and ruling out medical sources and get a short term script for some anti-depressants -- they will help you get off you but and take care of yourself. then get into therapy -- group therapy can be cost-effective and a good boost. then get somebody to fund a regular trip to the day-spa for a massage and a facial or pedicure or some other source of relaxation. join the local art group and start painting again. soon you will feel the old juices flowing.
part of the reason your kids are whining is because they can't get through your depression to see you -- and they need to see you. do this for them if you can't do it for yourself right now.
2007-02-03 07:04:28 · answer #8 · answered by snickersmommie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are a mother of FOUR tahn you have the right to lay off for at leat one day. Nobody said being a mother was easy!
2007-02-03 06:59:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you do a lot try to give yourself credit for that
you seem depressed try to see someone about that
many people get depressed in winter
2007-02-03 07:00:05 · answer #10 · answered by Mike H 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋