my boyfriend is about oto go to jail for 6 months to 3 years. HE has two weeks of freedom but wont spend any time with me before he goes. hes been blowing me off for days going to parties and hanging out with friends. We've been together for almost two years. What the hell is up with this?
2007-02-03 06:38:29 · 49 answers · asked by jinx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why is he going to jail in the first place? Do you really want to be dating somebody with a criminal record? Get out while you can and find a nicer guy!
2007-02-03 06:41:06 · answer #1 · answered by Steph 4 · 8⤊ 1⤋
Well... maybe he is just not wanting you to be hurt by him being away... you need to sit down and have a talk with him. Ask him why the shadiness, and see if he still wants to be in the relationship. I don't know what your relationship is like, but if you ask me, you don't need to have a boyfriend who is going to be in jail... think about it... if you are together for another two years, and you end up getting really serious (married even)... how is he going to support you? do you really want to have a MAN in your life or some half grown boy because apparently he can't get his priorities in line... and you should be right up there on his list of people/things he cares about... and him blowing you off seems like hes really not too interested anymore... so if you still want to be with him, give him a reason to come back and stay... or show him what hes going to miss. Good luck!! hope this helps...
2007-02-03 06:43:55 · answer #2 · answered by Janille S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think perhaps it would be a good idea to reflect a bit on why you want to maintain a relationship with a convict. I realize he's not in jail yet; however, he's still partying and having a good time for the 2 weeks he remains free. Is this the behavior of someone who's learned a lesson or realizes life has consequences?
2007-02-03 06:45:03 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. Vermillion 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether his motives are good (not to hurt you more) or bad (he doesn't care how you feel), what he's doing is telling you that it's not going to work out for the two of you so he's not even going to try. If he's a nice guy, he could think he's protecting you this way, he doesn't want you to have a looser boyfriend in jail and not live your life. If he's a bit selfish, then he probably just wants to have as much fun as he can while he's out and he doesn't care what you think or how you feel about it. You know him better, so you pick which one he is. Take care.
2007-02-03 06:43:30 · answer #4 · answered by yishor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on now honey, he's going to jail! Dump him, he's treating you like crap right now anyways, so why not find someone else instead of sitting around for 6 months to 3 years waiting for a guy who doesn't care to spend time with you anyways.
2007-02-03 06:42:29 · answer #5 · answered by Happy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's looking to get as much partying as possible before going and it sounds to me like he thinks you're going to stay his girlfriend all the way through the 6m to 3 years. You do know that he's going to become some other guy's boyfriend while he's in don't you? It happens to all of them, I know too many corrections officers to say otherwise.
Maybe he's thinking you'd be better off without him, I'm not sure cause I could never see into the minds of people who get convicted.
2007-02-03 06:46:33 · answer #6 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think hes trying to get the freedom he can before he goes in but to not include you in this there is a problem ask him what the heck and tell him you are the one whos gonna be there when hes in the slammmer are his buddies? prob not but i think you should walk away if hes gonna push you away walk away cause when he is in jail hell use you for his suport and when he gets out hell leave you for friends again
2007-02-03 06:44:41 · answer #7 · answered by ibebarbie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, i idea my existence change into tousled. Sorry, that type of sounded recommend, i wager what you actually favor to do is merely get your self far flung from those human beings because they look stressing you out. Your boyfriend is of direction type of violent if he hit him jointly with his truck and what his stepdad did shouldn't difficulty you for the reason that now he's in penitentiary. As on your acceptable chum, you ought to objective talking to her and telling her to inform the actuality yet when she would not favor to then that is her determination if she needs to bypass to penitentiary. you ought to merely you would possibly want to be there on your boyfriend even as he's contained in the wellness facility and then once he's more effective attempt to consult him and make sure out if it is nicely worth staying jointly even as he's causing you merely as a lot rigidity and discomfort and stuff as your ex boyfriend; or perchance no longer, i'm no longer really constructive of the finished difficulty. yet yeah, merely refer to someone.
2016-11-02 05:37:28 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he has two weeks of freedom left right? If you were going to jail, wouldn't you want to have fun, before you have all the fun sucked out of you? He also probably wants to catch up with friends to bail him out, which is why he's been gone so much...maybe
2007-02-03 06:45:40 · answer #9 · answered by uber_zack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man that sounds bad but id proly just break up with him but u proly love him and its not that easy. But then again what if he dosent love you? Man that is a hard one......just let him no that ur there for him and that u love him them visit him in jail if u can and when ever you can have a good chat with him and tell him that when hes gone ur gonna miss him and u need some time with him where theres no bars between him......or try to go partying with him......Thats really all i can say i hope i have helped
2007-02-03 06:44:40 · answer #10 · answered by jonesash94 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what? This is the time to make the break with him. Why would you want to continue to be with someone who did something that caused himself to go to prison. You can do much better. When he gets out he will not be able to find a decent job, which means a life of misery with him since you would have to support him and any family you have with him if you did stay together. It is hard enough to get by in life without a criminal record.
2007-02-03 06:42:21 · answer #11 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋