thos of us who are old enough to remember-do you think that womans lib ruined the family unit as it used to?

Question

I think that the womans movement totally ruined what a family is. I am a very independant woman now, self employed, raised my children mostly on my own (divorced for a long time)....I enjoyed staying home and taking care of my family and letting my hubby go and earn the bacon. Stay at home mothers, wives don't get enough credit for what they are capable of doing for the family unit...they work 24/7 ....working in the home as wife and mother has become a lost art. Do men now-a-days feel that traditional, old fashioned ways are gone with the wind? and would a modern man prefer a traditional, old fashioned wife?

Answer 1

It sucks, because even those of us who think that was a better way, at least for young children, can't even do that because 1) the cost of living is so high and 2) the average man's wages have fallen so low that most can't afford to support a family and a stay at home wife.

I feel that it should be a choice, and staying at home should be more respected. Personally, I would love to be just a stay at home mom and wife, but can't afford to. Most families need two incomes in the current economy, regardless of what is better for the family unit.

Answer 2

I don't think the problem was the woman's movement, per se. The basic premise that women were objectified and that they were not given the same opportunities as men was wrong, and needed to change. (I'm not saying that there is equality yet). However, in some cases, the movement was too radical, and too revolutionary. We now have a society in which Dad and Mom both work, and we are leaving it to baby sitters, day care, schools, little leagues and Boy and Girl Scouts to raise our kids. Unfortunately, the country's economy and standard of living now mandates that most families are dual income, so we are trapped.
Stay at Home Moms do work 24/7, and some say it is a thankless job (I disagree, as most Moms' thanks is that their children grow up to have solid values). Unfortunately, there are still those people (many are women), that will look down upon a Stay at Home Mom and tell her that she is not living to her potential, or that she is not contributing to the economy or the workforce. To that I say bull-puckey.
There are still men that want the June Cleaver type wife. I think that many men would consider the traditional, old-fashioned wife more of a "trophy wife." I also believe that much of the problems with relationships and the high divorce rate in America is due to the fact that husbands and wives don't really know each other; they just generally live together and have sex. But that is another rant altogether. However, I think America, men and women alike, long for the days of the "old-fashioned wife."

Answer 3

I think it's a number of different things. I think it's partially liberals, woman becoming more independent, role reversal, gays and lesbians, single parents, people getting married at an early age, and the media. I don't really want a family or children. I'd rather just be married. I don't think that it's all lost. It's up to us women to take back what they've thrown away. It's good for men and women to be equal but I think a lot of women have tried to dominate men in the work place and every other place. We want it all. I also think that some people take freedom too far but that's mostly another topic. But it can also apply to women. Single dad's usually end up paying the child support and women get the children. Which I don't see as completely fair. I'm in a relationship where my bf's ex was independent and she was the man in the relationship. She also thought she could continually cheat as well. And now my bf isn't used to a normal relationship where he can be the man and be respected and loved just because she had to be a modern independent woman. I think a lot of those types of women just think they can do whatever they want: have the better job, have kids, leave their husbands, keep their kids, suck their ex husband dry of child support, be a whore, whatever. Like it's a woman's world or something. It's a little on the deep end, but I know there are women like that out there just using the system to their own advantage like it doesn't matter. And I'm just glad that I'm not the typical normal modern woman of our day.

Answer 4

i don't think i would say that women's lib ruined the family unit, but it did change the face of the family in many ways. it took women out of the traditional role of nurturer and homemaker and put a bigger emphasis on material gains.
in the days before women's lib, it was considered to be a woman's job to take care of the home and family while her husband went out and provided the financial backbone. taking care of a home and children is indeed a full time job in itself, so when women's lib opened so many doors of opportunity for women, it did weaken the structure of the family. women began leaving the home to earn paychecks and substitute material goods for the job of taking care of the family.
while women have, now and for years, juggled jobs, homes and children often something has to give- there are just not enough hours in the day. in today's economy, many women working outside the home have little choice in the matter- it takes two incomes to live for a lot of us.
my husband (we are middle age, have been married only three years and both have grown children) would much prefer it f i was able to stay home and keep house and i would too, but we live in an area that has seen spiralling cost of living coupled with lower than average incomes and the option of just one of us working is not possible.
i struggled for years to raise my sons alone as a single mom in this same area. i know there were many times when i had to sacrifice the quality of my family life in order to support us. given a situation where i could have had a choice, i would love to have been a traditional stay home wife and mother.

Answer 5

I don't think it's "old fashioned" I believe it is a strong willed confident woman who can declare her goal to raise a healthy well nurtured and nurished family, physically, mentally, spiritually, giving all the benefits of her knowledge of God and the world to her family in hopes for the betterment of all. And by so doing, fulfilling her hearts desire because there is great joy when you can take pleasure in the fruits of your labor! I think the womans lib all but destroyed us as wives and mothers! We tried to do it all and did! But oh the repercussions! I really believe womens lib was credited to much for this though, I think men were behind it, knowing we would run with the ball to prove ourselves having the perservance that we do! And it benefitted many a manipulative laggard that basked in full "appreciation" of our work ethic. He stayed home---- He served meals-- you made up, but he wouldn't even open the vegitable you set on the counter. The house was left for you to clean when you got home. The children were not disciplined, he needed to be a "buddy" He did this to make you the disciplinarian and hard a*s while he remained the "good guy" So-- even though you balanced work, going to school meetings, PTA, making it to attend part of swim, dance, tumbling, wrestling, football, baseball etc. lessons. He was the good buddy and AT HOME the majority of the time, which-- in a sense, alienated you from the children and cemented him as center of the home. This was a well contrived move, it was fitting that in order to "hide" the truth of her inability to get this "husband" to be a husband, she would seemingly "use" the womans lib stance to hide her embarassment and her true lack of self worth, brought on because she was unable to motivate her husband to provide and so she felt lacking and "painted" this pretty picture to the world; that she was content with this role reversal that "it suited her desires". once the woman realized what happened it was too late and she could not leave the lazy **** who had reversed roles with her! She went to work because he "couldn't find work" because "it was a recession" or "he was sick" or "he was too old" whatever--- He would'nt! And she wasn't about to let her family sink! We were duped!! You can't leave because a babysitter would take all the funds you worked for! And he has successfully robbed you of the role you wanted all your life. To be a wife and mother. Then the piece "de resistance" , he couldn't understand , "why" you did't want to have sex with him anymore?? Hmmmm? could it be that it was the last vestige of "self" left and you were dammned if you would allow him to "use" you any further? Couldn't? Why do you think so many marriages ended in divorce for this baby boomer generation? The poor women so resented the lazy slobs for stealing their hearts desire that they finally left when the kids were raised! Some were fortunate enough to find a way and strength to do it earlier. nuff said, but it's true.

Answer 6

I am a stay at home wife. I was a bit over-educated to be satisfied with this alone. I have been on our local park board and even started writing grants.

I do think that women's lib/feminism has been harmful to the family. It puts down pregnancy and motherhood. It tells young women they don't need a man to be a Dad.

It has shortchanged children. It has put a huge amount of pressure on women, too.

Answer 7

Women's lib. has not changed anything for some women, they hold full time jobs and are still expected to take care of the family and home all women's lib. did was add more responsibilities to being a woman.

Answer 8

I think the entire message to women has been "You can do it all by yourself. You don't need a man."

The problem with that kind of thinking is that is creates an us vs them mentality. Instead of pairing up to become partners in life, it's become a game of choose your opponent.

It's true that women don't need a man...but their kids would do better with a dad in the house.

Answer 9

The problem is one income supporting a family. If you are working class and don't wanna live worse than welfare cases, one income is not going to do it.

Answer 10

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