How do you tell your sister that her boyfriend is a loser. "Why is he a loser?" you may ask... Because he claims hes lookin for a job.. and yet he has not gotten one, hes been sayin this for almost a year. He sits at home at let the place get FILTHY! While my sis is out busting her a$$ just to keep the bill up. And checks that had "bounced" got sent to the house (she doesnt live w/ us anymore) that not only did SHE NOT WRITE but they were wrote out to him. And she has no idea where her money is goin... but I do. You can pretty much say he's a "Freeloader". She doesnt have that much "common sense" as you can tell and she believes he's her soulmate. How do I let The Blind see???
2007-02-03 06:18:29 · 13 answers · asked by Wonniedapooh 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Unfortunately, she'll have to see for herself. There is nothing you can do to change the way she feels about him and the relationship. Eventually she will get tired of the freeloading. As for the checks, that is theft and forgery. If he's doing that behind her back is it a possibility that he is doing drugs? That could explain the lack of ambition and reasons for stealing her money. Don't push her into breaking up with him, that could just make her defend him and make her want to be with him even more. Just be there when she needs to talk. Why don't you plan out specific evenings for you two to go out with friends without him? That may eventually show her that there are decent men out there that would treat her with respect. You seem like a good sister, keep doing what you are doing. She'll eventually come around.
2007-02-03 06:26:18 · answer #1 · answered by Summer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well sit her down and tell her about it and explain how and why you feel the way you do and then if your sister gets mad or doesnt want to face facts then tell her to set a deadline for her bf to have a job and then if he still doesnt have one by that time that she sets then she should kick him out and she should tell the bf that if he cant get a job and help pay the bills then he needs to get out i hope she listens cuz no one deserves that good luck
2007-02-03 06:23:44 · answer #2 · answered by advise_gal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will see for herself. It's always like that. And if she doesn't then what can any of us do. People make their own decisions and live by them and their effect. We can't meddle in someones life because we don't want anyone messing with ours.
I totally understand you, but when my sister dated this guy that kept on cheating on her, none of us (friends and family) could convince her to leave him. She disliked us instead, even though she knew the truth.
Years have passed and she left him FINALLY! People make their own lives and that's it. I really understand you :)))
2007-02-03 06:26:39 · answer #3 · answered by Bojana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit her down at a FAMILY ONLY meeting and tell her..show her the checks..draw her a clear picture of what you and your familly see..do this b4 she gets pregnant and marrys the bum and ends up in a nasty custody battle!!!
2007-02-03 06:23:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can give her your opionions but you won't be able to change her mind, she only sees what she wants to see. let her find out the hard way sooner or later she will realize what you have been telling her is the truth. just be there for hier when that happens . good luck.
2007-02-03 06:22:46 · answer #5 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heavily what the hell is UR ball not hers...... that aint honest telll ur mothers and dads the way you sense approximately that and im particular he wont flow simply by fact your parets will become in touch.... in the adventure that your sister doesnt ever refer to you that available you will might desire to take considering that its her being the asswhole right here.. dont concern tell her that if she says hes going as quickly as extra time your not likely to the ball(nott genuine) and that shes choosing the jerk quite of you... make it difficult for her like shes doing for you...
2016-09-28 09:12:21 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your sis the way it is, the way he is.
tell her she will always be working. always be broke and will always have nothing because of him.
she is very stupid to let him keep doing all that he has done and keeps on doing it. it is her fault he is still there. tell her she will be homeless if she lets him free load from her.
he is a lazy inconsiderate bum jerk.
2007-02-03 06:24:17 · answer #7 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may have to sit down and talk to her and tell her that she a pretty smart caring kind girl and she deserves better than that. Maybe she'll relize that and understand!!!!!If she reallyloves the guy leave her be it's her own loss!!!!
2007-02-03 06:28:10 · answer #8 · answered by yo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that really stinks. Not much you can do, she has to be the one to get it through her own head. This is a tough one. Try to get as much dirt on him as you can, concrete stuff.....maybe then she will listen to you. Good luck.
2007-02-03 07:11:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your sister has to live her own life, unfortunatly, you cannot make the blind see,,,,,,you gotta pray for her, and try to be there for her when she needs you. just dont give her money, or anything that can benefit him. let her know that you are there for HER only. good luck. and pray.
2007-02-03 06:23:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋