bf of three years dumped me and started dating after 4 weeks of breaking up. i tried in our relationship really hard but i'm only human and have made mistakes too. he would always break up with me and i would ask him back and we would get back again. this time he made me move out and has been really mean when i try to talk to him. i don't think he is coming back. he was laughing when i was crying on the phone and called me pathetic. told me mean things that was so degrading. he said he just didn't love me and feel pity for me. but he was laughing like an evil person. i can't believe he changed so fast from the person i loved. i don't know him anymore. i know i haven't done anything to deserve this treatment. i thought i did everything i could to do what he asked me. in the end i guess it wasn't enough. i don't want him back anymore but i want him to regret leaving me. i really do! can you give me suggestions?
2007-02-03 06:04:35 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i gained alot of weight when we lived together... he complained about it. do you think getting toned and bigger boobs will make him regret. i know he likes money... should i get a new car ... maybe a corvette or something in that price range?
2007-02-03 06:06:30 · update #1
what can i do? i just can't accept that somebody can be discarded just like that after years of being together. i can't believe that somebody can be mean and dehumanizing to somebody they were with for three years! i want to make him feel that he lost something good.
2007-02-03 06:08:14 · update #2
i am on a mission to improve everything in my life... i already lost weight after break up and just need to get more toned... i gonna work hard in school and get as much money as i can while in school, i'm gonna work so hard and be great one day that i will never feel this low again ever in my freaking life!!! and i want him to see!!!
2007-02-03 06:13:26 · update #3
Why would you want to buy a corvette to make someone see you? Stop that way of thinking right now. I was in that kind of relationship and all I wanted him to do was see he was wrong and had done me wrong. My therapist said to me, he will never see ever. He is a narcicist and is only thinking of himself. You my dear are a beautiful wonderful person and he broke your psyche and you need to get your head wrapped around the fact that he emotionally abused you and you are great without him. Forget about impressing him or showing him anything. You move on and get your life together for you. Never for him. Run as far as you can. You could be a beauty queen and he will always make fun of you because he is an idot and is sick. He can manipulate your mind and he can push your buttons like my ex could, you and only you can stop that. Get away from that thought process. I was where you are and it took time and lots of love from family and friends and love of myself. and help from a therapist. You go girl. Stay away from that son of a you know what. He isn't worthy of the ground you walk on.
2007-02-03 06:23:04 · answer #1 · answered by katie d 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
After being with somebody who has treated you like an emotional yo-yo you need sometime to yourself. Right now focus on yourself and being who you want to be rather than part of a dysfunctional couple. Men can be such jerks(so can women), but you need to re-evaluate what you want in a man and go to look for him. Be as picky as you want because you will have to be his best friend and wife(one day if that's what you want). If the weight issue bothers you than join a gym or do workout videos at home and eat better. Don't get a car and put yourself in financial binds cause you want to temporarilly show off. Be an individual who can bounce back from an idiot and move forward without looking back.
2007-02-03 06:15:06 · answer #2 · answered by tx_earthangel 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You would actually go back to this "verbally abusive",selfish,self-centered man? OK, so you gained a little weight during your relationship, believe me, that doesn't make a man, who loves you, make you move out and now treat you this way. Stop beating a "dead horse", your abusing yourself. Move on, as Judge Judy would say, and believe me, he will get His, for every "jerk", there is an "***hole", to put them in their place. He will "play" the wrong person and loose Big Time. So - take a vacation, go somewhere you like,lay on a beach,make new acquaintances,forget this "jerk" and move on. OH, buy yourself a nice car, something YOU like, a flashy car only gets you men that are after one thing sweetheart, a good man admires a "smart" woman. Good Luck..
2007-02-03 06:17:21 · answer #3 · answered by peaches 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's going to take awhile, but you will regain your dignity - as long as you STAY AWAY FROM HIM.
Sorry, but to be quite honest, he sounds like a jerk. You don't deserve (from what I can see) the treatment that he is giving to you right now. So don't take it! Just walk away. I know it's hard, and it's easier said than done, but the best thing for you to do is just to cut him out of your life completely. Don't attempt contact with him anymore. He doesn't deserve you!!
And you gained weight - so what? If you feel good with the weight you are now, stay that way. Don't tone up to try to get him back - if you have to do that to get a guy to come back to you, then HE is the one who is pathetic.
Just remember.. you're better than all of this. You will rise above it. Just hang in there. =)
2007-02-03 06:11:57 · answer #4 · answered by Delvala 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop worrying about him and move on with your life. Don't blow money or get implants for him. Someone kind will love you for who you are. The best revenge is getting on with your life and getting happy. Anyway, if he did come back to you because you had a new car or new breasts (and if he did, what a shallow loser), he'd just leave you again at some point, after the newness has worn off.
2007-02-03 06:10:24 · answer #5 · answered by groovygirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would even want to stay with someone so cruel? It's a very hard thing to do, as I just went threw it to, but you have to take a deep breath, and break off every communication with him. It's the best thing he could have done for you. Sometimes when we can't have something we once had, we tend to want it more. Good Luck, the right one is out there for you. Good Luck!
2007-02-03 06:12:13 · answer #6 · answered by Suzie- Q 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you lose weight it should be because you want to and don't buy a car just to try and elicit some jealousy, especially if it's not financially viable for you right not. You just have to leave him alone, send the message that you are fine without him and go about your life.
You just have to save face and work on making yourself happy. Before you know it you won't even think about him anymore.
2007-02-03 06:10:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He BURNT you bad..The best way to get even with the jerk is to go out and have fun don't call him if he is in the same place your in do not in gage in any talking look the other way..If he comes up to you just walk away like he is not there..This will eat at him...Show him you can move on if he calls just tell him get lost you have better things to do with your life then to play games with a jerk and hang up...That will burn him...
2007-02-03 06:20:29 · answer #8 · answered by charmed4412 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
they say that living well is the best revenge. Do things to make yourself live well, you've been focusing on this person who apparently doesn't care. we tend to attract what we will tolerate. make a promise to yourself to only tolerate being treated well-including and especially from yourself. try reading some books on self esteem, try co-dependent no more. have i been where you are-yes, once, but not now and it feels wonderful and worth the effort. hope this helps. oh, and forget this person, nothing will change him, to completely ignore him now is best for you. try this website for starters.
2007-02-03 06:16:00 · answer #9 · answered by shotze01 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Best advice: listen to him and move on! forget about him and STOP calling him! LET IT GO!
You need to respect yourself and stop giving him the chance to put you down!
My Advice:
join a gym and lose some weight,
get a new hobby (something to get your mind off him!)
get a make over
Buy a car if you want to!
But for YOUR OWN good, STOP calling him and let it go!
Goodluck! :)
2007-02-03 06:13:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋