I've been dating this guy for a bit and he's really great but the one thing that's been bothering me is his belly. Some people are just a sucker for a nice smile, or sexy arms, but I really like nice abs, and I don't know how to tell him this without hurting his feelings or having it end in a break up, but it's hard because every sexual desire that I have for him just disappears when I see his tummy.
And Valentine's Day is coming up and he wants to go to this lodge for a getaway, but I really don't want to go, because I know what's going to happen. He wonders why I'm not really "sexual person" and I am, just not with him because when I see the belly, I just can't get in the mood. I've been luckily enough to be a good judge of character when it comes to being able to tell if a guy as nice abs or not, but he did a good job of concealing it on our early dates and now I feel stuck, because I really like him, but I can't get over this. Any advice would help. Thanks.
2007-02-03 05:59:51 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, I know I'm being shallow, but I'm in the gym 6 days a week, sculpting my body to perfection (which by the way he tells me is amazing) but shouldn't I be able to say the same about him?
2007-02-03 06:11:30 · update #1
Try to hint it very subtly. Like talk about the two of you getting a membership, or talk about how you heard about the best diet. Or just tell him that he needs to get into better physical shape. Not only is his gut a turn-off, but its physically bad for him.
2007-02-03 06:06:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really care about him, it wouldn't matter. You're no better than all the men on here asking how they can get their wives to lose weight. Do him a favor and dump him before he falls in love with you. You obviously don't love him and you'll end up leaving him later anyway.
2007-02-03 06:09:28 · answer #2 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you just need to tell this guy that you're a freak, cause you are...LOL
I hope he works on his abs and the two of you have intense bang your back out sex...LOL
Keep the guy!!!!!
2007-02-03 14:09:42 · answer #3 · answered by ty4all 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The same way you tell a woman that she has unsightly cellulite on her thighs....The same way you tell a woman that her breasts are too small....The same way you tell a woman that she is not smart or funny enough....The same way you tell a woman that her butt is too fat, flat or flabby....The same way you tell a woman that she looks like a man with that short hair....The same way you tell a woman that her teeth are crooked.....You DON'T tell them, they already know....How many imperfections has he noticed on you that he doesn't mention????
2007-02-03 06:12:54 · answer #4 · answered by beauregard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's very shallow of you. You should see someone for what they are on the inside, not the outside. How would you feel if he said you need to work on your boobs or your butt?
2007-02-03 06:05:01 · answer #5 · answered by Xfactor 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Get over yourself. If you care about him so much you shouldn't care what he looks like. You're being shallow!
2007-02-03 06:06:49 · answer #6 · answered by lover4ne1 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
put that gut away
2007-02-03 06:04:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋