i met a girl online and we just began dating no too long ago, i deleted my profile and i told her to delete her profile on the online site were we met and she dosent want to. becuase some guy has been sending her messages. so what i did was to made a fake profile and i started talkin to her on the same site, she doesnt know is me.. what should i do help?? we have allready been intimate and i do have deep feelings for her and she tells me the same, is she liying? she has told her parents about me, should i keep talking to her with my fake profile to see how far it gets or should i just tell her?, any suggestions please let me know. in other words what would you do if you were me? i have a date with her tonight. help
2007-02-03 05:57:06 · 10 answers · asked by superman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you guys are only dating. She is still out there testing the waters. plus if the fake profile guy is more interesting then you she may dump u and want to meet the fake profile guy...then what u gonna do? you will most def. lose her then for lying
2007-02-03 06:02:29 · answer #1 · answered by cleo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like she is not committed to you despite the intimacy that you have shared. She is not ready to let go of this other guy apparently. She may indeed have deep feelings for you, but not deep enough to really commit...or maybe she is thinking that you are going to leave her and she keeps this other guy around in case. Not sure about that, but if you can't trust her now, you most likely never will. If i were you, i would ask her about her level of committment. And go from there. If she says she is committed to you but continues to chat with your fake person, i would say that she is lying. Especially if the chats have been suggestive. Maybe you could ask for her to meet you with your fake person and actually meet her as yourself and have her explain from there. Just a suggestion...could be messy. Pain in love is awful, isn't it? Best wishes!
2007-02-03 06:06:42 · answer #2 · answered by fair blue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We al know if you tell her what your doing now or if you keep talking to her under another name and she finds out shes gonna be mad so the best thing to do is bring up if she plans on talking to other guys on the net or if she plans to be in a relation ship with you tell her that its up setting you to know shes talking to other guys and see what she says maybe its harmless but if she really does care about you shell stop if she wont stop then maybe its time to end it cause that means she really dont care so talk to her tonight about it if she says shell stop for you check one more time under you new name if she continues to talk to you just end the relationship dont get all bent over her if shes gonna lie this soon in the relationship shes gonna continue to lie
2007-02-03 06:10:17 · answer #3 · answered by ibebarbie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lying to her and pretending to be someone else is NOT going to win you any points here. If you think that she is bad because she is lying and you are too, then how can you expect her to stop?
Be honest and up front about WHY she wants to keep the profile. Maybe she is afraid of commitment and does not want to "put all her eggs in one basket."
2007-02-03 06:02:33 · answer #4 · answered by BetsyLauren 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget about what shes doing for a minute.....if you are serious about her then YOU have to trust her to do the right thing. If you've not got that trust then you have serious problems to start with.
Lying to check up on her is not what i call a good idea....how would you like it if she was to check up on things you were doing, reading all your text messages or emails?? It doesn't feel nice to not be trusted.
It is your decision on how serious you feel about her.
Good luck x
2007-02-03 06:04:13 · answer #5 · answered by caz_rabbit_85 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honesty and communication are vital parts of a relationship..you cant have a solid foundation with out these 2 ingredents..On your date tonight you need to tell her your feelings and what you've done. Tell her why you did it and ask for her forgiveness..if her feelins are as deep for you as she says she is likely to forgive you.
2007-02-03 06:06:46 · answer #6 · answered by Amy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want this relationship to work out for you, you have to be honest with her and tell her, don't play head games with her because she will lose interest in you. just be yourself and always be honest with her. you will be happeir in the long run. good luck.
2007-02-03 06:01:17 · answer #7 · answered by misty blue 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth. Honestly in a relationship is very important.
Good luck.
2007-02-03 06:00:18 · answer #8 · answered by butrfly8507 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
dude she is playin you big time dont even bother with it..move on and get over with it cuase all she wants to do is whore herself out and not be any relationships.
2007-02-03 06:02:13 · answer #9 · answered by Nicole H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, hard choice, talk things out, tell her the truth and say u rnt comfortable with her talking to him
2007-02-03 06:01:44 · answer #10 · answered by baby90694 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋