Hi, there was a girl in my college, whom i liked?

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and i made my feelings clear to her at one time, She asked for my help in project related work and did alot for her academically. She knew all this while that i was inclined towards her, coz i liked her.
All she said , was that She didnt deserve me, although she knew all the while, that i was helping her coz i felt it that way
We are not in touch any longer,it was me who distanced myself from her, coz i cudnt accept the fact that she never had feelings for me.I moved away from her, still not able to forget her.

Today, i am settled career wise & I am looking for a possible life mate, should i approach her about my feelings and that i would like to marry her.. its just that , i love her still and cannot get over her...

or should i simply accept that she nevr luved me

Whenever she needed my help, she always sought my help, infact at one point of time, i felt that i was used by her...never mind, ..Should i make this last one attempt, to tell her that she's still the one i love.

Answer 1

Take a minute and think about what you just wrote...If you were to find her and she still feels the same way about you you would set yourself up for another big down fall...
Or think of this say you find her and you both get married and a few years down the road you find out she is just using you again I think that would hurt you the most...Then you would always question if other women are with you for true love or are they just using you..I agree that you should be very happy but ask yourself if you are willing to be used and not know it until it's to late..

Answer 2

You can't ask this girls to marry you. When she said she didn't deserve you that was her way of saying she's not interested in you that way. My guess is that she didn't like you well enough back then and she's moved on by now. There's no way she's going to let you come out of the blue and propose to her.

You should think about what qualities drew you to her in the first place and start looking for those qualities in other people. As long as you're obsessing over someone who won't return those feelings you're missing out on opportunities to find someone who will. A crush can be devastating and difficult to get over, but you'll find someone that likes you back.

Answer 3

Maybe you could contact her and find out what she is doing. She could be married or in a relationship. Talk to her, but don't jump in with the I want to marry you thing. You might scare her off. Just start talking to her and take it slow see where things go. After all you may find out she isn't the one and your feelings are not as they once were. She may have grown up by now and find she is interested in you now, when you may be the opposite and just not all that interested in her like you thought.

Answer 4

She took advantaged of the feelings you have for her. A lady knows when a man like her so don’t think for a second she wasn’t aware of your feelings towards her. She used you to help complete her project and that was it.

If she had any romantic interest in you, I think she would have told you by now. Move on with your life and don’t waste another second thinking about this user.

Answer 5

If you haven't stopped thinking about her since college, then of course you have to at least talk to her
if it falls apart then well, some of us are meant to be alone
not something that you want to here but you have to go to her.
plus you never said that she didn't love you, she just said that she didn't deserve you. you could still have a chance. TELL HER

Answer 6

Hey! how could you not fight for what you feel? she could be telling you to do more for her. Go and find her and keep your move fast. Everybody deserves to be happy.