Its 9 months since v r goin around n are very happpy but guys i really dont want him 2 smooch me soo how do i tell him in a way dat he does not feel embarassing plzz help n i wanna gift him somethin on valentines day help for dat also....
2007-02-03 05:13:38 · 24 answers · asked by Shelly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It kind of sound like you don't like mushy, long, lasting, all in your face kisess. Just the short quick kind. If you really care for him then you should be able to communicate what you feel. If he's trying to make you happy then he will listen to your feelings. Just tell him how it makes you feel. If you're uncomfortable with the way he's kissing you because it's in public, or it's embarassing, or you're not ready to kiss the way he's kissing you then you should tell him. I'm sure he'll understand and he would change it. If he doesn't understand your feeling then try being very clear about what kind of displays of affection you are comfortable with and tell him that you want your kisses with him to be affectionate and meaningful, not uncomfortable and awkward. If he still doesn't get it maybe this guy isn't ready for a relationship that involves communication.
A lot of times guys do things that they think girls like. They don't have the same sensitivities that girls do. Their bodies are much different from our so what may feel good to him may be gross to you. If nobody tell him that he's doing something they don't like then how will he ever know. It's your body he should be open to suggestions that make you feel good. Be very specific with him and I'm sure he'll understand.
As far as gifts go...Valentine's Day is shouldn't be about gifts. The entire point of the holiday has been blown completely out of proportion and commercialized (as usual). Why don't you try to bring some of the meaning of Valentine's day back. Try doing something that will mean a lot to him. If you think this may be a really long lasting relationship try starting your own little tradition that you can continue every year. Cook him some breakfast with heart shaped pancakes. Sit on the couch all day and watch a bunch of his favorite movies. I would try not to make it just about store-bought gifts. Do something special that reminds you of him.
2007-02-03 05:26:52 · answer #1 · answered by dapoetic1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well if you don't like to smooch which I might add that there really isn't much of a difference between kissing just tell him that your not in to that kind of thing right now. Maybe later on you might like it but for now you don't. If he loves you he will understand. No questions asked. As for a valentines day present it really all depends on what he likes. If he likes candy buy him some candy. If he likes cute silky boxers bye him a pair of cute Valentine's day boxers that has hearts or something on it. Silkier ones are nicer. Good Luck.
2007-02-03 05:22:11 · answer #2 · answered by Hugs and Kisses 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well now you are asking Doctor love here lol.Best thing to do is when he starts to do this tell him something like hey baby you know what would turn me on more than what you are doing right now then show him something you really like to be done to you..Then next time he goes to smooch you in the way you do not like he will think back to what you said,and if he does not remember your request then be blunt.Hope it all works out for you.
2007-02-03 05:21:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you feel smothered by him. Is it that you get a little annoyed and need a little space? It's very normal to feel this way. If you don't want to hurt his feelings, just be cute about it. When he's doing it just move back a little and call him whatever cute name it is you use for him when he's being a dork. The key thing is to be cute when you're doing it, otherwise he might get hurt. If you keep doing this, eventually he'll ask you why you're being like that and you can just tell him that sometimes you just feel like being serious or you're not in that "smoochy" mood. If you see he gets upset then tell him that he knows you love him and use an example of when he wants his space with you (hanging with his friends, doing his thing, whatever). If he's not doing these things anymore though, that may be a bad sign that he's getting too clingy. As far as what you want to get him for Valentine's, you know what guys like. If you and your boyfriend have sex, buy some lingerie and surprise him along with a nice shirt or something you see he's lacking in his wardrobe that he'd feel comfortable wearing. Remember that it should be something he would like to wear, not just something you'd like to see him wear. You can never go wrong with a cool shirt and a nice pair of jeans
2007-02-03 05:32:13 · answer #4 · answered by Rock, Paper, Scissors 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not sure what the difference is, but a good way to get guys to do what you want (and not what you don't want) is this:
Instead of telling him "I don't like..." and making him feel bad or embarrassed, tell him "I really like when you do...." or "I like when you do it this way..." If you show him and tell him what your favorite things are, he'll start doing those more often and the other things less (because he wants to be able to make you feel good). If he does something you don't like so much, tell him what he has done before that you really liked, and that's probably what he'll do.
Good luck!
2007-02-03 05:20:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I always thought smooching was kissing, what's the difference?
2007-02-03 05:17:04 · answer #6 · answered by Tellus A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some people dont like to be smothered and dont like someone hanging on them all the time' it dosent mean they dont love them,
im the same way' i dont like to feel smothered when im with someone' and ive been told im not very affectionate and its true.
so just tell him how you feel and if he loves you he'll understand
and if he dosent kick his *** to the curb' there are plenty of us out there!
and if youve only been together 9 months i wouldnt go spending a bunch of money on him for valentines day' just keep it simple' guys dont like alot for valentines day anyway unless he's a fag.
2007-02-03 05:24:41 · answer #7 · answered by chuckdaddypapalove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i always thought smooch was just a different word for kiss? just tell him you don't want to embarrass him... but that you really don't like it. trust me he doesn't want to do anything you don't like. he'll appreaciate the heads up because how is he supposed to know if you don't tell him?
2007-02-03 05:17:39 · answer #8 · answered by fullofsugaw 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm a guy who will provide u an significant piece of suggestion all women persons could be attentive to. a guy's love isn't gonna replace if u placed out extra/ or much less. it doens't matter if we like u we like u. it would desire to sexually frustate him that's in basic terms no longer stable on the courting, yet whilst your no longer gonna provide him intercourse then u could enable him kiss u. u look like u do in comparison to kissing him nonetheless. like its a priveledge for him. thats no longer stable. i think of the two considered one of u might desire to have a huge communicate approximately all this
2016-10-01 09:04:57 · answer #9 · answered by scoggin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mean you just want a bird peck, and he wants to make out? What's wrong with making out? If you don't enjoy 'smooching' he's not gonna be your boyfriend for long.
2007-02-03 05:16:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋