wants the same things as me. I know men and one just wants a roll in the sack but never takes me out ever.. another says he thinks Im beautiful but never wants to go out and another is crazy about me but I dont care for him. I have never been married and yearn for that kind of love from someone who only has eyes for me. I get so sad about it at times to the point where I think of hurting myself. I have had boyfriends before but havent had one in over two years. I know Im not crazy and never would really harm myslef, But I get quite sad about it often. I live alone and want to share the love I have but no one that I want to give it to seems to want it. The guy that says i am gorgeous to him calls once in a while but when I ask him to meet me for dinner or something, he doesnt call back for days which leaves me to believe that he says these things to make me feel good then leaves me flat shortly later. I cant seem to trust But am a Christian woman but I am having a hard time having faith
2007-02-03 05:11:51 · 15 answers · asked by Heather S 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im sorry you feel this way, but just know God has someone out there for you, you just need to put your full trust in him and he will provide. We all want someone to love and someone to love us, but that type of love cant compare to the love he has for us. i hope everything works out!
2007-02-03 05:16:55 · answer #1 · answered by shelly s 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to say this, but you don't come out as smart as you claim to be. Contrary to your belief or claim that you are looking for a guy who just loves you for your sake, you are actually looking for one with a combination of qualities very close to total perfection. And no one is perfect. You are crazy for one who makes the right kind of noises on the phone but vanishes conveniently. There is one who is really crazy for you, but you care less. Try to find someone who is reasonable and loving. Very few people go to extremes for the sake of love in this age and time. All the men who have said they would do anything for your love have probably talked crap. Falling in love in an emotional outburst is probably the best. But at 32, you are more cautious. So you go about judging a respondent in your own way before committing. And that is hardly helpful, although I agree that the barest caution is necessary. Anyway, all the best. May you meet your man soon.
2007-02-03 05:43:17 · answer #2 · answered by Modest 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am so glad you added that last line. Are you an active Christian ? The reason I ask is because I live in Houston, Texas and attend Second Baptist Church and 2 of its Bible Study groups. In those groups are so many people to meet and so much is going on. It is a large church and we love being there. If I weren't happily married, I would sure be in the right place. ha ha
Now on the other hand, if you are sleeping around, guys want it till they get it. They figure if she will sleep with me,then who else has she slept with?? Also, I am sure you must have heard about "Why buy a cow ? If you can milk it for free ??
Don't go to bars and such places looking to meet someone. You most likely would not like marriage to one out of a drinking, pickup environment~~. Do you have a dog ?? I have heard that is a good way to meet someone. Take them walking in the park, rest on a bench, put yourself out there, to be seen, but be careful. You know, everywhere lurks sick people.~~ Go to the zoo.
My oldest daughter was in your position at one time and she was an airline stewardess with United, super personality, lived in another state from us and she told me that she found herself other interest like a hobby and volunteer work and then it was like guys started coming out of the woodwork. Shes happily married today.~~Jill
2007-02-03 05:57:56 · answer #3 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever seen the movie Under the Tuscan Sun? One of the characters talks about how she use to look for ladybugs when she was little and that no matter how hard she looked she could never find it. But then she fell asleep while she was looking and when she woke up there were ladybugs everywhere.
The moral of the story is if you try too hard you never find it, it isn't until you stop looking for it that you will find it. The same goes for lost objects. lol.
Honestly though, there is a reason for everything and I believe that the reason you are still single and haven't found your guy is because the guy you are meant for is not ready for you yet or vice versa.
2007-02-03 05:24:57 · answer #4 · answered by Julie T 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have found that when I obsess on what is lacking in my life rather than what enhances my life, it is what is missing that becomes the focus. Instead you might look for activities that you enjoy, find things to do that appeal to you, and then when you meet someone, they are more likely to be someone you can share your life with. I recently met someone through the Sierra Club, and it's been a wonderful surprise to find the mutual things we enjoy. From your description of yourself, you sound like someone who would be a great partner, however it seems as though you are either not meeting anyone who appreciates you, or projecting a sense of need that may be pushing the men you meet away from you. A good friend of mine is getting married soon, to a fellow she met at a local sailing club. Another friend is dating a guy she met via the Sierra Club. Another friend is going with someone from her church. However it's important that you see yourself as complete with who you are alone, rather then expecting that only when you have a man in your life, will it become meaningful. As you gain confidence in who you are, you will find more men attracted to you, and be able to weed out those who don't appreciate you. Good luck.
2007-02-03 05:31:24 · answer #5 · answered by Sailinlove 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not a matter of age, or faith. Its a matter or the society in which we live. You admit there are guys you like but dont like you, and guys who like you but you dont care about. Maybe instead of focusing on the ones you like and who are complimenting you but not following through with actions, look at those guys that are crazy for you but you dont go out with. Given a chance they might just be what you are looking for. Barring that, go to places and join clubs without the expectation of meeting someone, but the expectation of not being alone. Stop searching and it may come to you. Yeah, men dont want to settle down, fact of life unfortunately.
2007-02-03 05:18:49 · answer #6 · answered by fancyname 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might have tried to hard. Guys like women who are for the most part..down to Earth and understanding but not a complete pushover. If you're desperate or trying too hard to be on top of things, to make everything perfect, than that is more about you satisfying your need to impress him more than staying within yourself. He wants to get to know *you* not super woman :-P. You may not even be that way but that would be my guess just based off of the little you wrote.
2016-03-29 03:08:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're a Christian woman, you know God has a plan for you, and will bring you someone. Sitting around feeling miserable isn't going to get him any nearer to you. This is just another one of God's tests to build your character and confirm your true faith. You have to believe, and tell yourself that God has someone for you and when He feels the time is right, he will appear.
2007-02-03 05:17:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmm...why do you give a damn about the guy who seems to like you? are you being reasonable by ignoring that guy? do you have a real reason for not liking him?
as for the other part, dont get depressed. please. its not going to help. stop thinking and take some action. you can try to meet new ppl of your age coz if they're single they're feeling lonely too. let age not be a factor here. you can try dating sites. try and do something anything to meet new people.
there is someone for you. dont worry. it will happen.
2007-02-03 05:24:50 · answer #9 · answered by drno 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lower your standards! Whether that has to do with the qualities you think you seek in a man or in your adherence to what you believe your faith tells you is appropriate behavior.
Typically the more open you are the better shot you have of finding what you really want. You are only limiting yourself to your own possibilities.
2007-02-03 05:17:55 · answer #10 · answered by CoolFin69 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋