I have had a boyfriend since 2 fridays ago, and we're really nervous around eachother. When we see each other in public we say hey what's up, then we don't really say anything after that. I'm a really shy person, but is there any way we can get more comfortable with eath other so we can actually seem like we're dating??
2007-02-03 05:04:36 · 17 answers · asked by emm 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
btw i can't single date till i'm 16, and i'm 14 right now.
2007-02-03 05:15:35 · update #1
he's my 1st boyfriend
2007-02-03 05:42:41 · update #2
spend time together and show eachother EVERY side of you so u will be comfortable talking about anythin and u'll have fun together
2007-02-03 05:09:35 · answer #1 · answered by Agent Buckwald! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of something that you like to do and ask him if he is interested in joinigng you or if he doesn't seem interested in that ask him if he has anything in mind. You could also talk on the phone and just find out what sorts of things you both like to do or maybe do something neither one of you has done before. Try not to have too many expectations about what ever you do plan. Keeping it simple, like going for a walk, may be the best way to break the ice a little. Being around friends may not always be the best way to get to know someone.
First boyfriend eh, sounds like how I was with my first girlfriend, I still give the same advice! If it doesn't work out for some reason, I'm sure you'll have many more chances. Good Luck, and have fun!
2007-02-03 13:19:16 · answer #2 · answered by K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you?? Middle School? younger? older?
It takes time. I helps if you were friends before.
I think you should make some 1st moves. Call him just to talk (but make sure it's at a convienent time, and you have things to talk about!)
Do this for a while, and try to start little conversations in person. Be confident and comfortable in your own skin.....I'm sure that'll impress him! :-)
If this continues, though, and he doesen't make the effort to do anything for like a month, or something, then he's not worth it.......dump him.
I have been in a few situations like this....are you his 1st girlfriend?? If so, he may be just nervous and inexpierenced. Maybe he really likes you and doesen't want to take the risk of messing up.
Endless possibilities.....just give it time! :-)
Best Wishes!!!
Oh ya-- try hanging out with mutural friends, or around other people. That might make the 2 of you more comfortable with each other.
Good Luck!! ;-)
2007-02-03 13:11:56 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Charming's Princess♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a boat and go fishing where you don't really need to talk anyway. Or just spend more time together and as you grow to know each other's personalities, you'll find things to talk about as well. What I think is happening now is the two of you don't really know enough about each other to know how to strike up conversation. Try asking him why he is so quiet. That may break the ice for you to initiate a conversation about why you guys aren't talking to each other more and how that makes you feel. If you can't discuss your feelings with someone then maybe you need a new boyfriend.
2007-02-03 13:15:44 · answer #4 · answered by froggsfriend 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you guys are boyfriend girlfriend! Start acting like it, from the sounds of it you are really young. At least to be having a boyfriend, but in the world we live in even 10 year olds have had boyfriends and have given away thier first kiss. So yeah, I guess so. But listen, Invite him to your house and have dinner with the family (see if they approve, if they do, you are a okay) watch a movie with some friends or even just you two. Valentines is coming up so you might want to go ahead and do something together. The boyfriends and girlfriends in my neighborhood normally just watch some movies and hang out, so they can get to know one another. I know you are shy but since he is your boyfriend, so you can loosen up. Trust me it will be fine. He did ask you out, right? I am sure if you two just get to know each other everything will turn out perfect! If you guys go to the same school you ought to try just walking together to classes, or even him walking you to a class. I got tons of dating advice, just go ahead and email me if you have any more questions. I am more than willing to help!
Enjoy Valentines day!!! <3 *sniffs the air and smells love*
2007-02-03 13:13:55 · answer #5 · answered by Juice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to find something in common with him that you two can get enthusiastic about sharing. Then you should naturally become comfortable with each other. This means that you two should sit down over coffee or something and get to know each other by conversing kind of like in a job interview to see if you are a good fit for each other.
I notice when I find out something about a person that is similar to something about me, the conversation and interest in each other becomes a lot more natural and less nervous.
2007-02-03 13:07:22 · answer #6 · answered by Dana Katherine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go on a date! Try something interactive where you can talk and joke with eachother. Not the movies. Maybe bowling and bring some other friends if you don't think either of you will take a chance and break the ice.
2007-02-03 13:09:32 · answer #7 · answered by bigjim1203 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are having trouble talking to each other in person maybe try talking a bit over text or email just to get to know each other better and break the ice, then arrange to go out just the two of you, but doing something fun where you'll relax naturally.....like bowling or something?
Hope this helps x
2007-02-03 13:10:09 · answer #8 · answered by caz_rabbit_85 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you're both shy. Simply try to be yourself. Dont worry about what you're gonna say. Talking about things that interest you.......and asking him his interests will begin to be more comfortable. Try to relax. In time you wont even realize how easy it is. Dont think of it as dating. But rather simply visiting with a friend! ;)
2007-02-03 13:11:06 · answer #9 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of just hanging out together wondering what to talk about, try planning a fun activity that the two of you can do together, like going to a movie, or bowling or something like that.
2007-02-03 13:09:44 · answer #10 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you need to do is just talk to him over the phone and write notes back and forth this will mentally get you more comfortable around him and allowing you to connect a bound to him like a friend...remember boyfriend has the work friend in it that is what they need to be....just a better friend then normal
2007-02-03 13:09:52 · answer #11 · answered by helpgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋