I hurt my back in February of 2006 and I couldn't have sex for a while like 6 months +. My boyfriend of seven years started "seeing" this other girl behind my back and when I found out he started sleeping with her. He says that any man would have done that - because "MEN have needs". So did I deserve this because I couldn't give it up? Note: He never once asked me about it or ever brought it up. Also he wants me back but I am having a hard time forgiving him...
2007-02-03 04:52:34 · 26 answers · asked by wicked1too 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Of course you didn't deserve it!
You shouldn't forgive him. That reasoning is lame. If he was really having a hard time staying with you because you weren't meeting his needs, he should have talked to you about it and told you the truth.
You didn't deserve it. Remember that. Sounds kind of like his lame excuse for why he played you. It's up to you, of course, if you want to take him back or not. But I'm willing to bet you could find a better guy who would treat you better than that.
2007-02-03 04:58:46 · answer #1 · answered by Cristina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you did not deserve what he did. Never once did he think about your need or your pain. Men have needs true but if it is real love then he wouldn't have put his need first and slept with someone else. That is not acceptable! You were hurt and he wasn't there for you. Six months is not along time to go without sex and it was not that serious he would have did better jacking off if he felt like he needed to relieve pressure. That's exactly what my boyfriend does if he don't get it when he needs it because he understands that I work and I go to school and sometimes I don't have time to give it to him when he wants it but he has never cheated on that I know of. You can forgive him but I don't think that you will ever trust him again. So the best thing I can tell you is to follow your heart and do what's best for you.
2007-02-03 05:03:26 · answer #2 · answered by doodie315 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you don't deserve it i think Ur boyfriend is a ******* Nob cos women shouldn't be used for sex he could have at least helped u recover and look after you and the excuse "men have needs" omfg that is so lame you do not deserve this i would go up to him and give him a slap cos that's what he deserves don't you dare think about forgiving him he does not deserve a second chance since for what he done to you sorry bout all the anger and swearing my humblest apologies.
2007-02-03 04:59:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES,---YOU DESERVE
to find someone who will be respectful of you, during both good and bad times.
You hurt your back... SO in turn he Broke your Heart....? What a dog! Make that a Dog in Heat! Drop him off at the local dog pound... and dont look back!
If you take him back, after he did you dirty this way, that would just tell him that you will tolerate such disrespectful treatment from him.
Find a real man, who you can count on. And he has proved that he is not the one!
Good luck!
2007-02-03 06:47:19 · answer #4 · answered by Mikez Bad Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no you don't deserve that. Any man that cared for his lady would have found some other way than cheating on his lady. There is masturbation,cold showers,& other ways. MEN have needs, hell women have needs also. Like a faithful mate that is understanding,caring & there for them when they're needed. Dump the jerk & find someone that will respect,care,love & just be there for you no matter what.
2007-02-03 06:09:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutley, positively.....nooooooot. The guy is a slug. There is never an excuse for cheating, especially sexually. and once someone treats you like that, they will do it again. Turn around and never look back. You didn't deserve it. Nobody does. And I've seen it first hand(yes...girls do the same thing). there is someone out there who will treat you right. Wait for them....
2007-02-03 05:01:44 · answer #6 · answered by Voyager01 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if your bf cant support you when you are sick and need him for a change let him go he is not good enough for you.
and accepting him back should not even be a thought. let him go back to who ever he was with ,my guess is he will do the same to her in fact he already has by asking to come back to you . he has disrespected both of you and used you both to his own ends.there are a lot of nice guys out there give them a chance, this one no longer deserves another chance. dont be a victim!!
2007-02-03 05:17:24 · answer #7 · answered by Brite Star 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He cheated on you once, he will cheat on you again. Yes Men have needs, women have needs to and if this clod is going to use that as an excuse for cheating, kick that low life scum to the curb and find yourself a real man that will be there for you in your time of need.
2007-02-03 04:57:59 · answer #8 · answered by itzmedbd 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
of course you didnt deserve it . tell him that women too have needs!! it wasnt exactly easy for you either and he wasnt the least bit understanding,its not like you didnt want to have sex with him you simply couldnt. Make him grovel and beg but dont take him back if he loved you he'd make the same sacrifice you are making
2007-02-03 04:59:52 · answer #9 · answered by cherrielicker 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO.
Don't ever think you deserved some dumb a** doing something like that. It's stupid. If he really loved you, he wouldn't have "needs". His only needs would be to spend time with you and talk to you and see you. No one ever deserves someone doing that to them. Dump him big time! :[
2007-02-03 04:57:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋