2007-02-03 04:38:35 · 19 answers · asked by dewgongoo 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
of course is wrong...you should love your kids equally.
2007-02-03 04:41:59 · answer #1 · answered by BUTTERFLY 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone says it is wrong, but is is inevitable. Think, don't you have a best friend, or prefer one inlaw over another. Just like you prefer a certain food or tv show or movie.
Of course people are gonna have a favorite in everything
It is up to the parent to be mature enough to not let there preferences lead them to treat one extra special.
It has nothing to do with loving a child. You can love more thatn one person but prefer the company of one special one. One child may like the same things as you while the other does not, so it is very normal to prefer that person.
2007-02-03 05:10:07 · answer #2 · answered by noblelady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have a favorite son/daughter. And, every chance you get, you should throw it in the other kid's face. If they want to be your favorite too, they will start acting like the other one. If they don't care, just explain to them that is why you don't like them.
2007-02-03 05:13:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but I've never felt children should be treated "equal" It is ok to recognize that they have different characteristics and needs. You can love certain things about each of them, but overall not one more than the other. You may naturally feel a deeper connection to one or the other, but you should always analyze why that is
2007-02-03 09:57:03 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pardon my french on this,but..........it sure as hell is wrong.i became a step parent almost 2 years ago.my step kids dad passed from cancer.my step daughter was daddys angel and could do no wrong.my step son was treated like dirt.if they both threw a rock through the front window he would get the blame. it leaves resentment and tons of anger for the the other kids.
2007-02-03 08:33:06 · answer #5 · answered by gary s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2007-02-03 06:59:05 · answer #6 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think it's wrong. Imagine when you were a kid and if you were not your parent's favorite children how would you feel? Kids have feelings to.
2007-02-03 05:06:13 · answer #7 · answered by uniqaznmeg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be. You can upset the other child(ren) if they notice. And the fav may try to rub it in. You should love all them equally. Kids all need to be loved. Espacially by their parents, so if you love someone more than them it will really hurt their feelings. You should try and figure out if anyone notices the "special treatment".
2007-02-03 08:03:40 · answer #8 · answered by bubble bunny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 09:02:07 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES, not only wrong, but its not right, as parents your supposed to love your children equally, i can say this, because my father has always favored my sister over me, and i still don't know why to this day, she is a very bad person, who has not gone anywhere in her life. But maybe thats why he likes her more, he feels he has to be able to help her, the sad thing is shes the oldest in the family! It hurts a lot knowing your parent is like this, so if you feel this way, please seek out counseling!
2007-02-03 04:45:12 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs. Novak 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all....YES YES YES!!!!!
Stop and think a moment. Kids are very perceptive. How much would it hurt to know you are NOT the favorite. How guilty would you feel to know you ARE the favorite.
I think it's fairly normal to feel differently about each child and maybe "connect" more w/ one child than another. HOwever, I think that any parent who begins to think of one child as his/her favorite needs to step back and consiously choose to see the others in their own unique light.
As to "treat each child the same" or "love each child the same" I DISAGREE strongly. Each child is an individual w/ individual needs. If you treat them all the SAME, you would really be being UNFAIR to each child. Each child should be treated according to his/her needs and unique person. Each child has something completely unique to offer the world. Perhaps the child who is the biggest "challenge" for you to love has the most to teach you.
2007-02-03 04:46:45 · answer #11 · answered by Kari 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋