I am in a relationship with a girl for 2years+... we go to the same uni ... the problem is my love for her had faded... i tried asking for breaking up many many times but none of it succeed... we will end up arguing n she threaten to kill herself ..so i have no other choice than to keep being with her althought i dont want to be with her. We argue almost every week even for the smallest thing. Anyone out there who can really give me some advice on how to deal with this problem. I've always been a happy n optimistic person but now i feel like leaving this world at times.
2007-02-03 04:24:07 · 21 answers · asked by reeve6 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When your love for someone has faded, you have no other choice but to break up with them. You have to be straight-foward and strong with her. Don't let her take you down. Ignore any threatenting. You are not responsible for her feelings. If she wants to kill herself, that is not your problem.
Say, " Look, we've been together a long time, and I really don't love you anymore. I'm sorry, but can we just be friends?" Her reaction will be over dramatic- you just have to keep at it. Don't give up. You should not be in a relationship you don't want to be in. If you need to, don't wait for her answer. Just leave. I hope I'm not sounding harsh... but really, like I said before, her feelings are not your problem. All you know right now is that being with her is making you unhappy and you have a responsiblity for how you feel. If she is leaving you no other choice, walking out is what you'll have to do.
2007-02-11 02:20:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone thinks they're going to die when a breakup occurs.
Tell her it's not fair to her to keep the relationship going. You are no longer in love and now she can find someone who does love her. You can't be in a loveless relationship because of her threats, don't you want to he happy too? Move on and talk to her best friend about her threats.
2007-02-11 04:28:21 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to do it...it helps to ease the hurt on them by telling them you need a break. This initially gives them hope that you may get back together.
All the guys I broke up with said they would commit suicide they never do. It's a call for attention.
There's no reason for you to miserable. It's such a relief once it's done.
Good Luck....do it today!!!
2007-02-03 04:29:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the time u usally spend together and just talk it out with her. Tell her how u feel dont hide back nothing,, be open nd real . tell her how u believe it was not gonna go the right ,so u just wanna leave this.and u been trying ur hardest to tell her u feel bout it just not connection. and u cant make this relationship better.thats it! life goes on
2007-02-03 04:32:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually when somebody threatens to kill themselves in a situation like that.. its nothing more than a threat. She's probably scared to lose you. Try tellin her your breaking up with her instead of asking her. Let her know you don't want to hurt her and you care. Good luck!
2007-02-03 04:29:06 · answer #5 · answered by shortee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well DON'T kill yourself you just need a guide in life like the lord jesus christ he helps anyone with a problem and so tonight before you go to bed kneel by your bed and pray to the lord to help you with your problems god has a path for every one you just haven't found your yet.
2007-02-11 04:01:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to make it short and polite, dont ask her about breaking up,,,,, just say that you are breaking up,,,, that you are not happy in the relationship,,,,,,, its not her option to not let you break up with her,,,,,,,, if she wants to argue or threatens harm to herself, just tell her you wish the best for her,,,, that you are not going to argue about it, that your decision is made,,,,, from that point on,,,,, walk away,,,, both physically and mentally,,, as you are no longer a couple,,,,,, what she does or how she acts after that is her own responsibility,,,,, no one can cause anyone to kill theirselves,, that comes from within their ownself,,,
2007-02-03 04:29:22 · answer #7 · answered by dlin333 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant stay with her if you dont love her. Dont let her force you to stay in this relationship. Tell her family you think she will hurt herself. Try to get her help. But do whats best for you.
2007-02-03 04:33:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit her down one day..and explain to her what happen to ur love to her..she might feel bad...and say she will kill her self but u know what...she cant stop u that way...u have to tell her to stop...that ur not gonna take this no more...that she WILL find a man that will love her more then u loved her....
Good LUCK
2007-02-03 04:30:10 · answer #9 · answered by SGx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm i am afraid that there wont b a peaceful breakup the sooner u break up the better. if ur afraid that she might kill herself, then get professional help!!! a therapist or sumthing!!!
2007-02-03 04:32:22 · answer #10 · answered by book worm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋