Me and my fiance have a six month old baby. My fiance is a great guy who takes care of us and is great when it comes to talking and understanding my feelings and such, but when it comes to changing lightbulbs, putting air in the car tires, fixing tthings when they break.......I have to ask him a million times to do it before it gets done. I want him to just do these things on his own free will or at least when I say "Oh man, the light is burnt out in the hallway." I feel like his mother or something having to tell him what to do. And I cant trust him to just change the damn lightbulb when he flicks the switch and knows that it is burnt out, so I have to keep all these chores in the back of my mind everyday along with taking care of a baby.
Any suggestions on fixing this without causing an arguement?
2007-02-03 04:19:34 · 9 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
and before you answer my question rudely, yes i can and know how to change a bulb, NO I WILL NOT GET UP ON A LADDER WHILE HOLDING MY SON TO CHANGE A FRICKEN LIGHTBULB THAT SHOULD HAVE BEEN CHA NGED Q WEEK AGO BY MY FIANCE
I was only looking for helpful suggestions
2007-02-03 04:40:50 · update #1
ever heard of "feminism"??? grow up... there are no "man chores" no "woman chores" maybe you ought to think about how you ask him? Your question is filled with nag... nag... nag...
He's got more important things to consider... like health care, keeping a roof over the top of the two most important people in his life, putting food on the table... and easing your stress... all the while having to put up with your NAGGING *SS!!! over simple little things like air in the tires? a burnt out light bulb?
Absolutely your NOT his mother... nor is he YOUR father... just because you mother nagged your father about that simple sh*t... doesn't mean it was the "right" thing to do... have a little compassion lady... give him a break.. it's been 6 months... surely YOU can get on a stool and change a light bulb.
2007-02-03 04:32:32 · answer #1 · answered by alex b 3 · 2⤊ 4⤋
What's wrong with doing some of those things yourself? Believe it or not, you can put the baby down before you change the light bulb. If your fiance is working all day, and you are home, I would say the bulk of the household stuff should fall to you. Before you say " I can't - I have to take care of the baby!", remember millions of women take care of their children while they are doing the laundry, grocery shopping, taking the car to put air in the tires, working, volunteering, etc. Here's a little hint that will make your life easier. When you are nice to a man, he will do most anything for you. Stop following him around with a list of chores, and just try being sweet for a day or two. It may take a little longer if you have been a constant nag. Before long, you will notice a difference.
2007-02-03 09:18:34 · answer #2 · answered by Tiss 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Men are kind of slow that way. I do the same thing to my wife and just realized it when I read this. We do notice it and plan to do it, but then other things get on our minds and we forget about it...not meaning to. LOL We are not good at multi-tasking like women are. And don't listen to anyone who told you to do it yourself.....you have a baby to take care of. Just give him a kiss and ask him to change the bulb and hopefully he'll get up and do it right then. I guess you could tell him to take care of the baby while you change the lightbulb. That should get his attention! Good luck with this, and I'm sure my wife will thank you for making me aware of this.
2007-02-03 06:52:42 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's kinda hard to fix that. All guys do the same thing. You have an issue with the light bulb, my cousing has an issue with taking out the trash, my mom has an issue with empty containers in the fridge and the dirty underwear on the bathroom floor and I had an issue with the used q-tips on the floor. I think there brain simply isn't made for it or they just play dumb and cross their fingers hoping you'll do it yourself.
The only way to kinda fixing it is ignore it all. If the light bulb is burnt out, leave it like that. Tell his friends to come over so they can see the things that are broken and then ask one of his friends to do it...lol. Hopefully the shame will jump start his brains
2007-02-03 04:31:44 · answer #4 · answered by mindblower_2k 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
FIRST, ignore the people who obviously havent taken care of a baby and are telling you to do the work and not nag your man. i am a single mother and i do it all.but i am SINGLE! what you got on your hands is a man child. a man who thinks bringing home a pay check excuses him from doing chores. let me say this and you HAVE to understand what i say is true, and its what everyone who's answered this question is trying to tell you (even though some are more rude than others.) so here goes: HE WILL NEVER EVER EVER IN A MILLION YEARS CHANGE! there i said it. men do not change. its as simple as that. you have to make a decision here, but it NOT going to about how to get him to help out. it's about how are you going to do all those chores. and in the meantime YES tell him you are disappointed in him, even ambarrassed. question him INFRONT of his mother. you have the power to let him know you are not happy about his behavior. BUT that is not going to change him. it's just gonna make it very clear how you feel. and perhaps once you vent a bit, you can move on and do it all. its not fair but you married a sexist. which is ironic because the fact you think there are men chores is kind of sexist lol so obviously you two are together because you love each other and are alot alike. so dont hate him, or leave him, or threaten to leave him. you love him. and just think twice about having another kid. because doing chores with one baby is tough but with more than one kid...it's HELL!!
2007-02-03 04:43:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
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2016-11-02 05:23:14 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you make it sound like this problem just magically popped up out of nowhere. you know what you got yourself into... quit being sexist, women can change bulbs too...
2007-02-03 04:36:06 · answer #7 · answered by Tacyella 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sounds like most husbands!
all you can do is ask nicely and thank him nicely when he does something. i know its silly, but thats the way most of the men i know are!
as they get older it does get better...........have patience!
2007-02-06 20:27:34 · answer #8 · answered by tess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick his *** to the curb. If he don't get it now, he won't ever get it.
find a real man, for you deserve one.
2007-02-03 04:24:24 · answer #9 · answered by NONAME 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋