She asked me permission and I told her no, becuase I don't trust the hiegene in these places. I am afraid of her catching a disease. Is there a safer way she can get her belly pierced? thanking you in advance.
2007-02-03 04:17:52 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
If you tell her no, chances are that she's going to find a way to do it anyways. You should let her do it and go with her- research the place before you go. There are a lot of hygienic places around, just look them up online- maybe on citysearch- or call around and maybe visit. In any case, I think it's better if you go along with her- she'll also gain more trust in you.
I got my naval pierced when I was 15 and I've had it pierced for 10 years now with no problem. Like your daughter, I asked my mom for permission and she accompanied me to a nice clean and hygienic place.
2007-02-03 04:23:33 · answer #1 · answered by valbee 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well, there are many places to get pierced that may look scary, but in fact are very clean.
they'd loose their license to pierce if they weren't. they have to use clean, new needles for every thing they do.
you can also go to your family doctor, and he can do it. it's done less that way, but i know it can be done.
also, if you say no, you mean no. she cannot have it done without your signature until she's 18. think about it, you're the one with the magic words.
anyways, 14, i think, is way too young. i had mine done when i was 16. some think this is too young, and i can understand why anyone would think that. actually, it probably was. no 16 year old girl needs to be walking around with something that is made purposefully as a sex symbol. think of it like that.
and your daughter is only 14.
i know these days kids are starting to have sex when they're like 10, so do your job as a parent and choose what's best for her based on how you want her to live her life morally.
i mean, a belly button piercing could just be a piercing, but guys find it sexy, and girls use it to be sexy.
2007-02-03 04:24:42 · answer #2 · answered by triskay86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have done a good thing..and you are right. But now a day like make up girls are wanting to pierce their bodies to stay with in a style. It will be hard to keep her from piercing body parts and you will need to watch her very close. But maybe I can suggest to go with her and check out the piercing places for hygienics. I have had two daughters and I resisted them from piercing their bodies but they will do it. So I made a pact with them to keep the peace in the family. I asked them not to do anything in their face as far as piercing goes and they can pierce any other part of their body. I think your worry of infection is not well founded as I am sure the ear piercing is just as potentially dangerous but 95 % of girls piercing their ears. Belly buttons don't seem to be all that dangerous. If you are still against it then you are the mother so stick to your guns, but I think the belly button is not a dangerous place. Just be sure you have the place they pierce is check out and you and her understand the cleaning process and the risks. Good Luck
2007-02-03 04:54:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could ask her where she plans on getting it done. When you find out, go to the place and talk with the owner or with people that work there.
Do any of her friends have this sort of piercing? If so, ask where they got it done and ask if they had any problems.
Research it on the internet. Print some things out for her to read so that she can educate herself on this subject. Make sure you don't focus on just the bad things that could happen. Make it an even number of advantages and disadvantages.
What you don't want her to do is to go out and get it done behind your back.
I have a 14 year old daughter also. Mine wants a tattoo. I took her to the tattoo shop, we looked at some things, then I had the guy do a test on her with the needle so she would know what it actually felt like to be tattooed.
She hasn't agreed to go back yet. lol
2007-02-03 04:24:50 · answer #4 · answered by Doodlebug 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is illegal to get it done before 18 without parental consent isn't it?
Tell her that when she turns 16 (halfway point) you will take her yourself, (I know, I know, hear me out) ... that way you both get what you want. You can check for cleanliness and health codes and she will get something that is actually a rite of passage and her choice.
My best friend got both his nipples pierced in the bathroom of a gay bar by a stranger with a needle... Is that really what you want to push her into?
Not to mention, she will have two years to think about it!
If she disobeys you and breaks the agreement between you and does it before hand... Make her take it out and let it close up.
If you really think about it... Piercings are almost always temporary... Now Tattoos... They are more or less forever and loads more obvious! You have a daughter who is interested in the lesser of two extremes. To me, that shows some common sense.
2007-02-03 04:28:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend a piercing shop that is in say.. a shopping mall or city center. These places are under pressure to maintain their image so are likely to have sterile and safe conditions.
Your daughter should be proud that you are a caring parent. There arent alot of them these days. I trust you will choose a safe environment and everything will go well.
2007-02-03 04:29:00 · answer #6 · answered by Dr A. Vencicio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're afraid to let her, then don't! She's only 14 years old; you're still in charge of her. Although it's nice that you want to give her some freedom, you should probably have her wait until she's older, at least 17, until she makes that kind of decision. Belly button piercings can easily get infected; two of my friends can contest to that.
2007-02-03 04:23:04 · answer #7 · answered by Prue 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Explain to her that you are not trying to be a naggy parent, that you are afraid for her safety because of the level of infection that goes with bellybutton piercing and of course the discomfort of having it done. You could also maybe let her get it done as long as she kept it clean using antiseptic wipes regularly, she may respect your decisions more if you give her the benefit of the doubt but make sure she keeps her side of the compromise.
2007-02-03 04:28:56 · answer #8 · answered by Only Sometimes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No convincing needed. She's not at the age where she can make that decision on her own. Yeah, she may think it's cute, but it's not good for her. At 14, she doesn't need that. Hygeine is a problem, but there are other problems as well.
Don't try to make her happy or be her "buddy." You have to be a parent first, and by doing that, you need to make sure she stays safe. You say no, the answer is no. She may argue, but your answer was no, and you are her PARENT.
2007-02-03 04:35:08 · answer #9 · answered by kristikclark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Places usually use very sterile procedures when piercing, for fear of lawsuits. It's safer than her trying to do it herself, or letting a friend do it, which is what she might resort to. Places that do piercings are very careful, use sterile instuments, and they are professionals, and can instruct her on the proper care of it until it heals. That's your best bet. Just go with her, and monitor what is being done..and express your concerns to the piercer,....They understand and can put your mind at ease.
2007-02-03 04:26:04 · answer #10 · answered by jakkibluu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋