My boyfriend did some stuff to really make me mad. I want to act like I'm not starting to care for him. What do I do? I really care still but I don't want him to know that until he thinks about what he did. What are somethings I can do that will hide my feelings until he apologizes? We live together too and I want to keep it that way because of my job and I love him so much that I don't want to lose him but I want him to know he almost lost me and if there is ever a next time he will lose me
2007-02-03 03:57:46 · 11 answers · asked by garber_jamie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stop doing things for him, wash your own clothes, cook your own meals, but do not do his, and don't have sex with him. This will show him you mean business
2007-02-03 04:01:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Playing the passive-agressive role rarely works and sometimes backfires. He may just say, "fine, she's going to be like that, I'm outta here." The best thing to do is tell him how you feel with what he did sans the yelling and screaming. That will also get you no where. You want to voice your feelings, then do so calmly and rationally. But, being passive-agressive only ends up aggrivating the other person.
2007-02-03 12:06:45 · answer #2 · answered by Groovy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will come around and when he goes to talk to you about it or if he doesn't you bring it up if its been a long time. don't be mean about it just sit him down and say honey this thing that you did upset me very much and I just can't take that kinda stuff and I am sorry but if you do something like this again, we are going to have to part. Remember don't say it mean or nasty. Just let him respond and discuss the matter without yelling at each other, that just leads to more negativity. Hope this helps take care Heather
2007-02-03 12:03:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah this idea of yours is pretty stupid... if you want to teach him a lesson, it probably will backfire. your best bet is actually telling him that he made you feel a certain way for x and y reason. it is more complicated to ignore him since you actually live with him so once again the best thing you can ever do is actually come out and say what ticked you off. more then likely he won't even notice you ignore him since he is a GUY and doesn't even know you're mad at him... if he knows that you're mad at him, he probably doesn't know why. just tell the guy.
2007-02-03 12:04:52 · answer #4 · answered by melloncollieromance 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't hide your feelings, be direct and tell him straight up that what he did was not acceptable and if it happens again you are leaving him. I don't know how old you are but that sort of stuff is supposed to end in high school.
2007-02-03 12:02:36 · answer #5 · answered by d_magical_s_sweetness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your are taking the wrong approach. What you want to do is called "game playing". It's for kids. If you're in a serious relationship, it won't work.
Be honest, let him know how pissed you are. Insist it won't happen again and then move on. If he's not ready to acknowledge what he did, think about moving on.
2007-02-03 12:03:50 · answer #6 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying to teach your boyfriend a lesson...he made you mad...ok just tell him..hey you really made me mad the other day, please try to not do it again!
When you do things like you are tying to it just causes more problems...you only live life once...enjoy it!!!!
2007-02-03 12:01:54 · answer #7 · answered by Dance♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know? im in the same situation girl. same exact thing. and sometimes guys dont get it through their thick skulls that theyve hurt you. and if you talk to him he may not listen. go be with your friends. just try not to think about him. if he loves you he will come back to you and if you go crawling back to him he will think he is in control. dont do it.wait for him and when he does , he will be emotionally open. thats when you talk to him. i know how hard it is to do this . my mind is screaming to call him and beg him to bewith me forever but that gives him the control and when this happens he treats me like dirt. just do what you do until he comes to you
2007-02-03 12:06:08 · answer #8 · answered by xsilverxthornx999 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok if you are having to act like your mad... your not mad. your manipulative.
go with true feelings and dont fake them .
2007-02-03 12:02:14 · answer #9 · answered by Miss Johny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should just not care and flirt with other guys.
2007-02-03 12:02:00 · answer #10 · answered by star 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋