what should i do?
i have got together with a really lovely guy but i know that he will be leaving to go back to his country in june, and im going off to university.,. what should i do? should i stay with him and have fun? or should i get out now while im not attached? its really hard because i love being with him but sometimes i feel like im wasting my time, but others i feel like, im only young and have the rest of my life to find a guy, just have fun with him while his here as you love his company so much. he knows that im not going to sleep with him as im waiting until im married, i dont know what to do! help
2007-02-03 03:56:51 · 16 answers · asked by steph 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go ahead and have some fun, but don't get mad at yourself when he leaves
2007-02-03 04:01:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same situation here, except that he's an older man going back home to England from the U.S. We have had so much fun together and he's the first person that i've truly missed in a long time. He's made me feel feelings I didn't know I could possibly still have. This is a hard question to answer. Life hurts and love hurts. It's a big decision. Think of this, what happens if things don't work out. Will you be stuck out of country with no one and a broken heart? Or is it wiser to stick it out where you are, correspond with him and make trips every so often to see him and see if things continue? Love and lust are fleeting. Think of you. Look at the big picture and think "Should I go ahead and do this and have a big whole in my heart if things don't work out, our should I cut my losses and hurt for a little bit?". If he cares and wants to work it out.. he wil.
2007-02-03 04:09:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where is his country? Do you see yourself married to this guy? If you are having fun, and you're both going to be doing something completely different it seems harsh to break up with him before he goes, but you need to talk to each other and both have the chance to say what you feel. He may be thinking how nice it'll be to have a girlfriend til he leaves, or he may be thinking that you'll keep in contact and eventually get together. If he feels like that and you don't, its not fair to string him along. However if you both enjoy each others company, can both manage without sex and both agree that once you go your separate ways you are both free to meet new people, whats the harm in waiting? You've got a guy you can go out with, you don't have to worry that he's going to try to get you into bed, sounds like you've got what you want!
2007-02-03 04:10:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there! It seems like you already know what your answer is, but I guess I'll tell you. (hehe) The thing is you are leaving for University and he's leaving to go back to his country. You should just stop talking to him and look forward to making new friends at your university. (You will have so much going for you) Other wise the more you'll talk to him you're going to be attached and it will be hurtful later, when you guys go your separate ways. End the relationship quick... Good Luck!
2007-02-03 04:07:05 · answer #4 · answered by Rain L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be totally blunt the school is your best option.....if after a year he is still there waiting you know he and you were meant to be together...if not....there are plenty more men who are going to be in your life!!! You are young and you should enjoy a variety of relationships and not restrict yourself to the one person to soon..........I'm not saying to you to sleep around with everyone!! You will never have this amount of interest in learning as you do now....you wont have the same brain power when you are older either and there will be a mountain of distractions to stop you when you are an adult with kids, husband, mortgage, bills etc.....stay with the school....keep him as a friend....visit on holidays...but don't throw away an eduction for a bit of pleasure!!!!
2007-02-03 04:07:05 · answer #5 · answered by Confuzzled 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont get the question. There is no future in it either way is there. Sounds like you're good friends so leave it at that. Its a bit cruel to dump his friendship because he's going home. You dont sleep with him so whats to lose by staying friends ??????????
2007-02-03 04:01:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him go and you have your fun, you only have one shot at life so do what you want, there is plenty of time to get serious about guys but have your fun first xx
2007-02-03 04:23:14 · answer #7 · answered by MAD FEMALE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better go to his country because do you love him do you want to see his family?or do you want to be with no one and feel sad forever go to a university in his country with him.
2007-02-03 04:06:23 · answer #8 · answered by glenna f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you are in two schools of thought about this then you do not truely love him so get on with life.
2007-02-03 04:01:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him, you dont LOVE him just like his company. No future in this relationship...
Harsh but true!
2007-02-03 04:08:11 · answer #10 · answered by confused 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋