Is having a boyfriend good experience for a 13 year old girl?

Question

Ok Im almost 13 in two months. I just moved and ever since i moved here guys have been all over me. They ask me out you know the basics. But this one guy keeps asking me to kiss him and hug him and makeout with him in the hallways at school.I REALLY like him alot and he is really nice but i dont know if it is right for me to be called his "girlfriend" I live with my grandma so of course she doesnt want me to even talk to guys but i dont think its up to her i dont know what to do!! help!!!

Answer 1

You can have boy "friends" - you can even flirt with boys. At 13 though you've got so much more important things to do then waste your time having a boyfriend. Don't kiss anyone until you KNOW that you want to kiss someone.

Answer 2

Well my dear never let a guy pressure you to do anything with him. Also if you don't know if it's right for this guy to call you his girlfriend then maybe you need to take some time out and think about that. Being thirteen is a very young age and you have all the time in the world to date so don't make any dramatic decisions at this point. As for your grandma if you live with her you should atleast try to respect her wishes cause she loves you and I am sure only wants what is best for you. Worse comes to worse you could try to talk with her and come to a possible agreement about dating as long as it's not serious and it doesnt interfere with the more important things like school,family,and your friends. Above all just be true to yourself and what your about. Dont let anyone change you or make you feel as though you should be doing something your not ready for. Your young take it slow and enjoy your life. Good luck!

Answer 3

Yes you are a little young to have a physical relationship with a boy it's ok to have a crush but you ask your grandma what boys your age want and I would hate to see you pregnant or with an std that would ruin your life.You have plenty of time to worry about going out with boys maybe in a couple of years why not try to make new girlfriends now there is something you will need the rest of your life is a good friend they are few and far between and get to know things about where you just moved and make new friend or three or four and stay away from boys until you are about 30.

Answer 4

You are showing your maturity by asking this question Smart Gal. Frankly, though, your grandmother is correct, and she wants what is best for you now and for your future. Girls your age get pregnant and it all starts with a kiss in the hallway, and then leads to "making out" and other stuff that gets out of hand. DON'T BE FOOLED. Even the smartest of us let our emotions and feelings overrule what we know is right. So the best thing to do is AVOID such situations where we could lose control to our feelings.

My suggestion is that you simply be friends with everyone until you are 18. At that age a woman is more emotionally mature and better able to understand and control feelings that, at a younger age, are overwhelming.

Now you might ask, "What do I do with myself for the next 5 years?" And the answers are simply these:

1. Groom immaculately
2. Dress nicely
3. Study harder than ever
4. Spend an hour a day in the library
5. Spend an hour a day at the gym
6. Honor your grandmother and your teachers
7. Get involved in a worthy school function
8. Volunteer a few hours a week for a worthy cause, or to help grandmother with a project
9. Help someone every day
10.Go to Church
11.Invite your grandmother & friends to Church
12.SMILE

Good Luck

Finally, print this reply and sit down with your grandmother and discuss it quietly and respectfully. She has your best interests at heart. Good Luck

Answer 5

Well your grandma is right you are to young to have a bf. But you need to also know that if you decide to make out with a guy know what your doing because your to young to get pregnant and you can. Don't believe all the guys that tell you can't. So if you need some more advice just IM me or e-mail me anytime.

Answer 6

Having a close friendship with a guy is OK, but at 13 years old, making out isn't appropriate. I think it would be OK to hang out with him, kissing might be OK if it were just a peck. Just follow your heart, do what you feel is right, and don't let him pressure you into something that you don't think you are ready for.

Answer 7

I think that maybe you should just enjoy being 13 years old.. you have many years to date and maybe you should put focus to the things you like and just wait a little while before you make that leap for boys.. don't be in such a rush to grow up, when you get older you'll better understand all of this...

Answer 8

you are young. obviously this guy (from what you have told us). is only interested in the physical part.. if you too get together. you will edn up having sex.. it seems liek he is already talking you into it. let the us be and have your girlfriends arounf. you will only get into trouble with them. since you are so young still and do not know how to handle these situations since you are asking on here. a boyfirned or girlfriend is much more than kising and making out in the hallways at school....

Answer 9

Better be careful before doing anything to any guys whom you are not really familiar with. You may not know what's in the guy's mind. He can do anything dangerous to you which you don't know till when you realised it, it is too late. Love doesn't mean you must kiss and hug me or sexual contacts. I believe they are many other ways of showing both partners LOVE. Don't go to his house if no one at his house or deserted place with him. Tk care!

Answer 10

your problem is that you dont let go, you need to live with what you have. if you like him you go with the flow. but be careful some guys may be saying that to get in your head, though this one sounds like a nice guy, but still potect your grounds. say "no" to something if you feel uncomfertable or not ready and just go for it if you are.