any suggestions on how to move on, anyone wanna c h a t and get to know each other...
2007-02-03 03:34:27 · 14 answers · asked by starla 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im just lonely.my life used to revolve around being a good wife and now i dont even know who i am. my kids are grown and have their own lives.
2007-02-03 03:41:26 · update #1
and now you sit around and grieve for the loss... eat chocolate ice cream, drink chocolate milk, and lots of chocolate chip cookies... and once you have figured out the lessons of this relationship decide how to best to make the next one work... Relationships are a funny thing... they are all about YOUR needs... and their all about HIS needs... and together... they are about wanting to compromise and find the win-win situation.
First things first... learn to love yourself again...most of the time we end up loathing who we became because of THAT guy/girl... spend some time getting to know you again... find some esoteric books and spend a few months reading. find some biographies of people you admire... understand what you admire about them... Define yourself before you start looking for someone to compliment who YOU are.
I'm sure you feel a bit on the lonely side... that's to be expected.... just be careful about who's hand you reach out for. Time and space will help you make good decisions...
2007-02-03 03:46:22 · answer #1 · answered by alex b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ask "now what?" Well, that depends on you. First of all, if you just broke up with a person, don't be quick to replace him. Take some time for yourself, do a little reevaluation of your expectations and goals in life, and try to determine if you even have the time or the need for a relationship right now. Don't be quick to jump back into a relationship before you've forgotten your previous one. All you wind up doing is comparing your current man to your previous one. RELAX!! Find out about you. Tell yourself what you want and what you need and prioritize what you need to do to to accomplish these goals. A relationship is a plus to life. Yes, we all need someone, yes we all need to feel togetherness and love. But make sure that you are not getting into a relationship just to avoid being alone. Sometimes a little solitude is just what the doctor ordered. Take this prescription, and take some time to heal, and get over him. Do some things that you have been putting off for him. Accomplish other goals before tackling another relationship. I hope that you find this helpful. Good luck to you. And believe me, the relationship that I am currently in is absolutley wonderful because I took my own advice. I hope that it works for you too. Good luck.
2007-02-03 11:43:29 · answer #2 · answered by djbest1973 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to first off get your rebound sex out of the way. Go find some young drunk guy in a bar and take him to a hotel and have your way with him, then dump him. After that you need to go out and start living again. Join a discussion group, volunteer at local events, start to mingle again. You did the hard part of dumping the old baggage, now get out there and enjoy the fruits of your labor.
2007-02-03 12:48:48 · answer #3 · answered by itzmedbd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to move on you should not worry about what you just went thru and look into the future and concentrate on what you want in life. And remember how you was treated and next time learn from your mistakes and try to avoid them. I would love to chat with you anytime. Just IM me or e-mail me anytime.
2007-02-03 11:40:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, NOW you need to get out there and start looking. I suggest a sport or hobby; or, if you work, keep your eyes open at your job. (I've noticed that you can learn a lot about a person by observing their work ethic.) Good luck.
2007-02-03 11:38:53 · answer #5 · answered by knight2001us 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should take a break between relationships.. take time to know what you really want to do. after years of being married it is not easy to suddenly be on your own. Looking for friends is a great idea. best of luck, your journey is just begining, A NEW ADVENTURE
2007-02-03 11:39:00 · answer #6 · answered by gone 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take some time without a guy and go about learning who you are...what went wrong...and what part you played in it...and what you want in your next relationship.
This time "off" time should be a gift to yourself.
2007-02-03 11:38:53 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats what you get for taking the advice of strangers.
2007-02-03 11:38:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take some time being alone to discover what you really want....
2007-02-03 11:37:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont need an online BF, those are fakes! go out and look around
discover who you are
2007-02-03 11:37:56 · answer #10 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋