Is it true that guys like to be dominated?

Question

I have this friend and he says that guys think it's attractive when a girl takes the dominant role in the game. Not all the time, but most of the time. He says it's a turn on. Is this true. Guys...help me out here....If it is true What do you like girls to do when they're the dominant one? Totally confused here.

So dominating sometimes is a good thing. So how does a girl become more "dominant" is she's never really done it before. What are your ideas?

Answer 1

As far as role playing, sure it can be a turn on to be dominated, whether you are male or female. If you are going to go through with this, you need to sit down and discuss the parameters of what you are willing to do and what you would like from the other person. One persons definition may not be the same. I mean handcuffs and whips are ok with me, but the next guy may be thinking bound and gagged and his girl with a strapon. But as long as two consenting adults agree to what they want, then go for it.

Answer 2

I believe the term you are looking for is alpha male as oppose to a bad boy. I agree with Matt that they go after guys who have characteristics of the survival of the fittest, but they are not looking for the 'bad boy' necessarily Ever remember Lancelot? The dashing knight in shining armour? It's the classic alpha male, but he is not the bad boy. Girls model the world by seeing nice guys as people who has to be nice in order to survive in this world. i.e. the so called door mat and Egor, the servant. Bad boys are doing the things they do because they don't need anyone's approval in order to survive. i.e. they are not door mats. The gentleman is not a door mat and he is not obligated to treat woman well, but he chooses to under the correct circumstances. You can still be the good guy and an alpha male. They are not mutually exclusive. I wouldn't say you need to change yourself necessarily; just be a better version of yourself. i.e. the stronger and outstanding version of yourself. provide the same qualities as the bad boy and still be the good guy and you will get the girl(s) (I leave that to your imagination). Starting convo with random girls do not necessarily make you a more attractive guy. It just open things up. Whether things gets better or worse will depend on your game. I do admit, however, that starting convos is still better than doing nothing altogether. Hope this helps

Answer 3

Nothing is good in lovemaking the same all the time. The spice of it is trying everything both are comfortable with. I think they do think this is great some of the time, but a secure man in his lovemaking likes to know he can take the lead sometimes. remember....we are dealing with the male ego here.

Answer 4

I am not dominate in the bedroom with my guy actually never been in the bedroom with him at all but I am dominant in the relationship. I make all of the choices and he doesn't seem to mind.

Answer 5

yes
but you have to share
cause if you are always dominate
he'll get mad
men like to be in control and you take it away its a chalenge to get it back
men are weird

Answer 6

I like it! Not all the time though. B E aggressive!

Answer 7

Destiny,
You asked a good question here..............................
I've been reading to see what guys have to say and I hope more guys do post answers on this!

I'm just wondering if guys feel it's competition when the girl takes that "dominant" role!

interesting........................................

Answer 8

I know some guys like that. Don't get involved. They are not comfortable with women and even may be afraid of them. That's why they ask women to take the responsiblilty for sex.

Answer 9

Yea, guys like it. But not all the time.

Answer 10

No.
Guys do not it if the gal is submissive either.
Be balanced.