i have to force my self to see people?

Question

when i was depressed before i was so low i did not wanna see no one, forced my self out on a few dates with this girl that liked me with use of alcohol to get up the courage and ended up being with her and lifted me out of depression. it over now and i depressed again i have lack of motivation to see people. could depression be caused by the fear of seeing people or is it lack of motivation cause of depression

Answer 1

Not sure what I can say to this, but I do know that feeling very well and we sometimes have to go through this life acting. Until you walk through your own door when you can drop the smile. As horrendous as it can be you HAVE to force yourself as each day you do not the more withdrawn you will become. That feeling of mindless everyday conversation is unbearable. But keep on in there, because if you do not you will sink believe me, and occasionally you will have conversation that will make you smile genuinely. Good luck.

Answer 2

I used to suffer from depression during my twenties but I found that as I got older I became less and less depressed until now I don't feel depressed at all.

I think as you age you get to see that life is very short and should not be taken too seriously. Lets face it in just a few short years we will all be dead and forgotten so why should we get so uptight about things.

You say that you don't like going out. Some people don't. So what. Reading papers and watching other media programmes you would get the impression that 'everyone' is out and about enjoying themselves. This is not the case. Many people out there prefer to spend time at home, often by themselves, just doing their own thing. It doesn't make you abnormal its just the way you are.

Just learn to accept yourself and loosen up. Looking back on my years of depression I can see quite clearly now that it was just a form of selfishness. A self obsession with ones self which not only blights your own life but those around you who generally care for you.

Answer 3

I used to suffer from depression too. Definitely the depression itself is the cause of your lack of motivation. Therapy is the best cure. A Doctor would prescribe tablets that could help too. Alcohol is not a good idea in the long-term. Much better is medical assisstance, but also friends who understand your predicament.
Very often, though, it's just a phase one goes through as one gets older, so don't worry, things will improve in time. I wish you well.

Answer 4

Depression is diagnosed only clinically

In that there is no laboratory test or x-ray for depression. Therefore, it is crucial to see a health practitioner as soon as you notice symptoms of depression in yourself, your friends, or family.
The first step in getting appropriate treatment is a complete physical and psychological evaluation to determine whether you, in fact, have a depressive disorder.
Depression is not a weakness, but a serious illness with biological, psychological, and social aspects to its cause, symptoms, and treatment. A person cannot will it away. Untreated, it will worsen. Under-treated, it will return.
There are many safe and effective medications, particularly the SSRIs, that can be of great help in depression.
For full recovery from a mood disorder, regardless of whether there is a precipitating factor or it seems to come out of the blue, treatments with medications and or therapy (psychotherapy) are necessary.
You may not have depression after all but you do need to speak to your GP. Good luck.

Answer 5

It's the depression and using alcohol to relieve you is not a smart thing to do.

Get yourself to a psychiatrist or psychologist or your family doctor. There are meds you can take , rather than alcohol that will help you get on a more normal curve and will help you with your agoraphobia or social anxiety.

Alcohol, unprescribed drugs any kind of addiction are NEVER good solutions for solving any kind of problems, mental health wise.

Answer 6

I dont think you're depressed all over again. Depression is a very well known disease, but alot of people dont really understand the true makings of depression.

Personally, i think that you're just hung over from this girl you were seeing. Its natural to feel down when you lose someone you truly cared about. I think that before, you felt as if you didnt have anything really going for you in your life, and being with this girl was your way of saying to yourself, "Hey, look, i've changed this part of my life for the better, i know i can do other things now". Dont let bad relationships hold you back, it's harder than hell to get over sometimes, but once you do, it'll be the best thing you've done for yourself.

I wouldn't suggest going out and forcing yourself to see people. If you find that having people around you brings you up, then maybe just go out with some friends...have a good time. Dont allow yourself to dwell on things that bring you down. Feel what is needed to be felt....know that you are feeling it...then move on with your life. Life is too short, go out and live it up.

As far as finding someone else...personally, i've found that the moment i stop looking to find someone, someone just kinda finds their way into my heart and vice versa. I think you just need to focus on other positive aspects of your life right now. get yourself together. As corney as this is(and may sound)..you have to learn to love yourself, before anyone else can be expected to love you. Just be patient and be yourself. Dont force anything, you'll find someone again and they'll change your life in unbelievable ways but you wont NEED them to be emotionally happy....

Answer 7

I sympathise - I have suffered from depression on and off for years.
Lets face people = risk, no people in your life is slow death. Risk is always scary, and it easier to withdraw. Depression is also the sister to anger and this is worth considering. Who might you be angry with? What made you depressed and have you addressed those issues?
Whatever happened this girl showed you it need not be like that. Hold on to the good things she gave you to get yourself out of this hole. You did it once and you could do it again.

Answer 8

depression needs to be treated by a professional. How you feel is not 'normal' state of affairs. your relationship my have papered over the cracks but there is usually a fundamental cause. I would suggest you seek professional advice to deal with the depression first. everything else will then fall into place. It is not fair to another person if you expect them to cure you!!!

Answer 9

Depression is the symptom of the problem. Odds are from what you have said is that one or both of your parents used alcohol to self-medicate and that one or both of your parents were verbally abusive if not worse.

Abuse; the gift that keeps on giving.

Answer 10

Seriously, I truly know how u feel.
I find that doing things that im comfortable with helps rather than pushing myself to do things that 'others' or my own 'thoughts' think I should be.
Take time to do what YOU want...spoil urself!
I trained myself to forget what 'society' expects of me & go with how each moment makes me feel.

Depression is hell without some kind of help, or understanding etc.
Hope this helps a bit x