Ive had a boyfriend for two years... But i REALLY like someone else......?

Question

I have a boyfriend, for 3 years, since i was 13. i'm now 16.
But recently ive had uncontrolable feelings for someone else. i love my boyfriend SO much. We've grown up together. ive been with him through some pretty harsh times. i mean.. he was my first time, thats a big thing to me. But ive never had the thrill of being with someone else. And suddenly i really really want it. And ive got really close with another boy. two years older. He tells me how mad he is about me, and how amazing we could be together ALL the time. And he's one of those people that i can just talk to for hours and never run out of things to say. i feel so bad for liking him. But i also find it really really hard to just stop talking 2 him.. and beleive me, ive tried. he makes me feel good. he flatters me..
How can i sort this mess out?? please help!? *DOES THIS MEAN IM A BAD PERSON? AND HAS ANYONE ELSE EXPERIENCED THE SAME THING AS ME????

Answer 1

im goin through the same thing at the minute, ive been wit my boyfriend for 4 years and i have started to like one of my best friends in the last 6 months, then 3 weeks ago i found out he felt the same, he told me he felt the same i didnt ask him. i didnt want to think about it. it makes me feel bad too because i love my boyfriend. i still havnt found a solution to the problem because my best friend that i like is going out with my best (girl) friend. so its driving me insane. we cant stop thinkin about eachother, i will be glad 2 see some answers for this!

i always try to think that we feel more for eachother because we know how wrong it would be, you know?

Answer 2

Girl, you have serious issues. It seems to me like you have extremely low self esteem. What you need to do is stop calling the guy. The only reason he ever talks to you is that you offer him sex. A man will almost never say no to sex. You have basically been selling your body to him for 10 minutes of attention/affection. He's obviously not interested anymore and I don't blame him. You're way too clingy. Solving this problem will require lots of meaningless relationships with guys you won't remember a month later. That's the only way I can think of that can help you overcome your dependence on ONE guy. As soon as you dump a heck of a lot of guys you'll probably gain the confidence to get in to a serious relationship again. Also, hitting a woman is just plain dumb and ignorant regardless the circumstances. However, the only reason the redneck hit you is that you let him know you need him more than he needs you.

Answer 3

You're having these feelings because you're still young. It's nearly impossible at 13 to be in a commited relationship.

Let your boyfriend know how you feel. You should both try waiting until you are older and know 'exactly" what you want before dating each other or someone else.

Answer 4

oh baby why do u think in that way? thats a kinda attraction that happens to everyone....my pal is facing the same.....but acc to me be with ur boyfriend....he knows abt ur likes n dislikes n he can keep u happy in everyway....well the guy u really wanna be with now...u dun really know anything abt him..n it wud take much much time 4 u to understand him...dun do that be with ur childhood friend.....so that u wont regret later.......

Answer 5

don't ruin what you have
but if you really like this other guy
that might sho how much you dont like your boyfriend
you have a good relationship filled with trust don't ruin it you will miss it then you'll go running back and he'll tell you to get lost
don't ruin it

Answer 6

At 16, you should be dating as many guys as you can. Don't get stuck on one guy! And don't listen to anything a guy will tell you. all they want is puni! Guys want 2 things- food and sex- remember Hungry and Horny!!

Answer 7

This is human nature.dont feel bad about it.Everyone has emotions.

Answer 8

Listen to your heart!

Answer 9

your young. date other people.

Answer 10

i really would b stuck if i were u