Every time I talk to him on the phone he asks me what i am doing where am I and who is around. He assumes that when i am always with another man. Even though everyone knows that i am a serial monogamist. If I were to ask the same questions, I am being annoying but with him asking, its a quest for justice. What can I do? I can't take it anymore and its really turning me off of the relationship.
2007-02-03 03:15:42 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have spoken to him and he claims that he is not insecure at all. He is not abusive about it. It's more like nagging.
2007-02-03 03:27:11 · update #1
AAAAAAAYYYYYYYYYY! ill tell you why . in his life sometime he either had a girlfriend thta hurt him really bad by cheating, or someone broke his trust horribly. he cant help it. he cares about you alot and he doesnt want to lose you. no matter what you say it cant change. he probably has things going through his mind that he cant control, like you with another man for example.
hes holding on to you maybe too strongly because hes not sure if youll always be there for him. hold him back. dont give up on the relationship . BECAUSE THATS WHY HES INSECURE! he thinks youre going to leave him. if you cant taKE IT let him go. let him be with someone who will hold him and tell him it will be o.K.
not everyone can be normal.
2007-02-03 03:55:24 · answer #1 · answered by xsilverxthornx999 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well the only thing to do is talk with him and tell him how you feel about all the questions he's asking all the time. And if he still does it, well just drop him and move on because he is a control freak and is also doesn't want you to ever talk with anyone. HE will always be this way and maybe later he might become violent with you. So it's better to know all this before it's too late. But talk with him and if he doesn't cahnge soon kick him to the curb. Because all teh calling and him asking all the time is going to be stressful later on. So kick him to the curb and move on is your best bet. Because if he loved you he would treat you better. So if you need to chat give me a shout IM me or e-mail anytime.
2007-02-03 11:31:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let's take this situation a little further down the road and see where it leads us.
You get married or live together: you work the same job, drive together, cook together, shop together. Even though you are together 24/7, his jealousy will lead him to believe that you are Thinking of Other Men. Shortly thereafter, y'all might go to a club together. A man or men glance your way. Now, You are Inviting the Looks and you'd better cut it out.
By this time, you have probably given up all your girl friends, talking to men at work, and most of your family and neighbors. And since his jealousy is All Your Fault, he must correct your behavior. There is only one way to convince you to act better. Guess what it is?
2007-02-03 12:30:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
DUMP HIM! He is one of those jealous insecure guys that will hound you forever over this. And God forbid you ever have a conversation with another guy and he finds out. Even if it is innocent he will blow up and you don't know what could happen then. Get out now while you have a chance.
2007-02-03 11:22:33 · answer #4 · answered by itzmedbd 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
thats because he is guilty of what he is trying to keep from you. he wants you to feel quilty so he can keep doing what ever it is he's doing. this way he knows your not doing anything behind his back and he knows he can trust you and keep you ignorant of his actions. i know i was and still am going through that except i'm playing along with his games and sometimes i let him know that i know what he's doing and it keeps the peace for awhile. if your young then my advise to you is to leave him and just have fun.
2007-02-03 11:29:25 · answer #5 · answered by nobody 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe he loves u a lot... and he is not sure if u love him as he does... he does not want to lose u...
soooo just talk with him... and tell him that he is the most important person in ur life and that u love him/like him a lot... tell him how u feel when he asks u all these questions...
Good luck!!! :)))
2007-02-03 11:23:52 · answer #6 · answered by inlove 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first talk to him, that it bothers u when he questions ur fidelity all the time... if he understands and takes it well...good for u!! but if he reacts badly...then i think its time for u to rethink abt him...a little bit of insecurity is okay...it means he loves and cares for u...but when it gets to a point where it bothers u..its time to leave, girl
2007-02-03 11:22:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
time for you to say Good bye
this kind of guy always beat up their wife after marriage
2007-02-03 11:21:41 · answer #8 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Beacuse he is not trustable. He is doing bad things.
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2007-02-03 22:56:11 · answer #9 · answered by Javier 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's probably cheating on you. That is one of the first signs.
2007-02-03 11:25:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋