I was in college when I became preggo with my daughter and had to leave for awhile until I got things together. Well, unfortunately me and the father aren't together but he is there 100% for me and his daughter. I am living at home with my dad, and I have to get out of here. I am not allowed to make my own decision as far as my daughter or myself. It is ridiculous. So here is where I need the help, the father of my daughter and I were talking and he brought up how she could go live with him while I finish school and work that way it would be a lot easier on both of us. My dad is so controlling that he won't let the father come over and just see his daughter when he wants. He made me go through the court system to set up visitation. (it's still in process) So he hardly ever gets to see his daughter; only when I can bring her over. I would just feel like a horrible parent if I let her just -go- with him. I know I would be eventually helping both of us out in the end. Any advice?
2007-02-03 03:07:53 · 4 answers · asked by Rachel 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
me and the baby's dad get along well. my father just comes between me and him and causes most of the problems.
2007-02-03 03:09:01 · update #1
Before you decide to do this you need to sit down with baby's daddy and get a written, notarized statement, a court order would be better. MAKE IT PLAIN to everyone involved this is NOT child abandonment. If you don't, you will have a very difficult time getting your child back. Good Luck honey.
2007-02-03 03:25:22 · answer #1 · answered by Karen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know how to really advise you on this. Too many factors to include. But what I can suggest, is that you DO NOT let the baby live with the father-no matter how great you get along. this is because I have been through the court system for 6 years with my ss. If you choose to let the baby live with the father (no matter how short or long) it could hurt you in the end. The father may end up with custody and you with the visitation. I know you are looking to finish school, but I dont think you want to give up the baby. But the courts dont really look at it like that. I would try to go to another family member for help or something. Anything if it is that hard with your dad. I would just make arrangements with the father of the baby that you will bring her when you can-not at work or school. And I am sure he will understand that. I am sure he knows your father has not welcomed him. I am not surehow long it will take you to finish college, but as soon as you are done, I would look into moving and daycare. Good luck.
2007-02-03 03:27:54 · answer #2 · answered by bratzmom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are legally a major, you can decide your own life and your dad can't force you. And you can work out the visiting and taking care in between (during vacations etc.) with the father of the baby. The only question is: are you financially independent? If yes, no problem. If not, who is going to support you? Obviously your dad may not support you if you don't listen to his dictates.
2007-02-03 03:17:05 · answer #3 · answered by Swamy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not let your kid live with him he can takecustody of it say u abandoned it whatever he wants and he will get custody because posession is 9/10 ths of the law just be careful good luck
2007-02-03 09:45:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋