There's this really big guy like Bonecrusher's size who really likes me, but I don't feel the same way about him and that's not because he is overweight. He just isn't my type personality-wise and I also just feel no attraction whatsoever to him. How do I tell I don't feel the same way without him thinking it's because of his weight, because I am not that type of superficial, conceited girl that only goes for looks. I care about the person and he is just not the person for me....sincere advice only plz. Thanks
2007-02-03 02:37:02 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hello, you sound like a very nice person. You are thoughtful and caring and it will come out when you talk to him. Just be yourself and tell him what you told here. If you are sincere your Sincerity will come out. The truth always does. If he has met a lot of superficial people he will be able to see that you are not one of them and believe your honesty. Never be afraid of telling the truth, and if the person does not want to except it, you at least have done no wrong. Just be soft and gentle and yourself..Hope this helps.. Good Luck.
2007-02-03 02:44:47 · answer #1 · answered by Mari-Mari 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that you are flattered but your feelings for him is just as a friend and you want to remain friends with him. Let him know also who knows what the future may bring.
Only you truely know if it is because of his weight or not. My man is way overweight and I love him to death. I am your average size girl. He treats me wonderfully and puts me first. I do the same as well. I never thought I would date a guy that was huge but I got to know him and I fell deeply in love with him and still together til this day.
2007-02-03 10:44:24 · answer #2 · answered by moo shell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you don't have feelings for him - that you don't think that his personality and yours will go well together in a relationship. Make sure you do NOT mention his appearance, because he WILL take it personally and feel insulted. But if you say you just aren't feeling him like that, he should understand and he probably won't be insulted.
2007-02-04 00:21:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummmmmm well i guess the first person you'd have to be honest with is yourself....and even though you think that his weight is not the reason why you aren't interested....i think subconciously....it is...and you haven't come to grips of how superficial you really are...so for starters....the first step to recovery is admittion of having a problem....
after you've come clean to yourself...i think you should be honest with him...tell him you're just not into him in that way.....or in any way cuz you said his personality rubs you the wrong way too....so... you'll stop borrowing money from him...and leading him on.....and...laughing at everything he says....
and well i think...if you take this advice you'll be peachy keen
2007-02-03 10:49:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not being attracted to an obese person is NOT SHALLOW. Obese people are very unhealthy and also very unattractive. Who would want such a partner if they weren't obese themselves? I'm so fed up with people saying it's shallow not being attracted to fat people. I personally think fat guys look disgusting, they don't look masculine. The thinner guys are, the better. Oh boohoo i'm shallow. Whatever.
2007-02-05 12:28:59 · answer #5 · answered by possessed Regan 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Simply tell him you like him as a friend and you would not be a good match. No further explanation is needed. You can tell him you would like to continue being friends but only if that is true.
2007-02-03 10:42:24 · answer #6 · answered by pnut 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be frank and tell him that you only like him as a friend. Concentrate on the clash in personality part.
2007-02-03 10:40:39 · answer #7 · answered by Clueless me 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i am shalow kinda and ill admit it...
And ive turned down sum girls hwove asked me out.
Heres what i say to not hurt there feelings.
I say no i dont want a relationship right now, and i just wanna be single for a while,
Or maybe, No im gay// sorry.. HAHA JK!!
just say no i dont rly want a bf right now, and honestly i think id be better if me and you were just friends....
Theres a good lien to tell him..
2007-02-03 10:44:39 · answer #8 · answered by Aaron T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him just that. Whether he believes that is out of your control. Tell him you want to be friends. I've had a woman do this to me and I deeply respect her. It hurt but I moved on.
2007-02-03 11:06:16 · answer #9 · answered by kyghostchaser2006 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him the same things you said here, i hope he understands, tell him you just wanna be his friend, tell him the same old thing "It's not you, i don't want a relationship now, blah, blah", maybe it can work,Good luck!!
2007-02-03 10:43:05 · answer #10 · answered by Tanya D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋