My girlfriend and i live in a small city right now and want to move to a bigger city with more job opportunities. The problem is, it doesnt make sense for us to move to a new city and get 2 seperate apartments, so we were thinking about moving in together. My problem comes from my parents I guess, they are both conservative christian types and would disapprove of me living with my girlfriend, i dont think its a big deal, but i dont want them not liking her anymore, or me. This move wouldnt happen for about 6 months. How would you proceed?
2007-02-03 02:28:34 · 6 answers · asked by mtatic55 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is a tough one. I, too, had conservative Christian parents (or so I thought until they shocked me with a divorce after 30 years of marriage), but you have to lead your own life. You can't, into your adult years, let anyone control you. At some point, you have to take the reins in your own hands, and do what you think is best for your own life. You might even discover, as time goes on, that your parents weren't as conservative as you thought they were (for example, my "Christian" father ran off with another woman). So, my advice is: Do What You Want to Do! If your parents really love you, they will finally accept you for who you really are. If they don't, what have you lost that you never really had? It's your call.
2007-02-03 02:41:23 · answer #1 · answered by In Honor of Moja 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long have you two dated? could this women be your potential wife? do your parents know it? i think the most important thing for you two to do now, is for the next 6 months, discuess the issue with your parents... you could live in the same apartment complex, just a couple doors down, OR you can share the same apartment, and have different bed rooms....also, you need to tell your parents that you respect and value them and their beliefs, which is why you came to them in the first place. ask them for any other options that they can think of.... in the end, its your life, and its your decison, but i would def. take their imput on it.
2007-02-03 10:38:58 · answer #2 · answered by SassyGirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you're an adult, then you do what you want. i had the same problem, but we were in our mid-late 20's. how old are you two? how long have you been dating? those factors matter just as much as your financial reasons for moving in together. talk to your parents. that's what i did, and it didn't make them like the situation anymore, but we were adults, and made our own decisions, and now we are married, almost 2 years.
2007-02-03 10:36:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
get 2 seperat beds. don't sleep together, don't take advantageof her, don't make her do all the house work, ect. if you do, it will be like marrage but with less commitment and many times men in that situation don't end up marring the girl because they have all they would get in marrage so why make the commitment? it dangerouse to do this, but you have to respect her as a girlfriend instead of a wife.
2007-02-03 10:35:00 · answer #4 · answered by angel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmm get a house/apartment but with rooms, both of u can take a room each rather than being in the same room
2007-02-03 10:33:27 · answer #5 · answered by littlepurplebugz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your break up, then what?
2007-02-03 10:35:43 · answer #6 · answered by littleangle2407 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋