Im 21years old, and just moved back home with dad after a break up. i pay £15 a week. and come and go as i please. (i wash, cook and clean for myself).
Iv had the chance to lodge with a cousin of mine. (same age, enjoys partying to etc) we get on really well... for £60 per week.
I have no savings, but can afford it.
I love my family, but i dont get on with my step mom, and i dont feel comfotable in the house.
iv never had a family home, my step mom is house proud, so if you use something its put away after you finish it. wash, you clean your dishes b4 u eat the food...
should i move?
or should i stay home, get some savings and consider something later on in the year!
2007-02-03 02:28:18 · 32 answers · asked by geminially 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
just to let you know i am not a "slob"
My step mom doesnt work. she wakes up, and hovers, dusts, washes, irons every day!
The house isnt your typical house, its more of a show home. a family house, should be looked like its lived in. not messy but not spick and span 24hrs aday!
The towels are folder a certain way for an example! its like like living under army rules!
im not a slob, im clean but she really take it to the extreme!
2007-02-03 03:12:12 · update #1
just to let you know i am not a "slob"
My step mom doesnt work. she wakes up, and hovers, dusts, washes, irons every day!
The house isnt your typical house, its more of a show home. a family house, should be looked like its lived in. not messy but not spick and span 24hrs aday!
The towels are folder a certain way for an example! its like like living under army rules!
im not a slob, im clean but she really take it to the extreme!
2007-02-03 03:12:15 · update #2
Strike out on your own, enjoy life with your cousin. Living in an uncomfortable home for the sake of saving money isn't going to help your relationship with your stepmother...she probably thinks you're sponging off them anyway (admit it, 15 quid a week isn't much for room and board.)
I'd rather have freedom and fun than live under a houseproud regime. You'll be poorer but you won't be doing your head in.
2007-02-03 06:09:00 · answer #1 · answered by anna 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend is actually in the same position. He moved back into his Mom's house after a breakup, but her new boyfriend doesn't like that idea and kind of treats him like a burden and he has to do pretty much everything around the house. Unfortunately, he has no other option at the moment, so he's saving all the money he can to move out as soon as possible. I would suggest the same for you, but that might take a while i'm not sure how much you can take in the meantime. If you can hold out, i think it would be best to try to save up and consider something later. But otherwise, if your cousin's offer still stands and you can afford it--even barely-- maybe you should consider that. It's really up to you. But i hope something works out for you, though, because no one should have to feel like a stranger in their own home.
2007-02-03 02:54:54 · answer #2 · answered by Miss Understood 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well think you don't have a saving and you will be paying 45 pound difference which at your counsins you will also have pay utilities and food and at home you don't. SO stay there till you have enough to move out and don't have to worry about living from paycheck to paycheck. And besides all your Stepmothere wants is to have your fathre's house to be clean. What you a pig and don't want to clean up nothing. Well who's going to clean at your cousin's house. Think someone else will pick up aftere you. I don't think so, knowing how to keep clean and how to cook and take care of yourself now will help you in the future. But if you just want to come home to a nasty housemove if not learn how to keep teh house clean and become a total gentleman, that's what women liek now a days.
2007-02-03 02:38:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the difference in lodging, I would strongly suggest you tolerate your step-mother for awhile and put money aside to make a deposit on your own place. The truth is, your father is probably buying your food, paying your utilities, etc., none of which your fun-loving cousin is going to wish to do.
p.s., At some point, if you decide that keeping a home neat and tidy is not your cup of tea, then you will have the funds to move into your own flat or that of your cousin's. Also, do not forget that your cousin's partying COSTS money on a daily basis --money which you probably do not have at the moment. Stay at home but party with your cousin and his friends! Then you will have the best of both worlds.
2007-02-03 02:41:04 · answer #4 · answered by Lois M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try staying at home and save for a while being that they do let you come and go as you want. If it gets too much cause of your stepmom then move out. Im sure you can put up with her for a while so you can save. The real world is hard out there and all the money you can save will help you out for when emergencys arise.
2007-02-03 02:32:23 · answer #5 · answered by moo shell 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In a world of imperfection, we live with people who are imperfect. In our live's journey, we get to meet people of different culture, believes and character. Some are nice while some can be quite a experience to be with! Surely though we all do desire to be with people whom we can feel and be at ease with. This however is the ideal yet impossible. Just as the old saying goes: "Is the grass greener on the other side?"
From school to work place to family and even at the restaurant, we do get our fair share of experiences with the different people. How the situation flows soley depends on you. Yes indeed you have heard me right. It purely depends on you. The key aspect here is: The situation is there to say, but how YOU react towards it depends on your approach and handle the situation.
Many do not realize this as it is common for us to put the blame onto the surrounding factors without the realization that it is actually us who have the control over the situation. A simple illustration will be this:
You are standing on a road where an on comming truck is approaching you. The distance between you and the truck is 500m, thus giving you sufficient time to move out of your standing spot. The truck driver had a very bad day and he is drunk with alchohol, with foot full on the accelerator paddle. He takes no notice on you standing on the road. It is almost certain that if you do not budge from your standing point, he will certainly knock you down.
If he does, do you blame him? Well surely it is his fault for taking on the wheels in a drunken state, however nothing is stopping you in the first place from taking control of the situation by moving out of the spot.
The crux of this is: In every situation, it has to depend on you. It is either you having to take control of the situation or to simply allow the situation to take control over you. Do not take me wrong by saying that the best option is to stay away from home, but my view upon this takes upon a whole different level.
The way I look upon situations such as these, I will stay on in the family regardless of how the situation is. Surely it is tough, but isn't this the best time to develop upon character and patience in life? I am glad you mentioned that you have a heart for your family, so do not allow just one people to detech you from that love.
Families and love ones are hard to come by, you can only have them once in your life time. There are millions out there who are lost since birth, never even having the experience of what it is to have a family.
If you can bring upon harmony with a person whom you may now feel hard to live with, how much more can you do with people who you can easily be with!
If you are yet still not convinced by this direction, then perhaps I may ask if you are to consider your family to be like a work place, with your step mother being your superior or boss. WIll moving from one company to another solve the problem? Temporary yes, permanently, no.
I may not answer your question directly, however I hope this helps.
2007-02-03 02:56:34 · answer #6 · answered by bercanees 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say that living in a place where you are not comfortable being is a bad idea. Wait till you get some cash saved and then move out. Find a place of your own and set your own rules and boundries. That would be the best way to go.
2007-02-03 02:34:10 · answer #7 · answered by Nina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its about how you feel. If you are not comfy in the environment move out. It shouldnt hurt their feelings you are 21. Also, it is a little more expensive then living with your dad but you can still save maybe not as much but you can still save some and maybe find something better if the cousin situation doesnt work out.
2007-02-03 02:33:54 · answer #8 · answered by proudtobeme_2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you don't sound like you and your stepmom are at each other's throats, it would really be a good idea to stay at home so you can save some money. In the long run, you'll be better off with some money in your pocket - then you can do whatever you wish!!
Good luck!!
2007-02-03 02:32:16 · answer #9 · answered by lanibear55 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recommend that as long as your family can stand you, you stay at home and save every last penny (or whatever the equivalent is in your country). That way when you move out, you could perhaps even buy your own place with a sweet downpayment.
2007-02-03 02:30:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋