Two years ago I got really hurt by my wife and childhood sweetheart of 8 years,now I cant keep a staedy relationship except with my two children who live in with me and go to school. I just cant trust women even when they have done nothing to me. Can anyone offer some advice?
2007-02-03 02:27:57 · 15 answers · asked by Elsalsis 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i am in the same boat.i just cant seem to develop trust for another woman
2007-02-03 02:36:55 · answer #1 · answered by woody 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not psychotic..you do not have a mental problem....But you have been hurt and that is a normal reaction....Take it slow with a relationship and build trust, because trust just does not happen over night and those who trust too soon usually get hurt...and maybe you should take sometime, to be with your children and heal yourself a bit before getting into another relationship...Look at the couples around you who have a wonderful relationship...this should help a bit..and maybe talking with someone would help also.
2007-02-03 10:36:30 · answer #2 · answered by Mechelle C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think and I am sure it is obvious to you that you haven't gotten over your ex's betrayal. This is a serious problem with many people so instead of getting back at the ex who is the cause of the problem (cause you probably can't, and maybe even shouldn't; I mean why waste your time). You subconsciously make some other innocent victim who is looking to care about you pay for it, which is really unfair to this person. So please don't pass the buck, break the cycle.
2007-02-03 10:35:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have got to put the past behind you. Learn from your mistakes and don't make the same ones again.You have to decide to start brand new. Take it slow and get to know people before you jump into a relationship.It takes time and effort but you can move forward and have a new life.You are not psychotic....you are more normal than you think.
2007-02-03 10:37:55 · answer #4 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not psychotic, but are probably bomb damaged. You have to try to confine your bad past experiences to the past for once and for good. A new girlfriend appreciates that you have had a past but will not like to have your past rammed down her throat on a regular basis.
2007-02-03 10:31:33 · answer #5 · answered by bovie 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
my husband married my sister; it could be worse, it could've been my brother. i don't know your situation, but don't waste time in the past when you could have a future, with someone real. remember that a neurotic builds castles in the sky, and a psychotic lives in them. do you own a castle? lol good luck.
2007-02-03 10:36:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're gonna want to find a counseler. They're going to know way more about how to move on than anyone on this website.
2007-02-03 10:31:39 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you have not gotten over it. takes a while to heal. but don't mistrust woman just bcos of your past experiences. now that you know that you tend to 'close up' to prevent from being hurt, maybe you can lighten up on some occasions. give yourself a chance! you deserve it
2007-02-03 10:31:10 · answer #8 · answered by littlepurplebugz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
counseling,communicate with your ex about the pain she has caused you. you have to be able to move on and learn to trust someone who is worthy.
2007-02-03 10:32:25 · answer #9 · answered by MJ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with golden angle
2007-02-03 10:36:29 · answer #10 · answered by julia1975 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋