my bf doesnt seem to understand that he hurts me wen he doesnt do lil things ( i aint ganna go in to it ) .. i told him that it hurts me but his still doing it and wen i make a stand and say something and he has his lil hissy fits and turns it on to him self and he becomes the victim .. am just tired of this i cant talk it it anymore am throught talking out with him cos he ends up doing the same thing to me again ...wat should i do to make him realise that his hurting me ....should i just ignore him and wat for him to say something ... he makes me feel like i anit important in his life and i heat being second best ... is this a good idea
2007-02-03 02:22:00 · 12 answers · asked by apple 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If your guy has nothing to say about hurting you then he shold be kicked to the curb. Even if you really him. No girl deserves to be hurt and the guy care to do it. You have said that you have talked to him about it well, the only advice i have is, talk to him one more time and this time say, (whatever his name is), Listen, i have told you, you were hurting me and you obviosly don't seem to care, but if you do say you do, but if you don't then i want a guy who does, and if you can't be that guy like i want you to be then i am sorry but we can't be together. I hope i have helped you, but in the end no matter what happens look at it this way... there are way more fishy's in da sea! lol
2007-02-03 02:31:00 · answer #1 · answered by Krissy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he turns it round every time you try to talk to him, the best thing you could do would be to finish with him. Its obvious he doesnt listen to anything you say and doesnt care about how you feel. If you stay with him its just going to get worse and youll end up being hurt even more.
2007-02-03 12:54:15 · answer #2 · answered by fallenangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have already told him that his actions are hurting you and he does nothing to change then it doesn`t sound like he has much respect for you. He sounds like an idiot crying the victim card when it`s you that`s hurting. Let him go, walk away, hold your head up high and move on to better things. You deserve more from life than this.
2007-02-03 10:29:04 · answer #3 · answered by Delilah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being second best is never going to work. Leave him and move on with your life. He is playing cruel games with you and by the sounds of things needs to grow up.
I understand that there are 2 sides to every story but as we only know your side i can only say that you need to get out of that relationship.
2007-02-03 10:55:50 · answer #4 · answered by Unhinged.... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him (again) and tell him that he is being very selfish and self-centred. Dont ignore and accept something, especially when you know that you have been taken for granted and not appreciated. if he loves you, he will consider your feelings. Never be second best cause you deserve better.
2007-02-03 10:31:37 · answer #5 · answered by Clueless me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well babe do you want to spend the rest of your life with this man
if you talk and find out every thing is sorted will he go back to his old ways.
i think you should finish it, find someone else that suits you more. it's up to you.
2007-02-03 10:30:14 · answer #6 · answered by brioduinn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
GETrid of him, i lived like this for 30+years, doint do what i did & try & change him, thats how he is, & most men(not all are the same).
2007-02-03 10:29:17 · answer #7 · answered by sueu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would finish with him he his making you feel upset.That is not good.Move on & find some one who treats you with the respect you deserve.Good Luck
2007-02-03 10:29:30 · answer #8 · answered by Ollie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Clueless me is right hun! you shouldent ever feel second best to anyone! be strong!! you can do it! i know you can!BELIEVE IN THE IMPOSSIBLE! HOLD TIGHT TO THE INCREDEBLE!
2007-02-03 11:03:37 · answer #9 · answered by Fred 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talking to him and explain how you feel.
2007-02-03 10:28:40 · answer #10 · answered by cheekybluebed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋