What do u do with a husband that says "no" to everything u say?

Question

Look I have a husband that says "no" to everything I ask him to. He cant even get me a pencil that's sitting right there in front of him and I'm like in another room upstairs! I luv him and all and he's skinny, not fat but lazy, but i think hes getting tired of me and stuff. When i ask him to do something cuz im usually taking care of my kid, Sammy, and cleaning the house, my husband's just fighting with the freaking TV remote and wont stop doing it! What can I do to make him stop treating me like a maid? He wont even give me a kiss hello when I get home from work!

O yea btw, i dont think he cares about me at all. He's just acting like hes living in a mansion instead of a regular house and that he has a maid around to do stuff for him. I think hes handsome and all, but really, when u get married to a guy or girl, make sure he/she treats u with respect! Im positive that he does not care for me anymore. its better if ur a gf better than a wife. my kid Sammy is suffering and i hate this. should i talk to him about this or leave with Sammy?

Answer 1

Well for one I don't see why you haven't left yet. Guess you was thinking he was going to change but when a guy gets lazy he wouldn't change. But sit down with him and tell him how you feel and what's it doing to if things at the house don't change. And also cut him off and don't worry about his begging for it. But your best bet would be to leave with Sammy and don't look back. Because you deserve better and you also need to be treated with respect. Also your husband needs to grow up and wake up to a dream world he thinks he is in. So want to chat more IM me or e-mail me anytime.

Answer 2

I think the two of you should go to therapy together - however, I am inclined to believe he'll say no!!

I think you may have married him for the wrong reasons. You mentioned his looks twice - never saying anything else positive about him. I'm also guessing that you married him the way he is, but you thought you could change him once you two were married. Now there is a child involved and it's gotten even more complicated!!

Again, you two should go to therapy. As much as we are such a society with short attention spans and everything is so fleeting, you should really try to make this work - just once - before you make the decision to leave him. I'd say a real sign that it's worth saving is if he's willing to go to therapy with you. If he just knocks it, then you are correct - he doesn't care about you. Then you have to take little Sammy and go.

Good luck to you!!

Answer 3

UR HUSBAND IS ONE LAZY ****
all u gotta do is threatin him by move away and stay in ur parents' house for a moment or get a day off somewhere and see how can he survive without his "maid".
when he could realize that...tell him tht ur love is decrease lately n stuff like that....im sure later on he wont dare to wake u up middle of the night askin u making him a sandwich ;P

good luck~

Answer 4

You aren't a doormat, why let him treat you as one? Both of you need to get into counseling, and soon. If he is not receptive to the idea of counseling then cut your losses and move on. There are lots of other men out there and besides you and your child's needs should be your first priority. Stop and take a good hard look at the situation that you are in and then ask yourself if this is really what you want from your marriage, if the answer is no then the answer should be obvious as to what you should do.

Answer 5

Dont leave with Sammy. Try this....try some new activities that dont include your lumpy husband. Go out to dinner with Sammy and leave Donald Trump at home. I would stop looking for all the flaws and just get busy doing stuff for you and Sammy. If he complains.....(lumpy, I mean)....then take that time to tell him you want your friendship and love back. Tell him your not the hired help and you need to be side by side with him....not under his feet. Breaking up is not a solution...it adds to the problem. Go to the mall, go visit friends, relatives, movies, whatever you like, just leave your lumpy husband out until he wakes up.

Answer 6

I saw that you work, does he? If you allow yourself to be a door mat, then he will wipe his feet on you. Maybe send him to see a marriage councilor. Stop doing things for his lazy butt and he will notice. He does not respect you at all. How can you stand that. I would think about a trial seperation. Ask the question, Is he worth my self respect? You are the wife, not the maid.

Answer 7

i think quid pro quo

if he wont lift a finger to help you - don't do stuff for him

that means no meals (he will have to cook for himself)

also no washing - he can go to work and smell

no nothing for him either

and as to stopping treating you like a maid - don't co operate and he wont be able to if you don't give him permission to

he sounds very selfish and tough love is probably the best wtg

and if he doesn't like it? then you shedding 200lbs of waste space may not be a bad thing all told?

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Your child has a right to grow up in home where both parents are caring for him. If your husband does not want to be a family then make your own family with your son. Don't do for your husband. He is definitely old enough to get his own meals and do his own laundry. LET HIM>

Answer 10

Leave him if he's not paying you any attention as his wife then who are you?! You don't deserve this treatment and neither does Sammy. Tell yo hubby to step up and be a man or get lost. ALL MEN ARENT IRREPLACEABLE!!!