i'm pretty mad right now. i got sick this week cuz last week i spent a lot of time out w/ my boyfriend for his birthday. we stayed out all late since wednesday - friday because of various people (friends, then family, then private celebration that i planned, and paid for).
i had to call in sick two days, and i played w/ the idea of him coming over and bringing me groceries. but he Totally didn't want to, and i didn't want to force him to....and he started saying "if you Really want me to...." like 10 times!!! obviously i did... and i jokingly said "ok if u don't come, u have to go to the gym" and he Hates goin to the gym, and he was like "ok i'll go to the gym".
is that not messed up or What?? he works hard and is really busy, but then he's willing to get off work to go have dinner w/ his family in a snap.
2007-02-03 02:07:33 · 15 answers · asked by tarmee2006 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know how you feel my friend,maybe he feels an obligation to his family and friends,and feels comfortable enough with you to say no and feel safe. just let him know that he has obligations just as important in your relationship and things could go bad if he doesn't pay attention! Good luck,sometimes they never stop the selfishness,but don't give up yet!
2007-02-03 02:23:37 · answer #1 · answered by gene e 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Relationships that work best are those in which selfishness is put totally aside. I have things I want. My wife has things we want. The compromise is realizing what is best for both of us together. She does cooking and the dishes. I handle the finances, the cars, the garbage. WE BOTH do the grocery shopping. We discuss the bills. It really is give and take. If he don't see that, you should look for someone who does.
2007-02-03 10:14:47 · answer #2 · answered by kyghostchaser2006 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's not selfish, that's you being petty. He can't read your f*cking mind if you want him to come over and bring you some groceries then f*cking tell him!!! I'm sure he's a big boy, he'll do what needs doing but he doesn't know what to do if you don't just tell him. As for you guys doing things for his birthday, first of all, it's his birthday for Christ's sake, you SHOULD be planning and paying for it all. And second, you made the choice to go out, and to call in sick, so that's now your problem, deal with it. Quite trying to find answers from people you don't know and talk to him about it, he's the only one who's opinion matters.
2007-02-03 10:16:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Sounds like you need to have a heart to heart with this guy if you want to try to work things out. Tell him how you feel and all. See if he is willing to try and change his ways. If he isnt or doesnt then you might want to consider if that is what you want to be with for the rest of your life.
There is a guy out there that will appreciate you and will do things for you too. I thought there wasnt then out of the blue popped in my boyfriend I have now. He puts me first with things and I do with him too. We talk to each other about everything too.
Good luck.
2007-02-03 10:15:36 · answer #4 · answered by moo shell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't know why he has to take care of you. Personally, I want to be left alone when I'm sick. But, I am curious why he prefered to go the gym over taking you some meds and tissues.
2007-02-03 10:12:20 · answer #5 · answered by Groovy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Omg that is totally unfair, girl. does he think ur bossing him around 2 much that makes him annoyed with u? well dont say anything and appreciate that hes there for u. but that is totally unfair. if i had some1 like that, i would say "we're over, cuz i dont think u care about me!" and would leave the room. thats what i would do. come on, there has to be a CARING guy for u somewhere! â¥
2007-02-03 10:12:17 · answer #6 · answered by Axback Hotte♥ 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dump him. It's hard to end a relationship but the way he is acting is a BIG red flag.
2007-02-03 10:17:08 · answer #7 · answered by sarahsweetdaisy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
stop wasting our time because you are still with with and you won't leave him you are probably under 25 and you still don't relly know know what you want.
this will go on for years and you will go over it again and again.
then you'll hit thirty and start to hear your biological clock then date some other guy behind his back then when he finds out then by default you'll have the courage to leave him.
2007-02-03 10:27:55 · answer #8 · answered by mokcasin 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Dump him. Post a picture of yourself on here and you'll have a new bf in no time at all!
2007-02-03 10:12:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Dump his lazy *** & move on to someone who will treat you with more respect. Sometimes an apple is just that...an apple.
2007-02-03 10:11:22 · answer #10 · answered by itsjustchris1968 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋