she keeps using the fanny word and boasting to everyone how shapely hers is. She teased my family members about their big or saggy fannys. I know I should have told her that you shouldn't say that word in Ireland but it was funny at the time. None of my family speak to her and she doesn't know why. How can I tell her now?
2007-02-03 02:06:32 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell her of course. She may die of mortification but will thank you in the end. She meant know offence that isn't offensive where she comes from. We have so many words that would be offensive in parts of America. Thankfully I didn't use anything there but here (Scotland) a rubber is something to erase with. My American friend thought this so funny because as you probably know now (this was a long time ago) it's a condom there. It doesn't have to be thousands of miles away for things to be different. I remember my English friend calling a little girl a cow and I was repulsed. Here a cow refererred to a prostiture but to her it was just expressing the child could be a bit nasty. Also why are you not letting your family speak to her? I am sorry but you should be sticking up for your girlfriend and informing your family she didn't mean any harm and this was an 'alright' word from her. I have relatives and friends in Ireland and I appreciate the majority of Irish f*** all the time and say J**** but it's amazing the people in the world that think the Irish absolutely uncooth for speaking as they do. Perhaps you should show your family this. There's no intention being nasty (I love the Irish) but it may make things clearer. Hope this helps..........unless you are looking for an excuse to dump the girl in the first place???
2007-02-03 05:26:49 · answer #1 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best way would be to use your mouth !!! Your not being rude, just tell her that where you live you call it your bum and call a vagina a fanny. She ,might be a bit embarrassed but at least she'll know, and probably see the funny side, have you explained this to your family too ?
2007-02-04 04:41:38 · answer #2 · answered by Jovi Freak 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest, tell her that she persistently misuses the word and that in your culture it's a terrible word, and that's why your family is upset. I would suggest she apologise to them, as they are obviously offended and think she has a dirty mouth. Make her see that it is NOT funny *at all.*
I know it's hard, some people refuse to make allowances for cultural differences, but if she's living in Ireland she has to accept Irish norms. If she's going around insulting all and sundry and saying "well that's just the way I am, it's OK where I come from" remind her that she's NOT where she comes from, she's a guest in another country. And if she gets mad at you, rethink your relationship.
2007-02-03 14:04:42 · answer #3 · answered by anna 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good day to all- just an arrogant Yank here wondering what the "Fanny " word is ? Pardon my naivete ,but it is apparently a linguistic difference and it sounds rather amusing . If I may be so bold as to ask....
2007-02-03 11:12:11 · answer #4 · answered by Mike Oxard 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
saggy Fanny's where in ireland do they grow them love to see a Field full of them now ive seen a few shapley ones in the fields
2007-02-03 10:18:59 · answer #5 · answered by thickstaff05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For feck's sake tell the poor girl.
Make sure you tell the family too about the American meaning of the word.
They might not change their opinion after all if someone told my mother she had a big saggy bum they wouldn't be welcome to come back.
2007-02-04 04:03:21 · answer #6 · answered by freebird 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you intend to stay with her you need to explain to her and your family seperately the difference in what the word means in the different countries. then go from there.
2007-02-03 10:11:36 · answer #7 · answered by Mr Cynical 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that it was funny at start but its not funny anymore and that people here get offended with certain things cuz of different culture so try to keep certain things private cuz jokes to us may not be jokes to them they take things differently,, its all good
2007-02-03 15:00:29 · answer #8 · answered by ghazal 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her what it means the poor girlShe will be so embarrassed &
If it was me I would be asking you, why are your family not talking to me.?
2007-02-03 10:14:16 · answer #9 · answered by Ollie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She told us that if you said anything she'd tell everybody how small your p e n i s is so you'd better be quiet Mr. 2 inches.
2007-02-03 10:13:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋