Here is our dilema, our son has befriended a kid in our neighborhood that we know has had a rough upbringing. His parents went through a nasty divorce a few years back and both of their kids were dragged through the mud. The boy my son is friends with has in the past had some serious behavior problems. He has been in trouble with the police, dropped out of school in grade 9, dabbled in drugs. Anyway the point is alot of kids in our community do not like this kid and now they don't like my son because he is friends with him. I am proud of my son because he chooses his friends based on their personalities not because of others opinions. Now what is happening is my son is being threatened by these kids and they showed up at his school yesterday to "teach him a lesson" I raced to the school to pick up my son. Now the emails we are getting from these kids are filled with name calling, threats, and ignorant statements. Now I am aware that my son has probably shot his mouth off to these kids.
2007-02-03 01:43:33 · 14 answers · asked by Bridgette B 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
My son is a good kid, experiencing normal teenage behavior ( as frustrating as this is to us) but I am getting very scared about the threat of violence. I contacted the police but they say until something happens they can't do anything. My son has helped get his friend back into school ( I am home schooling him) and they are good buddies. My son has asked me to just let things die down, but I am thinking of going an talking to the parents of these kids (10 showed up at the school) but my son thinks it would make it worse for him. They are calling him Momma's boy, because I picked him up before anything could happen. Any help would be appreciated. I have been up all night worrying, I am ready to sell my house and move to protect my son. Help Please.
2007-02-03 01:47:54 · update #1
BTH L, I am in no way implying that my son is innocent, I no he can be mouthy, but these are 17 and 18 year olds that are threatening him. These are the same crowd of kids that were involved in a stabbing 2 weeks ago, they "taught " a lesson to a kid who refused to give them his hat.
2007-02-03 01:50:47 · update #2
I just don't understand why a fist fight isn't a fist fight anymore. These kids came with bats and steel pipes. Who knows how many had knives on them. I have talked with my sons school friends and they are pretty honest about stuff like this and they told me that my son stood up to them ( and was probably being mouthy) when they were calling him names because he has a piercing on his lip. I am so frustrated I could just scream.
2007-02-03 02:18:25 · update #3
It sounds like the kid your son has befriended needs all the friends he can get. Don't be too alarmed, I'm sure your son is mature enough to deal with this issue. In fact your son should be applauded for having the courage to stand by his convictions.
I would respectfully advise you monitor the situation at a distance and offer support for your son and his friend but do not let it appear that your son cowers behind your apron, I'm sure this is not the case but pls be mindful as this could be a worse scenario. Often kids from problematic or broken homes develop an enhanced interest in the arts, music, theater & mechanics. It may be one of these talents that draws your son to this young fellow. If this is the case, identify it and work with it. You'll be suprised how things may turn out.
I have two young sons myself.
2007-02-03 02:03:53 · answer #1 · answered by Hoosyadaddy 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
The only thing i can tell you is if their making threats to your son and you have proof you can make a report to the police. Otherwise this happens everyday, kids always want to beat someone up especially when they gang up together. The situation could get scary because now a days you have no clue what these teens will do! Your son shouldn't have to stop being friends with someone because of the way they grew up. I'm sure your son's friend needs a good roll model in his life and your boy may just be that person. I don't see how him not being friends is going to stop these other kids from making these threats. Usually teens don't care who hangs out with who. There may be more to the story than you realize. Your son is going to have to keep his mouth shut, like you said he may have just irritated them with words. Your going to have to let the school aware of what's going on, if they don't already know, so that they can protect him while he's there. I wouldn't take threats lightly. If you have to inform the law.
*It may be gang related.
2007-02-03 01:53:53 · answer #2 · answered by Curious J. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well the kids probably wont stop even if your son stops hanging out with that kid because they already don't like him now and I'm sure that the kid is not the main reason they are being so harsh. Your son probably did something other than just hang out with a boy they don't like. If I were you I'd show the school those emails and tell them you feel like your son is in danger and maybe the school can help.
2007-02-03 01:51:50 · answer #3 · answered by Kueryn 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
While you have nothing but love in your heart please don't go to the parents of these kids. Partly as these are not going to be "kids much longer and the parents truly don't have much control over what they do. It could also make the situation much worse. Think about this for one second. You go to those parents as an outraged mom. These parents if they are good ones are going to "talk " to their kids about what they are doing to your boy and his friend. These boys are going to have a very negative reaction to this. Your boy will now not only be not liked for what ever reason these kids have made up in their heads now your son will be a tattle tailing mom ma's boy. Which when it comes to teenage boy's is a far worse crime. Keep going to the police. If these boys are as bad as you say they most likely already know about them. If it gets worse get a restraining order. Listen it probably won't stop them if they have made up their minds to do harm but it will ensure jail time if they do.
2007-02-03 02:22:48 · answer #4 · answered by blue_eyed_brat78 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Something is obviously going on, these are signs of depression, bi-polar and also of someone using drugs. You need to talk to your son and see what is going on. He may not want to talk about it or say everything is fine, if so you will most definately want to consider counseling for him. 15 is a really tough age for boys and girls, he is going through puberty and that can cause some major emotional problems. Once you find out what the issue is, than you can decide whether to take away the computer and video games. It has been proven that many people who are depressed will spend a lot of time on the computer, so you may want to consider that when deciding to take his computer away. Good luck - I hope everything works out for you and your son.
2016-05-23 22:58:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to the school board and bring every thing that these children sent you. tell them that you don't feel that your son is safe here at school and that these young guys need to be controled so that they cannot hurt anyones children, talk to other parents and see if these boys are harrassing them, the more you get the more you can bring it against them and talk to the police then, since you have all these other parents. saying the same thing. we all know our kids too can be mouthy but when its one agianst many others, its not a fair fight. good luck.
2007-02-03 02:21:07 · answer #6 · answered by misty blue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my have you told the police about the teens who are coming to your house with bats and such,I know you said you called them,But how could they not do anything.My suggestion is take your child out of public schooling and do homeschooling with him as you have with the other child.And you should set your child and the other child(the new friend) and explain to them that if things dont stop then your goin to have to stop teaching the boy till things calm down...I hope that all things go ok with this situation I can see exactly how you are worried...GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-02-03 03:00:48 · answer #7 · answered by *** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds dangerous. Maybe he should stop hanging out with him. He can get killed! But at the same time, that boy needs a friend. Maybe you should move and start fresh. I hope everything turms out okay.
2007-02-03 02:15:33 · answer #8 · answered by A Girl With a Dream 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally i think you should inform the police, because they are singling out your son because of the people your son is hanging out with, the police will sort it out
2007-02-03 02:07:50 · answer #9 · answered by lil_pwrincesss_kim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the cops, file a report and follow up on it
Call the school and make a report
2007-02-03 02:48:26 · answer #10 · answered by Nana 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋