How can I change "destructive" patterns in my life?

Question

Peace and Love

Answer 1

though certainly part of your journey may deal with going through the practices of whatever your faith tradition (assuming you have one) dictates for such times, here are a couple other things that might help.

Try and really sit down and figure out what exactly the behaviors are that you want changed in your life. Most of us struggle with even this small step because its not easy to be brutally honest with yourself. Now it becomes important that you really focus on being self aware because next you should try and figure out what need each of those behaviors fufills. If you (to pick something silly at random) constantly are chewing pens and you dont want to do this anymore, your never going to remedy the habit if you just say well i dont think i want to chew on pens its a bad habit. Obviously this isnt destructive, but to each person their own right.

Once you figure out that you have affininity to chew pens because when you get irritated with your coworkers you need to release tension, then you can focus on this to reduce this stressor and then coupled with your desire to get rid of your destructive tendency, hopefully find yourself on the path you want to be on.

Answer 2

I would suggest meditation. Your personal issues can only be solved through the self, reliance on a higher being is simply not taking responsibility for your own actions. Read the I-Ching and the teachings of the Buddha. These teach self-responsibility and inner peace. The common perception of the Buddha is of a demi-god but truly, he was a teacher of new thought. Try finding peace within yourself and extend that peace to others. Good luck!

Answer 3

come closer to God who is strong enough to teach you to change those patterns.. and you must be willing to change yourself, and at the same time accept the things you can't change.

Answer 4

Prayer and faith.