do i let a child see there father wen he wanted her dead?

Question

it is keith macdonald who has been in the papers for lots of children to different women!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

yes, why punish the child for her fathers thoughts? she deserves to know her father, warts and all. Just because he thought a termination was the best way forward when she was conceived it doesnt mean he cant love her now she's born. Good luck. And why the hell did you sleep with him without a condom??!

Answer 2

Well when you say "wanted her dead" do you mean abortion, or literally wanted her dead!? If he wanted you to have an abortion and has now changed his mind then that's the past, if he truly wants to see his child now, then it's time for a second chance and (I haven't heard of him) he has lots of children I guess if it is the case he wanted you to have an abortion, it would be because he didn't want to pay child support or he had too many children already. If he wants to see your child then maybe give him a trial first to see if he is passionate about it and honestly willing to be a good father, take it from there and decide.

But, if he wanted your child dead like he wanted to kill your child then no! I think you should allow your child to know her father by educating her on who he is, BUT only give your child the facts, do not try and influence her opinions of him, when she's older she/he will only find out the truth their self, you need to let your child do this. In this case if he's apologised I'd still not believe him, it could just be a bluff.

Whatever you do, I say stick to it (unless in bad circumstances), a father who is in and out of your life messes you up a little! I know. If it happened long ago and your child can how understand then I think you might need to discuss it in either circumstance.

PinkMyst - It all sounds so complicated but children are precious, keep your child's best interest in mind and forget your feelings. Use your motherly instincts not your instincts as someone who's angered by him. For your child, I hope all is well in the end.

( I HAVE READ YOUR OTHER POST - the reason he has probably done this is because he didn't want hildren, he wanted to be a player (seems he failed at that!) he didn't want children at his age and probably didn't want anymore each time round...who wants to see who? Does your child want to see their father or father wants to see your child? That itself should be enough to answer your question. I read some of his comments in articles and it seems he is kind of enthusiastic in his own way. Now your child is living and well, he might be different towards your child. Put the past behind and move on, in whatever you decide to do. Because it seems you are still hurt over this too.

Answer 3

Every child has a right to see their father. You do not say how old the child is - but if it is at an age when it can understand, then yes - providing you don't leave the child alone with him. This Keith Macdonald is notorious I gather from your comments.

Answer 4

If this person would only be a negative factor in the child's life then no.
If the child does not know him then no.
If he hasn't been there for the child then no.
If he is trying to get with you again by doing this , then no.
If he is here today and gone tomorrow then no.
Any child needs a emotionally strong parent to protect them from people like him.
I know being a single parent may not be easy but a child is better off when they know the parent that is there is constant and not going to wander in and out of their life.
This will mess them up emotionally and will scar them for life.
I am sure he is not supporting the child, and you are, so just because he donated sperm, it does not make him a father.....
I think he is a player and has an inflated ego and is trouble.
I do not know who he is and I don't care to know him. He is bad news.
Protect your child from this man.......

Answer 5

I don't know who keith macdonald is, and I hope for the sake of this answer you're referring to an abortion!! Most fathers don't feel like fathers until the baby is born and can be seen and touched physically and alot of people believe abortion isn't murder because the foetus isn't a baby yet (not my belief personally) so I wouldn't hold it against him that he wanted an abortion. If now the father wants to be a father and is accepting of his daughter then I don't believe it's right to keep them apart. My son's father wanted me to have an abortion and now three years on he tells me that his son is the only reason he gets out of bed in the morning (we've separated)...
If, of course, you're referring to actual murder and not an abortion then I would change our last name and move country so he'd never have a chance to lay eyes on her let alone hands!!

Answer 6

How old is the child? Does the child want to see him? Does the child know what the father is accused of?

An older child who is aware of the circumstances may want to see her father anyway --- that is still up to you. But it should be supervised.

A younger child should, I think, be told that seeing him is not a good idea at this time --without going into a lot of detail unless you are asked.

I am not aware of the circumstances --- don't think it has been on the news where I am.

Answer 7

You need counselling on this one by a proper professional.It may be psychologically damaging to a childs self esteem to find out the parentage of the child.Maybe you should let sleeping dogs lie.

Answer 8

Screw that, your childs safety is always first. If he can harm them then forget it, he has no business caring for any children and should be locked up and the key thrown far far away.

Answer 9

No - children need a parent to respect- hes a low life- stick to your guns!!

Answer 10

You honestly have to ask ??? Of course you shouldn't let the child have contact xxxxxx