What would u do if your sister didn't like your husband?

Question

Ok my sister don't like my husband - and it's not cause he's a bad man. He is the most 'perfect' man I have ever been with. It's all about her..........she is one of those girls who can't take a joke. She ALWAYS takes things the wrong way. She gets upset when people dissagree with her. It's getting to the point that I don't even want to talk to her. When I tell her something that i'm thinking - then I say well i'm gonna talk to my husband about it she starts saying "why do u need to ask him? you can make your own decisions, you don't need his approval. " I am the older sister, but I keep stuff in just so we don't fight. She is EXTREMELY immature and don't know what it's like to have kids or be married. She is only 22 with a big a** mouth and a bad attitude. I've talked to her but nothing works..............any suggestions???

Answer 1

She is at an age where she thinks she knows it all.
She has a big surprise waiting around the corner for her.
She will not be prepared for it, but it will happen., eventually.
I wouldn't worry about her behaviour, it will change slowly as time passes and her responsibilities start piling onto her shoulders.
I do believe she is jealous of what you have and she wants to down play it and make you sound like a dummy, cause you have a good relationship with your husband.
She is all about her, cause she has no one else to talk about...
You will never win the argument with her and she is not interested in your opinions, so I wouldn't offer them.
If you have to, keep the conversation light and airy, about really nothing until you see a progression in her maturity and respect to one another.
I wouldn't worry whether she likes him or not, he is your husband and I am sure he is not concerned in the least....
You need to relax, focus on your life and family and let her bang against her own walls for now until she knocks some sense into herself....
Let it go...

Answer 2

This is a tough question... My sister had a similar problem when she got married. Her husband and my brother do not get along at all. They constantly examine each others flaws, it even has almost come to blows on several occasions. Like your sister, my brother is younger with a strong personality.

So what do you do?

With my brother and sister it has come to something of an impass. They are never together with her husband, they never discuss her husband, and family functions are very difficult.

What do I recommend?

As the oldest in my family, I like to think I have a fairly open perspective and a logical approach to these things.

In the example you gave above where your sister says that you don't need your husband's approval? She may just be fearful that you will be overwhelmed or dominated by your husband. As the oldest I am sure that you have given her advice in the past. Right? She may be afraid that you will no longer be there when she needs you, or that you may discuss her personal problems with your husband.

So how do you deal with that? Explain to your sister that while you do not need your husband's approval, you do respect his opinion. You will make your own mind up, but just like you discuss your thoughts with her, you discuss them with him as well. You don't let her make decisions for you right? You can explain you relationship with your husband the same way. (I know that is inaccurate, but putting them on equal footing couldn't hurt, especially if your sister has as much attitude as you say!)

Eventually you may have to put things more decisively. As your sister I would hope that she would have the courtesy to respect your husband, just as you would respect hers. Unfortunately people are emotional, I know that I do not feel that my sister's husband deserves her, but she chose him. I have to respect that choice, and I hope that your sister can do the same for you.

Good luck!

Answer 3

My sister doesn't like my husband either....but i've got a different situation why she doesn't like my husband. My sister holds a grudge against my husband. I am disabled, so my sister used to be my care taker, run errends for me, take me to the DR. etc. she got paid for doing this through the state, now that I married my husband, I had to fire her, the state told me I had to , they said its his responsability to take care of me, etc. which I truly understand, but my sister doesn't see it that way. When I fired her, she became very mad & upset, so now she holds a grudge. She bitches etc. but I let it go in one ear & out the other, we don't have that much in common any more, we hardley see each other even tho we live in the same town. So only thing I can think of, if your sister don't want to listen to you, shut her out, it may hurt you, but some times you have to do what you have to do. Good luck to you & thanks for listening to me! :o)

Answer 4

She's jealous of you.

But if she won't treat your husband decently, then don't have anything more to do with her. Your relationship with your husband is more important than your relationship with your sister.

Don't be nasty to her, don't avoid her pointedly. But make sure it's her that has to come to you nad the minute she starts criticising your husband, tell her you're not having any of that and just walk away.

Answer 5

ask her if she would like it when she eventually gets married if u didn't like her husband and kept slagging him of then see what she says. if ure the older u shouldn't take no sh** from the younger one!

Answer 6

She should tolerate him out of respect for you. I agree, she sounds like she is jealous of you. Ignore her. She'll grow up soon.

Answer 7

Tell her to get over herself.

Answer 8

talk to your husband about her.

Answer 9

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