There's this guy that I met about a year ago......3 months after we met he left to go to another college......we liked eachother & still talk even tho we haven't seen one another.....when I talk to him, he's always saying that he doesn't like the idea of me being w/ other guys....when I know, he's probably messin around with other girls.......we ain't together but recently when I spoke to him he called me his wifey...I feel like we don't have any title...& he wants me to sit around waiting for him while he goes out with other chicks......For those of you who have relationship experience.....what's going on, is he playing games with me?????
2007-02-03 01:04:28 · 17 answers · asked by APPLE 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I believe that this guy that recently came back into your life is not good for you. By what you wrote, he sounds controlling (because he doesn't like you around other men), unfair (making you wait for him while he goes out with other girls) and abnormal (calling you wifey!). But I cannot make this decision for you because you have to follow your heart and hope you make the right decision about him. Good luck!
2007-02-03 01:10:26 · answer #1 · answered by mcvcm92 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an awkward situation and I have kinda been there but not for such a time. Look I think it sounds like you have feelings for each other that are ongoing. You care for each other and maybe one day it will develop into something more.
He doesn't sound considerate in what he says. Most guys don't like the idea of a girl they have the remotest crush on seeing other girls, but don't necessarily say it in this situation. The nice thing about him is he is being obvious.
I would object to the wifey thing, he hasn't earned that yet.
Hes not deliberately playing games with you, he cares for you but hes necessarily in a different location and will be seeing other girls- fact.
Just put that out of your mind. Keep in contact with him. AND, forget about whether he thinks you should date. You sound a bit "whipped", you don't need his permission to date. See guys in the meantime. It would be his loss and thats the way life goes. Besides if you start seeing a guy if might spur him into action of taking actions twards being with you properly
2007-02-03 09:14:17 · answer #2 · answered by Oz Billy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT sit around and wait for him. You can still keep in touch and be friendly, but right now your lives are in two different places. If he's far away it's going to be nearly impossible to start a relationship. Have fun while you are in college. You don't get that opportunity in your life again. Don't close the door on him, but don't sit waiting around...you'll be kicking yourself in the future.
2007-02-03 09:10:56 · answer #3 · answered by annie41378 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key to any successful relationship, is 'talking, what I think you need to do is confront him, NOT shout at him, just sit him down and tell him how you feel about the whole 'other girls' issue and see what he says and then observe his behavior if he changes for the better go for you... if he doesn't well.. I guess you know the answer to that question...
2007-02-03 09:11:48 · answer #4 · answered by Linger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just trying to be the womanizer that he is....If he really liked you that much, he's be trying to come and visit you. When this happens, if it ever does, then you'll know he likes you. Make him come to you though...not the other way around. Tell him you're not going to wait around for his call either, that you have plans with your friends, just like he does too.
2007-02-03 09:08:34 · answer #5 · answered by babbles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he calls you his "wifey" in the presence of people then I think he has a great love and respect for you. And most importantly, he's thinking seriously of marrying you in the future. Cheers!
2007-02-03 09:11:55 · answer #6 · answered by mykemejeje 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know he could be a good guy but he may not be that is a hard on but if you can't wait for him move on your feelings must not be as strong as you think and your not there to know what he is doing and he may worry you will find a man that you will fall in love with and then he will be out so good luck decideing what you do
2007-02-03 09:08:38 · answer #7 · answered by LOLO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF you kow for a fact that he is dating, don't waste your time on him any longer. Fair is fair.
What's good for the goose is good for the gander.
I would however ask him why he feels a double standard is in order.
2007-02-03 09:09:00 · answer #8 · answered by Deb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a prat! You deserve better. Get shot of him and find someone who wants to respect you and make you feel valuable.
2007-02-03 09:07:54 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Playing games? Yes. Worth it? Only you can judge that one.
2007-02-03 09:08:31 · answer #10 · answered by Winger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋