time i was getting intimate with a lady friend and everything was going well we had been out the whole day doing fun stuff and then we had a really great dinner - anyway she had been very flirty and we were getting on great and both of us had had a bit to drink - well after the meal we were walking towards the taxi rank and she said do you want to come back to mine!!!! i was like woohoo on the inside but playing it cool on the outside so i said something like yeah thatll be nice - and she seem pleased so everything is going brilliant right? anway we got back to hers and we were getting really friendly and "making out" and stuff - tops and fingers etc anyway we retired to her bedroom and we get totally naked and she is looking banging hot and we get into bed and make out some more and then she starts you know "heading south" and shes doing a good when WOOP! she sticks a finger up my stinkhole! yeah she stuck it in the brown - well i was shocked and ran home should i call her again?
2007-02-03 00:46:04 · 19 answers · asked by mr_soapytitwank 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you like her yes but if you dont like what she did then you need to tell her so
2007-02-03 00:50:00 · answer #1 · answered by dee_ann 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dear, it sounds like this is a really miserable situation to be in. You're in high school, and things are complicated. This is to be expected. I think you are right and that he is probably interested in you. I also believe that you do get "butterflies" in your stomach when he is around; this is also to be expected, because being admired by another person tends to give you a wonderfully squirmy feeling. However, it seems to me that pursuing this is not in your best interest at the moment. I know, I know, this is not the answer you were looking for. But it sounds like this whole situation is brimming with drama. In my experience, drama does nothing but make people unhappy, and I would not want to provide advice that led to anybody being unhappy. With that said, I understand that you neither want to betray your friend nor allow her to have this guy that you are also interested in. So here's my suggestion: forget about him. You are only thirteen years old, and it is never worth it to let a relationship get in the way of a friendship. Talk about the issue with your friend, and hopefully you can come to the understanding that one of you will be miserable if the other dates him, and that both of you will be a little sad but overall far better off if neither of you does. Please, dear, don't let infatuation get in the way of friendship. Enough of us have made that mistake. =]
2016-05-23 22:53:30 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy!! Yeah you better call her again! But I wouldn't suggest that you bring that up on the phone with her "Hey, I'm sorry I ran out of your place like that, it kinda freaked me out when you did that whole finger thing, wasn't digging that" Lol. Come up with some lame excuse about why you had to up and out like that, and next time, if ever, you get in bed with her you better be willing to communicate your sexual needs better. That or don't get freaked out if your partner starts doing something you really don't like people. People are easy to distract, if a hand or finger goes some place you don't like, flip her over and start going down on her; that should make her stop :)
2007-02-03 00:58:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, to be honest what you should have done was, said STOP! You are making me uncomfortable with what you are doing with your finger. However, since you had run out on her, you should call her and explain to her how you felt and that you should have told her that her actions were making you uncomfortable rather than having ran out on her.
2007-02-03 00:54:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she's waiting for an explanation so tell her that the last time you're with her, you kind of freaked out when she entered the "no trespassing" zone.
2007-02-03 00:53:15 · answer #5 · answered by Lovie Fish Girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just you could try to talk to her....It seems she knew more about things than you. I guess it would have been nice if she warned you first....Granted there is no easy way to ask if she could stick her hand up your butt and turn you into a puppet...LOL
2007-02-03 00:51:57 · answer #6 · answered by llll_bouncer_llll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes...say sorry that you responded that way, but you ust arent used to it and wasnt expecting it.... see..some guys find that inda thing really a big turn on..and others..like you apparently,,,dont.. and some girls think its a turn on..and others..like me..dont.. so apparently she does... or she thought that you would like it.. tell her that that just isnt your cup up tea but that you really liked her and thought she was really nice and would like to maybe go out again some time
2007-02-03 00:51:04 · answer #7 · answered by lil miss agony 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only if you really like her & can deal with what she did.
Also you need to talk to her about what happened & let her know that she can or can't try that next time.
2007-02-03 00:51:13 · answer #8 · answered by ancestorhorse 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if you like her alot all you can do is be honest, tell her your not into that kind of thing in a polite way (girls are very emotional)
2007-02-03 00:51:41 · answer #9 · answered by foolish_love_haze@yahoo.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have just gone with the flow of things, you might have enjoyed yourself.
Yes, call her and explain why you did what you did.
Good Luck.
2007-02-03 00:50:35 · answer #10 · answered by eyes_of_iceblue 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋