I just started spending time with this wonderful guy a few weeks ago. I asked him where we stood, and right now we're just friends but we spend alot of romantically charged time together alone which is fine, we both got out of serious things recently and want to see how this develops. The problem? We have a bunch of mutual associates, including a chick that has been trying to date him for the past six months, and she's always asking a close friend about our relationship. The close friend has been giving her details. How do I stop this passage of information? I don't know what to tell my friend. She's invited herself on a date with us next friday and I want desperately for her not to show up! It's rude! I don't want to ditch my friend, but she's going to cause problems. What can I do??????!
2007-02-03 00:39:34 · 8 answers · asked by sardonicwit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She just emailed me to tell me he wasn't out last night so he must be seeing other people!!! Unbelievable!! AND I caught her reading my email yesterday. I left it up to run to the bathroom and she was snooping!!
2007-02-03 00:51:06 · update #1
We're all in our 30s! I can't believe this is happening!
2007-02-03 00:51:36 · update #2
Your friend MUST know she is being a third wheel. I would'nt have told her in the first place. If she invited herself then that is just plain rude. Sounds like your worried about being rude. Remember her behavior is Rude, your response or action is being assertive adn having boundaries hich is very healthy. Tell her that she can tag along another time but you two have plans. If someone else does not like it. Ignore them. Don't compete and definitely do not fret over another girl. If this guy really likes you then he would do nothing to disrespect you.
Good Luck!
'-)
2007-02-03 00:44:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all don't telll anybody anything about you two, the romantic times together, the flirting, the anything.`````````
This is a personal thing and should be kept hush hush......
When you start sharing info, it gets repeated, twisted, turned around and messed up.
There is a jealous woman who is lurking in the wings, so zip your lips........
About your friend, go to the phone right now and tell her, she can
find something else to do as she is not invited on your date...You do not need or want a chaperone, end of story. If she flips out so be it... she is not your keeper and if she is that immature, who wants her as a friend.
It makes me wonder if she is spying for the other interested female????????? Watch yourself and say No......
Tell the guy friend that you want to change the time of the date if necessary......
Meet him 2 hours earlier and go and do your thing alone,.
A third in any crowd causes problems and problems will definitely arise.
Your so called friend is two faced and not a real friend, as she certainly would not want to be a 5th wheel if she was a real bud. She is intending to capture his time and attention away from you. You had better put a stop to it right nowl
If you have to tell her he cancelled do so and stop telling her your business.
She sounds more of an acquaintance than a true friend. I don't trust her...
I already have a bad feeling about her.
Don't let her bully you into anything. stand up for yourself and do it now.........
2007-02-03 08:59:32 · answer #2 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like this guy, you should talk to him about how your feeling. I mean what kind of relationship is it if you can't tell each other things without the fear of being judge, just let him know that it bothers you greatly that people are meddling in your guys business and would like him to talk to his friends about it...and if you really don't want your friend to show up randomly tell her that you guys will make plans a day after your date with him and that you like him, and if she is your realy friend that wouldn't cause a problem, if it does then you either have to make the choice of losing a friend or being a nice guy...the choice is yours
2007-02-03 08:45:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ditch your friend and tell her that your personal life is just thats its personal and its on a need to know basis and she don't need to know,tell her that you don't like for her to be discussing your relationship with other people and if she doesn't stop you will lose her for a friend, and stop telling her things she will get the hint.
2007-02-03 08:45:13 · answer #4 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to delete that girl from your personal life.
The date you have on Friday, change plans and do not tell her.
If she is the one running her mouth about your relationship with Mr. wonderful, then you have to make sure she is never close enough to have information to run her mouth about.
2007-02-03 08:47:36 · answer #5 · answered by eyes_of_iceblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if she was a real true friend then you should be able to tell her to keep your privacy and if she doesn't then I'd be looking for a new friend.
2007-02-03 08:44:20 · answer #6 · answered by happy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend to either stay out of your business,or you will smack her so hard,the fillings in her teeth will fly out!!
2007-02-03 08:49:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with her. If she really is your friend she'll understand.
2007-02-03 08:43:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋