I've been seeing my boyfriend just over a year and his "friend" has been jealous right from the start, they fell out over christmas because he couldn't meet up with her, but just before she sent a really horrible email 2 him about me calling me immature and saying I feel threatened by her (which I don't because I've got a nicer personality and I'm better looking) but he said nothing to stick up for me, he knows exactly how I feel about this girl, she's also asked him to move in with her in front of me, told lies about his mam saying I wasn't right for him and last night called him making sarcastic jokes saying "i don't want your c*ck!" which not only is it disgusting but is also childish and implying along the lines of this email, I was friends with her at first but she started acting strange, I have done NOTHING to provoke her, my boyfriend though will not stick up for me at all because he thinks there is nothing in what she is doing, what can I do to make him see?
2007-02-03 00:06:46 · 23 answers · asked by xx_lush_xx 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-02-08 03:10:15 · update #1
If he wont stick up for you then you shouldnt be dating him.
2007-02-08 00:07:49 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend is not sticking up for you then he must either like the fact that you two are at logger heads over him or he likes her and does not want to upset her. I think you need to give him a short sharp shock it won't be easy but if he really cares about you it should work. OK so what do you do well if I was you I would finish with him not all huffy and dramatic just simply explain that your far to mature to be involved in this stupid behaviour and as you don't want to be childish like her and give him an ultimatum you are going to leave him to it until he has sorted himself out as he really in your eyes should not be entertaining someone who is bad mouthing you as you are his girlfriend. Don't as I said make it dramatic just cool and calm show him that although this is really upsetting you you are not going to be pulled down to her level of silly games, I know it is a big risk but if he really cares about you he will do something about it and you will win without showing yourself as childish.
2007-02-07 00:19:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would be really worried about this so called friend.
Why don,t you tell yourself that you don,t feel threatened
and that one day when she grows up she will have a
boyfriend all of her own. She sounds like a very sick
person who has a very funny way of handling a 'friendship'.
Watch your boyfriend though. He will get flattered by this
attention and it will draw a wedge betweeen you. I would
be worried that he is not sticking up for me.
Ask him 'Where do your loyalties lie?. If he can,t answer
dump him.
2007-02-09 03:52:37 · answer #3 · answered by Minxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's with you not her which tells you something he obviously sees her as just a mate. i would just ignore her and hope she gets bored. your the better person for doing so, she's obviously childish and sad. she's just jealous because you have taken over her friends time and he prefers to be with you Rather than with her. Just let her stew, he probably likes the fact he has two women's attention lol don't worry about it and leave her to it. hopefully they'll fall out again and give you some peace.
2007-02-10 00:58:12 · answer #4 · answered by Giggle Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there! A man will never and should never be asked to choose between you and his friends (whoever they may be). That said sometimes it is necessary to highlight the error of his ways (in this case, not displaying any loyalty to you and disregarding your feelings). This is not even about her anymore - it is about you and him and what he is willing to allow her to get away with.
I gave my man the choice between me and her and guess what??? He chose her! She has gone on to poison every single one of his relationships since and I realise that I'm well rid of the spineless wimp who couldn't defend me to his friends. But on giving such an ultimatum you need to be sure that you are willing to follow through. Decide if you really want to be in a relationship with this man if its going to cause you all this trouble. Whatever you do... Do not issue an ultimatum and then back down because it will simply look like you're playing power games & HE will have won it. Its not about power.. remember that. Its about respect and respect is one of the basics that a relationship is built on, along with love and trust.
2007-02-07 04:19:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You look jap, and performance a swatsika on your call Ahh, you already know in WW2 Nazi-Germany and Japan not in any respect coordinated any defense force or political manuevers in the course of the war. They were merely linked with one yet another, no longer a real defense force alliance. They both seen one yet another inferior also.. So, why do you've a swatsika after your jap call?
2016-11-02 05:04:19 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is clearly in love with him and unable to to honest with herself or him or even you. She appears to not have a clue how to conduct herself and seems a little lost too. Don’t hate her, one day you may find yourself in love with someone who doesn’t love you back and then you’ll how the pain she feels. However how she is going about it will cost her his friendship, men can take only just some much bitchiness.
Remove yourself from this and don’t expect him to see it. He loves you and adores her, nothing wrong with that. They only thing you can do is be her contrast. She will tire him out. And he will respect you for not mud slinging with her and admire your restaint and dignity.
2007-02-10 20:17:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am really intrigued as to whether this is just a friend or an ex girlfriend,in every relationship the main ingredients are love and trust and support,your boyfriend should be stood firm and asking his friend what the problem is,if he truly is the one for you then he should of done this straight off and abandoned his friend for good.take a step back and ask yourself is he really the one.
2007-02-10 08:29:00 · answer #8 · answered by the gaffer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is horrible and she seems to be having more than friendly feelings for him to be such a pain...
I can't understand how your man don't stick up to you, whether it's his close friend or what she really shouldn't be acting so rude.
I'd have been really hurt by his & her attitude so i'd have told both of them (not shout) how i feel and if things don't change, i'd be ignoring the girl first... then i'd be having less and less feeling for a man who appreciates such a person...
I can't understand how you don't see his attitude as being really unfair towards you...
2007-02-07 17:08:26 · answer #9 · answered by toupou 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your boyfriend should get rid of her.She is big trouble its obvious
she wants your bloke & sounds as if she will do anything.Keep well clear of her.Sorry if your boyfriend sticks with her then I would dump him.It may bring him to his senses or he might end up with her.You are in a bad situation.Good Luck
2007-02-09 03:54:26 · answer #10 · answered by Ollie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds really poisonous!!! i'd have as little to do with her as possible. as your boyfriend is oblivious to what she's doing i think you should be as blase about it as you can. when she makes sarcastic jokes like that say 'that's good because i want it all' in a sexy way and kiss his neck that sort of thing.
rise above her and be dignified. if you're all calm about it and she's going over the top with her comments and stuff he's got to see what she's doing. if he doesn't and can't be loyal to you start asking yourself if he's worth it.
don't let her drag you down to her level! they've fallen out once maybe they'll do it again x
2007-02-04 11:10:27 · answer #11 · answered by aria 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋