is being ugly a bad thing?

Question

is being 'ugly' such a bad thing? arnt they usually the nicer people and shouldnt people get to know u by your personality not looks? i no sum1 not many people would call pretty but shes reli nice

Answer 1

Take the makeup off of the pretty ones and they look like smashed asss holes! LOL

Answer 2

No, I don't think it's such a bad thing the same way being pretty is not totally a great thing. Looks mature with age and will wither away, unlike personality.

If you're really pretty, and get throngs of guys going after you for your looks, you'll have a harder time selecting Mr Right and your true friends too.

I always believe that "everyone is beautiful in their own way".

Answer 3

There is something beautiful in every single person on earth, from mob bosses to drug dealers to monks.

In terms of looks, sometimes "ugly" is actually transcendingly beautiful, like a rugged man who has lived in harsh condition for fifty years and has beautiful wrinkles and eyes. The wrinkles of character and time.

Theres no rules about ugly or beautiful (conventionally I mean) being the nicer. Some good looking people are bitchy, some not at all good looking people are bitchy. Some good looking people are great. Some not so good looking people are great.

It is an old cliche of thought that uglier people "make up for it in personality". I think the only truth to this is that if you don't get what you want with the opposite sex on the simple basis of your looks then you actually have to be pleasant to get their attention.

Some people that aren't good looking can be unpleasant because they're lives are hard and there is bitterness. For instance someone who is very overweight might make snide remarks about skinny people out of jealousy.

Also it is a fact that the better looking and happier a person is the better a stranger treats them. "Ugly" people I think have a rough time in ordinary situations like at the store because people often unconsciously just pay them no attention or are even unpleasant.

In terms of dating, I think you should start with a spark of attraction whatever that may be. Maybe you admire their intellect, maybe you think their hot, maybe you like their laugh, whatever...but you have to be attracted to them. And by that I mean all round including physical.

Having said all that the fact is that we only exist for a split second at any one time. We are moving, we are flashing. Someone who may not look so good standing still might dazzle you with a smile as you are talking and their inner beauty might shine through. Know what I mean?

Anyway this is an interesting question. I think a lot of people get burnt because they choose someone who they haven't gotten to know for their looks, and they are totally wrong together, and the whole thing is a mess.

People have to get to know you by both personality and looks I think. I mean who wants someone who falls for them on the internet and sees them and changes or vice versa, sees them and then after a while decides to reject them because of their personality. People should like everything about you.

Answer 4

I can only answer that if I have a good defination of ugly.

Is person who had their face disfigured in an accident ugly?

What about a person born with some defect?

Ugly (like beauty) is a matter of personal taste, while you may look at a person and say "She's ugly." I may look at the same person and say "That's my ex-wife." (OK, a bit of humor, but you get the point)

Who is uglier? The deformed old man who sits in the park all day feeding birds and talking to people wtih humor and understanding, or the beautiful looking starlett who back-stabs friends and strangers to get a role in a production?

Answer 5

If ever you get the chance, watch the movie Mask (with Cher - not the other one); it's about a young man born with a dreadful facial deformity who is - as his mother puts it - 'more beautiful on the inside' - and he really, truly is. Personally I think you have to work hard at being ugly - and by working hard I mean adopting some of the characteristics of Jade Goody and her ilk. Interesting that a beauty queen was also part of the bunch of racists exposed on CBB ... and all you ever saw of her was that she was twiddling with her appearance and egging the Goody clan on.

I honestly think that beauty really does come from your personality - especially as you get older, and you get smile lines instead of frown lines and you look interested in other people and fun to be with. So your friend shouldn't worry if she's not conventionally pretty (I can see that you don't, bless you heart) and she'll get to be 'more beautiful on the inside' too - and that'll last a lifetime.

Answer 6

Sadly, attractiveness is often what gets people to go farther in life. I heard a statistic somewhere saying that attractive people earn more than ugly people. Also, I have an aunt, a true Ugly Betty in her own right, who's never, ever gone on a date — and she's 50!

Answer 7

Well unfortunately some people are evil and cruel and no ugly is not a bad thing except when people use bad language...Now a days alot of people base it on how you look including employers, its like if you don't look good enough they don't hire you, and it shouldn't matter how you look it should matter on how well you do the job..I don't base things on how people look , because i personally don't care about that, we are all people..

Answer 8

A person should get to know a person before they judge their looks. Because people who are really pretty are not always the nicest people. I don't think it matters what a person looks like it matters inside. A persons personality is more important than their looks.

Answer 9

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. A little corny, but think about it. It's true. There is outside beauty and inside beauty. I think what's on the inside matters the most.

Answer 10

Take someone like JLO. 10 guys might think she is hot. Ask another 10 and they may say she is not. Looks are very trivial. Don't get caught up in it.