For the first 2 1/2 years of his life, my son was the absolute perfect baby and child. He did naughty things, don't get me wrong, and he has always been ultra-curious, but when we said "No", he understood, and stopped. I took him to every one of my OB appts. when I was pregnant, he was angel, the entire staff commented on how rare it was that a 2 year old behave so well. He would also never, ever go to anybody he didn't know well, i.e.: doctors, the grandparents who live out of town. Now, however, he is a different child. He will go to anybody, talk to anybody. He is so naughty at home, that I am at my wit's end sometimes. He is rude and obstinate. Now, I understand, that these behaviors are typical of 2 year olds, but not mine, at least up until 6 months ago. Which leads me to believe that having a new sibling has caused this. He is never naughty to the baby, and always gentle, he seems to love her very much. Any thoughts? Helpful hints? Thanks!
2007-02-02 23:35:18 · 8 answers · asked by Sarah L 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Hi
That's a bit of a bugger - I sympathise.
What seems to be happening here is a simple case of seeking attention. Toddler now has to SHARE Mum with bubs, and that's a huge change for him. You'll find that the behaviour will begin to settle down, but you'll find the best thing to do would be to involve him in caring for the baby and helping around the house as much as possible. Little boys need to feel needed, and if they don't feel useful, then they'll try and get attention any ole way. Expecting him to occupy himself when you're busy with the new baby wont work simply because he's used to being included in the action. They LIKE being with you at this age, so make use of it!
The thing is that he DOES love his little sister and doesn't necessarily see her as the threat. He sees the behaviour change in YOU as threatening, and so is reacting to that. Toddlers are very reactionary creatures, they still don't have control of their emotions, so this is his outlet.
Try little techniques such as getting him to help change the baby's nappy (please pass me the...). If he is near the baby, don't stop him touching or playing ("careful...", or "don't touch") - they see that as interference, not assistance. So try and make him feel useful. It might make some tasks a lots longer than usual, but it'll pay off.
Also, if you can manage it, have a special dedicated play time with him. When bubs is asleep, say "OK, lets have OUR special play time" and suggest some activities (children need suggestions - by doing so, you'll make life easier as you can then plan for them). You might be pretty knackered and just want to rest, so suggest quiet, but interesting activities, where you can fit in the cup of coffee and sit down too (like finger painting, playdoh and drawing/colouring).
Hope that's helpful, good luck with it all.
2007-02-03 00:00:12 · answer #1 · answered by pope_penka_ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is also 2 1/2 years older than his younger brother.
There is a definite change in personality when another child comes into the picture, especially when they were the only child up to then.
The thing that really helped me was to involve my oldest son in everything to do with the new baby. I told him every day that I loved him and that he was a big brother now and I needed all his help.
He helped me with all the little things like fetching the baby's nappies, passing the soap when I was bathing the baby, bringing the baby's bottle etc.
He was soon very involved in his brother's life and since than they are inseparable. They are now aged 7 and 5 and best friends.
I had to make my son understand a couple of times that because he is the older brother, the younger brother learns from him, and when he is naughty he is teaching his younger sibling to be naughty too, and that is wrong.
Try it - It worked for me....Good Luck
2007-02-03 00:10:59 · answer #2 · answered by Juanita L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's looking for a bit of attention & has found that he gets it in large amounts from you when he is naughty. He is missing the full focus of attention he had prior to the baby. Ignore him when his behaviour is not the best & really pay attention to the great things he does, that way he'll realise he has to change his tactics if he wants to get your attention. Don't worry it all sounds completely normal & i've tried & tested this with my own son (who sounds so much like yours) & it works. Try & spend some regular 1 on 1 time with him as well just reading, chatting or playing some games.
2007-02-02 23:47:11 · answer #3 · answered by Mishell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be sibling jealousy It was all about him 6 months ago now he has to share you with the baby, also he has had to deal with all of your family and friends excitement over the new baby and not him. But it could be the terrible two's just catching up with you. My daughter is four and she just started being a little jealous of the baby. So we have to set aside "Cameron time" and do things just with her to make her feel special! Good luck
2007-02-02 23:46:46 · answer #4 · answered by Ria H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is probably jealous of your attention to sis.
Also it happens at 2+ . Is the right time for Pre School. I have a friend who has same. I asked her to pay more attention to son. Try it. Give him lots of quality time and hugs.
It is difficult; but do try. The second one still does not know how much time she requires from you, yet.
Wish you best.
2007-02-02 23:43:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some of the changes will be because he is now in the "terrible two's" but yes some will also be because he now no longer has your undivded attention. He has to share you. Try to have one on one "Special Time" just you and him and see if that helps.
Good Luck
2007-02-02 23:49:35 · answer #6 · answered by cailieco 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are Not understanding the Bible. In Gen. it tells us that Jesus got to be the Christ because he was the only angel that had Never sinned! I have gone through my New Testament and counted over 550 places that state that Jesus is Not God! Like where Jesus said: Why do you call me "good"? I am Not good. Only God is good.". "how God anointed Jesus of Nazareth with the Holy Spirit and power, and how he went around doing good and healing all who were under the power of the devil, because God was WITH him." "...You have never heard his voice nor seen his form,...". "For the very work that the Father has given me to finish, and which i am doing, testifies that the Father has sent me." It is best to obey the Bible, not lazy people personal wants and desires.
2016-03-29 02:46:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope hes just a normal 2 year old. If it was because of his sister you would be telling us he was whiny and clingly.
2007-02-03 08:51:45 · answer #8 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋