I've known this guy for some time and he's really great. It's rather complicated but he suggested we have sex, which is... I don't know what to think about it. I fairly sure he's not interested in anything romantic, but I was hoping. I just don't want to ruin our friendship and a potentially good relationship (if he was interested) with casual sex.
Not sure if this bit matters, but I'm a virgin. So. huh.
2007-02-02 23:27:43 · 32 answers · asked by blitzkreigbop 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you have to ask if you should have sex...the answer is NO; regardless of your virginity. Don't waste your virginity on someone who will not appreciate it. He needs to love you as much as you love him.
2007-02-03 00:10:49 · answer #1 · answered by A J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok... This one's easy...
DON'T DO IT!!!!
You're going to regret it for the rest of your life!
There's nothing more special than your first time being done with the one you're going to spend your life with...
It's all for the wrong reasons! This guy is sick to want to take your virginity just for casual sex. He doesn't care about you at all if he's even suggesting it... It all seems like a scam to me.. "Befriend her, make her feel wanted and loved, make it seem like she's the only one in the world for me, then when she trusts me fully I'll suggest sex and she won't resist!"
And *BAM* he scores!!!! Got exactly what he wanted, so now it's time for him to move on and find a new target... But as long as you're "on the side" for when it doesn't work out with others, it's fine with him!!!
If you want to have sex with him, then rather wait until you know for sure that's it's going to blossom into a wonderful long long long term relationship. Don't throw away something as sacred as your virginity just because he suggested it... That's sad...
What happened to that will power??? You made it thus far, so there's no harm in waiting a little longer just so you know it's right!
2007-02-02 23:50:51 · answer #2 · answered by *Flutter* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not! You do not have sex just because someone suggests it. He obviously has little or no respect for you as a lady and if there is no romantic feelings for you on his part, he only wants to use you. If he does feel for you, and you'd have to be sure he wasn't just telling you that for obvious reasons, he would not suggest it. It would have been a moment shared by you and him and it would have lead to more on it's own. You are a prize and a respectable young lady. Not too many of them around! Don't give that away to just anybody! Wait! I promise love will arrive and it will be right on time! Don't disrespect yourself because someone else does. Enjoy yourself and don't be in a hurry. If he is a good man, and he truly cares for you, he'll still be there when you are ready to suggest it later on down the road. Be strong! You're Special!
2007-02-02 23:36:57 · answer #3 · answered by enjoyrselves 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say don't have sex with him yet, because if you are not sure of this guy's intentions you are likely to get hurt in the situation especially if you have feelings for him. Secondly, you are a virgin, and I think that the first time is kinda important, or at least you are going to be more sensitive to your situation the first time. You might wanna ask him how he feels about you and if he's looking for more than just sex. If it's just sex, you probably shouldn't because you already said you didn't want to ruin your friendship with this guy over sex.
2007-02-02 23:57:40 · answer #4 · answered by emsss 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah, don't have sex with him. Don't give in, if you do he will get bored & leave you. Make him chase you, avoid topics about sex, and if he brings up the subject - CHANGE IT. Eventually time will pass, if he dumps you because you didnt give him sex, that means that he is not a friend & just wants your pus$y.
But If he stays, you will see he is worth it, perhaps you will learn more about him by waiting to have sex. And when you finally DO have sex with him - He will respect your dignity and think of you as golden treasure :) ( And you might have a relationship )
Good Luck. MAKE THE BA$TARD CHASE YOU :D
2007-02-02 23:36:44 · answer #5 · answered by babycake 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no.
don't go having sex with someone because you think you may lose the relationship if you don't!!!!
you've already stated that you don't think he's interested in a romantic relationship, so you also know where things will lead; nowhere!
wait at least for a relationship to be a steady one and long term; where you know where you stand and that it's what YOU want.
stay strong in what you want.
2007-02-03 00:03:47 · answer #6 · answered by noodle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No,no,no,do not have sex with this man!For a start,you aren't 100% sure,which indicates that you aren't ready,secondly,why would you want to waste your virginity on someone that isn't interested in anything romantic? Save it for someone who cares,you can only loose it once,make it count!
2007-02-02 23:37:01 · answer #7 · answered by New Boots. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait... learn to know him because for a girl feelings are very important... if you`re sure to have a serious relationship with him but i suggest you to wait till your marriage because sex is a very personal thing.... don`t lose you`re virginity for someone you`ll leave you because you are precious....I suggest you to anlyse deeply, think thoroughly and then act unblindly....
2007-02-02 23:33:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you KNOW this is going to be awkward around him after. even coming home from a dance and grinding with close friends the next day its like uh.......righhhttt...
.wait till someone who loves you and you truely love. the first time should be special, not just with some guy who wants it. hes using the "as friends" to make you feel bad if you say no, and using it to make you feel more obligate.d do what you please, but know that the first time is nothing like any others. be safe.
2007-02-02 23:34:16 · answer #9 · answered by CoolBeanz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he really wants you, he can wait to have sex. from what i read, you are not ready for such a big thing yet. dont let him change that until you know for sure, that he is the one you want to lose your virginity to. give it some time to see how he reacts. if he changes, you know that he was not the one that should take your virginity.
2007-02-03 00:30:37 · answer #10 · answered by young grown man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋